Ok, I'm outside... now what?
>talk to strangers
Fuck. No. I remember every single time i tried that and it's so fucking cringe
>go to clubs
They usually cost money and theres only old people there, it's useless
>go to parks, cafes and social events
People there are just minding their own businesses. Social events are too crowded sometimes and you will only have superficial quick ice breakers if youre lucky, it's useless
>volunteer
I'm not fucking working for free just to talk to people, that's rock bottom
>go to the gym
Again, people there are minding their own businesses, it's fucking useless

How the FUCK do you meet new people? College or university would be great if i knew how to make friends, and it's fucking impossible to learn how to make friends
Best i can do is ask random girls for directions to places I alredy know like a fucking retard

>>81867926 (OP)
>Fuck. No. I remember every single time i tried that and it's so fucking cringe
its unironically over for you if you cant just have a conversation with some random old dude on the streets

"Go outside" and "be yourself" and "take a shower" are just things people say to end an uncomfortable conversation.

>>81867926 (OP)
volunteering is your best option. volunteer for a cause thats important to you. i volunteer at a church's food bank and its barely work. the good part for your social needs is that everybody there is at least decent.

>>81867926 (OP)
I think bouldering is the best place to meet new people naturally. It's really hard physically, but once you start cementing yourself in a certain club, people will start recognizing you and being more trusting to your presence, and from there you can talk to other people, probably about bouldering. it's easy to talk to people if you both have a common goal, such as maybe solving one of the climbs. Sorta expensive though. I recommend it. If i didn't have other physical hobbies bouldering would probs be my main thing.

>>81867926 (OP)
Work? You have to talk with your co workers to some extent.

>>81867926 (OP)
It's easy once you're outside, you just meet people and branch out into areas and a lifestyle that suits your interests. There are literally billions of people who think "its so fucking cringemaxx XDDD" and they would become your friends over time.

>>81867952
Add "I love you" to the list.

>>81868251
>being a regular literally anywhere is the best place to meet new people naturally
even boulderers find girlfriends naturally

discord servers
the problem is you wind up with no local friends but shikata ga nai

>>81868996
being a regular at most places in my experience is not as helpful for making friends at a bouldering gym. bouldering's nature is a lot more social than a regular gym, in my experience.

>>81869057
depends on if you take classes and use free weights at a regular gym i guess. my point is that it can literally be anything. some of my friends say its coffee, some of my friends say it's glassworks, some say sports, some say biking, it's over.

>>81867926 (OP)
litearlly same i ahvent talked to anyone in yaers inever really had friends but it sfowrse now i didnt even say helblo to anyone in aboitu 3 years its terrible and idk how to do anything oh my goddddddd

>>81867926 (OP)
Yeah I never know what people mean. People are pretty much always just minding their own business on their phones and shit. If a stranger came up to talk to me for no reason, I would assume they are batshit crazy and would do that thing where you kind of try to get people to go away as quickly as possible without explicitly tell them to fuck off. But people hardly ever do that.

Why do I, the introvert always have to be the one that initiates conversation? Why can't the extrovert normies start a conversation with me if they have such good social skills? They never do, btw. Clearly I'm not worth talking to so why bother

>>81869081
that sounds like the opposite of over. that sounds like there's plenty of choices depending on your interests for meeting people.

>>81867926 (OP)
Hobbies.
I've been total introvert made buddies with table top players in circles I've rotated.
That's how men bond. Over mutual and competitive activity they have passion for.

"Go to cafe" is female coded.

>>81868251
>>81869937
Bouldering has gaming a d competition aspect, this what draws men.
Gym where people build muscles and burn calories is largely chore coded, people here not for love but for necessity.
Of course your yourself need to have at least some love for thing your are joining.

>>81869972
>Gym where people build muscles and burn calories is largely chore coded
Not true. Maybe that's been your personal experience

>>81867926 (OP)
every piece of boomer "just be social bro lmao" advice comes with the implication that you live in a high-trust society and social media doesnt exist
its the social equivalent of "just walk in, hand in your resume, give the boss a firm handshake, and youll be hired"

>>81869982
I said largely, yes there are people there because of passion, but for large chunk of users it's a second job.

>>81870031
>but for large chunk of users it's a second job.
Most people are normies that give up when faced with difficulty, so yes, I can imagine it is like that for them.

For people that get past the noobie stage, it's an inherently healthy and pleasant activity.