Have you given up on finding "the one" yet?
Women have a dozen different guys on rotation at once while most men are either strung along or ignored.
I see too many men here that end up alone and unwanted, too many guys that have barely even talked to women, while the majority of women seem to have a ton of options and at least one or two men they're really interested in at any given time.
Is it even possible to find a woman that doesn't talk to a ton of guys anymore?

i mean you're posting this on a board full of dudes who gave up, so yeah

>>81870234
Where do you even go besides here? It feels like there's nowhere left to meet anyone off the opposite sex without being ridiculed or having to be a simp.

I'm not the most desirable guy by a long shot but I refuse to simp for women or chase them. Most men are too desperate

>>81870223 (OP)
yes i've given up. i had sex in high school with hot high schools girls ranging from loli body types to greek goddesses, it was good while it lasted but adult woman are generally mean and retarded so i just avoid them, i'm not opposed to the idea but most adult woman seem to be mentally regressed versions of their high school selves. by that i mean that they have less passions and unique interests and more standard opinions, it's like 80% chose to get a labotomy that took out the cools aspects of them. tbf this is also true of many guys

>>81870247
1. get the fuck off this board, don't even think of having a blackpill mentality anymore. you have to be somewhat bluepilled to score a gf.
2. realize that it doesn't matter if your wife settles with you, it is way more biologically important to have kids and pass off your offspring that should be your #1 goal
3. focus on your physical and mental health before even attempting to date, never view dating women as a catch-all fix to make your life better
4. don't ever appear desperate, never pine for a woman's attention, make her feel like she is lucky to even be talking to you. try going for an insecure or nerdy girl. A fat/chubby girl is probably your best bet

This is the only way you'll be able to not die alone and pass off your genes, ignore me and i guarantee in 20 years you'll wonder why you never listened to that one basketweaving forum user

>>81870508
How do you approach a girl youre pretty sure wants you, a few weeks ago a cute girl was looking at me while we were sitting a few meters apart on a bus, i knew she was probably interested but pussied out

>>81870223 (OP)
Yeah and id literally buttfuck them if itncame tobit look at me

>>81870223 (OP)
You can tell me whatever youbwant i was man enough to defeat your bf in unarmed combat at 15yp youre a fucking faggot kill yourself

>>81870223 (OP)
Ive never been an incel by any means, i had plenty of gfs and fucked plenty of people, but since some years ago i noticed a shift in women my age attitude, its just tiresome to talk to them and you never get anything good from them, its like they have been so simped up they normalised being horrible human beings and still get free prizes, so they expect princess treatment from talking to you like you were garbage. Years ago it wasnt like this. Lately ive been fucking people around their 20s and, sure, they are brats and brainrotted by tiktok but they are so much comfortable to talk with, i always thought that women went for older men because of money, but that hasnt been my experience, they like to chill with people and have sex, thats it, no political drama or bullshit feminism rants. No wonder older men go for the youngest they can, its not just that they are hotter, but they are also more friendly and way less damaged. Idk man, i always wanted to raise a loving family but i know thats impossible, so im rolling with it and fucking everything that moves. Tomorrow is another day.

>>81870223 (OP)
I think so. The only time I found a woman who could be considered "the one," with her into me and having a lot of rare things in common, I didn't have romantic feelings for her. Don't know why, probably due to my actual attraction being lacking or our personalities being so different.
I don't know what I can DO to find the one besides casually go through life while taking a bit more opportunities to strike up conversations with cute girls and such.

>>81870223 (OP)
I've been asked out twice in my life but turned down both times and have never been in a relationship or had sex. I've become so comfortable alone and introverted I couldn't imagine being in a relationship without going insane.

>>81870223 (OP)
I had the one but I had no right having her so I know the next one will be shit in comparison. I don't care anymore. I'm over her romantically but I got the male version of being chad widowed. Also being older makes you care much less.

>>81870477
>i had sex in high school with hot high schools girls
Failed normies are repulsive. All the resentment of khhv incels, none of the secret hope or wounded pathos

I am a subhuman and I hate life. I have given up on everything.

>>81870223 (OP)
nevermind The One, I'm still trying to find The First. In just over a year I'll be thirty, I'll probably have lost the little hope I have left by then

>>81870223 (OP)
>given up
can't give up on something you never strived for in the first place

like sure having a gf is nice, and i can get one - but do i *actually* want one?

>>81870223 (OP)
>Women have a dozen different guys on rotation at once
Where??

I haven't give up, though... I wanna find someone from here. Might be possible.

>>81870876
>Where??
almost every male friend they have or just walking outside

largely yes
>i watched everyone of my peers seemingly get married, even the most awkward ones. it made me wonder what's wrong with me to never be considered
>all my former friends are married and have kids now while i haven't held a woman's hand by comparison
>thought things would happen by chance over the years if i just went about life normally
>thought it would happen through work, uni friends, etc
>neverhappened.jpg
>friend groups disappeared as they all became busy with their own families and i found myself unable to relate to them any longer as much (different life stages)
>i'm never even considered an option to the women

only hope
>develop a crush on a girl coworker at work that i work on a crew with for 4 years
>she's tomboyish and easy to relate to, cheery disposition
>she told me we vibe and similar
>we became "good friends"
>i know she's not dating anyone - though know she has a few guys on her backstring (former long-term boyfriend from late high school/early college, air force pilot guy she hopes for (but where he's stationed prevents), nfl prospect guy (think that ended).
>don't know if she ever once considered me
>do stuff with her, but it's usually as a group of 3
>do some stuff with her solo, it's always fun
>become infatuated with her in my mind
>she never hints at wanting anything more
>realize i firmly fell into friendzone for her
>made more awkward as there's another coworker she/i are friends with - that one has a thing for me - i just don't vibe with her relationship-wise (different values, incompatibilities)
>rarely text her solo anymore - something changed in 2023
>most individual texts/dms are just sharing tiktoks or memes
>communications largely relegated to a group chat now
>she no longer is on my crew (different position)
>slowly lose infatuation until around her again
>silently hope she'll eventually see me as an option
>never push it as I don't want to make things awkward
>i think i am too nerdy for her or boring
>stuck in limbo

>>81871099
>that one has a thing for me
Why not go for her, then?

>>81871152

i considered it

she definitely is not compatible with me though. there's some fundamental value differences there. i was willing to look past stuff like political differences and things, but this extends beyond that. i feel i have to walk on eggshells around her. she turns everything into a little bickering session - which is impressive as it's usually difficult to get me to bicker/argue. she's mentally unwell which is why she probably gravitates toward me as i'm relatively open-minded and understanding. she's too anxious for me. i don't need a feedback loop for my anxiety and self-consciousness.

the big thing is she seemingly lacks emotional intelligence. She's incredibly hypersensitive. She'll say hurtful things or subtly berate you dismissively, and if you dare respond you become the villain. There's a difference in the teasing between the two girls, and that became apparent over some prolonged interactions with the two. There was an event a couple months ago that kind of sealed it in my mind. The girl I have a crush on will always say things with nuance or at least not be dismissive. This other girl is utterly dismissive and narrow minded. I just don't know if my infatuation has warped my perception though.

even the girl I have a crush on has commented on many of the girl's issues. she feels she has to be somewhat guarded on what she says around her. i want a successful relationship. i don't want to enter into something that i know will not work.

>>81871209
Some people just think because you're alone as a guy you should have no standards or self respect. Pass

i don't think i can ever have a relationship with a woman because i missed all my developmental milestones.

>>81870223 (OP)
>Have you given up on finding "the one" yet?
I'm still incel in my late 30s. Of course I gave up.
At this point, I just want 'my turn'. To actually have an unpaid fuck.
>Is it even possible to find a woman that doesn't talk to a ton of guys anymore?
That's a needle in a haystack.

>>81871235
i don't want to date a nonvirgin woman. knowing that a woman has been fucked by a guy makes me lose all sexual attraction for her. really all that matters to me is the first time. i can't imagine a relationship will ever be more meaningful than the first time. women delude themselves with all those glib "love is a CHOICE! an OBLIGATION!" truisms but I think it's true. I will never love anyone more than my first. After that relationships are trivial. Everything has been explored.

>>81870508
This would have been good advice in 2005. It is 2025 grandpa, fat girls are in high demand and only select chads. None of this game shit will work

>>81870223 (OP)
>Is it even possible to find a woman that doesn't talk to a ton of guys anymore?

Just do it back. Talk to a bunch of women.

>>81870223 (OP)
I was literally shagging my black wife like this last night. Don't give up lads.

>>81872512
Do you have brain damage? That is not possible. It is the equivalent of saying why not just give yourself one million dollars?

>>81870784
Op here. Same. I can't imagine ever being actually loved

>>81871435
And then what? Let's say you get that and they fuck you, what then? After those few hours are up you're back to a lonely unwanted life

i cannot look like the man in that image. i'm short, lack a v taper, wide hips, narrow shoulders, have a gross hunched back and thinning hair., a skinny fat ponch that won't go away even if i literally starve myself. why bother if i can't be her fantasy? is there any way to know if attraction is real and i'm not just being taken on a pity date or sapped of cash (which women have more of nowadays so even this concession grows more improbable each passing year). is this why gender studies became popular? some reckoning that a majority of the population is fat, gross, and will never, no matter how hard they try, ever live up to the expectations placed on them when it comes to proper "performance" of their gender? when it comes to the view of society, at least, i am male but incapable of ever being a man.

>>81872690
Are you white? If so you can't be an incel or unloved. Skill issue

>>81870508
I am OP from 20 years into the future!
this shit didn't work.

>>81872717
i'm short, have narrows shoulders, long legs, and wide hips. fat goes to my legs and lower stomach. i look like a hairy girl. my rib cage flares out to. i first noticed it when i was 13 and all the other boys became taller and wider than me. it's like i stopped developing when i was 12. truly the runt of the litter

>>81872717
also i won't let a woman have sex with me until i become normal. all that will happen is that i'll disappoint then she'll gossip with her friends about how weird i look. they'll laugh at me. my purity and privacy are all i have left

>>81872563
Well the hope is that I do enough to keep them coming back for more.
No, I'm not looking for supermodels. I'd be very happy with giving creampies to a post-fertile MILF/GILF.
Anything to spare me any 'dating' horseshit.

>>81870508
Fat women can get a Tyrone nowadays and if she has big tits or a fat ass she is desirable for short term flings.

Nowadays it's over

>>81870783
Most normies that talk about fucking were fucking 4s and 5s, maybe a 6 here and there.

>>81870223 (OP)
Yup. I'm 34 and the last time I actually crushed on someone was 6 years ago. These days I just think "oh she's cute" and do nothing. Whenever I happen to talk to a girl in this category she already has a bf.
>too many guys that have barely even talked to women
I work with mostly women and talk to them no problem. Girls love me as long as it's friendship. The life of a manlet.

>>81870223 (OP)
>I see too many men here
Not for long most of the WILL troon out and start posting as foids. Incel to troon pipeline is reap btw

>>81872488

You can always date a muslim or super religious woman but something tells me you wouldn't want to wait until marriage for sex either.

>>81870223 (OP)
>Have you given up on finding "the one" yet?
Giving up implies I did something, but I never even bothered. Was too shy in my teens, too much of a failure in my early 20s and now when I've finally made it at 30, most women my age are roasties and have visibly aged a lot more shittily than me. And they want things I'll never want, like marriage, kids and using me as a provider. Meanwhile I'd still like the same carefree, teenage/early 20s kind of relationship but now I know I obviously can't get that anymore, not that I ever had much of a chance.
And yea, I'm still kinda scared of women and don't see any good reason why I'd want to fight that fear. I have almost nothing in common with 99% of women. I'd like to cuddle with and fuck the top 10% of them but the reality is a relationship simply wouldn't work, because of how intellectually boring most women are. Basically, I was never actually desperate and I've always found copes like masturbation and hobbies to keep my mind off of this crap. And the older I get, the less I have to cope as it becomes more and more clear to me that I'm mostly avoiding trouble and not missing out on much.

>>81870223 (OP)
No. I know there's invisible loner girls on the internet. It's not my priority to find love but I still dream of finding someone I'm compatible with.

>>81874012
Yes how the fuck do you find these longer girls, most of them are picky as hell too.
The irony is that once they give you a chance they're more likely to open up to other guys too especially if you're nothing special

>>81870477
>by that i mean that they have less passions and unique interests and more standard opinions
I actually have a friend that started dating with the intention of finding "the one" and he said this. Literally every girl he meets is an NPC drone with no interests, while he is moneymaxxed, hobbymaxxed, careermaxxed, well educated etc. There's no incentive for women to self improve, they can just get a top tier guy with all his stats maxxed out and laze all day at home taking care of their children, eating slop and watching slop.

I lie to myself and say I have but I haven't. Haven't had a legit crush in years, haven't even had the opportunity to really meet women my age since college, and I'm turning 30 in a little over a week. I have no idea where I'd even meet a woman. I just go to the gym, work and home. Even when I try and leave my comfort zone and go out there aren't opportunities to meet new people. Did go on my first date in years early this year but nothing came from it.

>>81873364
Why would a religious woman date a non religious man? She's probabaly already paired off at her church as well, which have a surplus of single men.