how do you talk to people without having any interests this feels like the ultimate nerf. i cant even dm my few friends online because what are we going to talk about i have nothing to add

>>81866650 (OP)
if there's nothing interesting about you, then you can weaponize it
ask them about their interests and some recommendations because you're feeling a bit bored. please don't give up anon! and there's surely something interesting about you!

>>81866693
thank you so much anon im sometimes a bit socially stupid but im going to try this

>>81866801
no prob anon. if they're really trying to be your friends, there will be no problem. some people just want friends for them to jestermax, you know? so you're gonna filter those right away

You don't have to force yourself to be interesting anon. People online are generally lonely so just the company you bring to another is going to be more than enough as long as you don't use hanging out as a pretext to traumadooooomp. Don't traumadooooooooooooomp

>>81866853
me and my friends used to joke about people trauma dumping in public discord servers when we barely knew them i think we're good lol

and thank you for the advice i always thought i had to bring something besides myself to convos so it kinda fixed my retarded mindset

>>81866650 (OP)
try to get into the interests ur frens are into so that u can talk about them together! or i dunno, talk about the latest thing you did/watched or something like that.

>>81866650 (OP)
How did you make your friends in the first place? What did you bond over?

>>81867028
id join public discords of people who made art i liked and id talk in there for a bit... its hard to explain what types of servers i usually hang out in because i don't hang out in a lot

>>81867185
not that anon but public discords are not really good places to make friends, unless they're rather small, people are not trying to actively meet people in those

>>81866650 (OP)
Do you struggle with avoidance?

>>81867185
Do you do any activities with your friends or do you just talk? Have you considered gaming with friends? It could become a shared interest

>>81867235
>Do you struggle with avoidance?
yes it's been pretty bad i left said discord server and the internet for a few months because of it, including nuking my social media, even dming people became scary for a while. i posted this only now really getting back into contact with some of the people.

not venting though im getting it checked out with a therapist and its been a bit better for me

>>81867327
You kind of sound like someone I know. Is your Discord profile pic a rabbit?

>>81867348
sorry i dont think my pfp has ever been a rabbit lol

this kind of thread reminds me of the many, many times people (often girls) post contact just to ghost people days later

>>81867410
would your mind be blown if i told you i was a boy and the friends im talking about are like all girls

>>81867398
Oh, I thought maybe I bumped into this person I've been trying to get in contact with but idk if that's helpful. Maybe I should just wait until she gets back to me. However, I'm worried she'll assume I don't want to talk to her anymore if I do nothing. She's pretty anxious avoidant and you sounded kind of similar to her. Just to be sure though, does your name start with an H and do you know someone whose name starts with a P?

>>81867447
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