Everytime my mom and brother are at home (primarily my mother) I feel suffocated and paralyzed. I cannot act and just dissociate all the time. I don't act. When they're gone for the day though and I have the house all for myself I turn into the most productive human on the planet. I get assignments done, I clean the house, I exercise, I purise my hobbies. I feel great.
why is it like this?

i have the same problem especially with my mother. i wake up late in the day just because anytime i hear them walking around the house it paralyzes me another 30 minutes. it seriously sucks
ritalin has helped me in part, in that it allows me to at least be productive while it's in effect once i do get smth that locks me into it, but beyond that it's very tough
i almost never dare to leave my room just because of them, because i feel like if i do anything at all that could stand out (even if its positive) then i will be judged, idk
i want to move out, but doing so also requires said executive power
i wish i had a solution for you but i'm still looking for one myself...