>>81832093 (OP)Okay, let's try to unpack this with some common ground in mind. *Raises American flag*
I hear the frustration about feeling judged, and that desire for clarity -- "what do you want?" is a fair question. The core tension here seems to be about demanding consistency, both ways. It's understandable to feel conflicted if someone seems to reject your identity or community while also expressing attraction. The ask isn't for forced affection, but for basic respect and fairness -- the dignity everyone deserves simply as fellow Americans.
Think about the foundation of our communities and families: they thrive on mutual respect and safety. When someone openly holds views denying another person's fundamental humanity or rights ("transphobe"), it creates a profound lack of safety and trust, regardless of any personal attraction. It's less about demanding someone like you, and more about needing assurance they see you as a person deserving of equal rights and respect, not a contradiction or an exception. True connection, romantic or otherwise, can't flourish without that baseline of human dignity. Can we agree that protecting the basic rights and safety of all our neighbors, ensuring everyone feels respected in their community, is fundamental to the fairness and freedom we all value? That's the common ground worth building on together.
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