Thread 81873947

How do I stop my brother from becoming too blackpilled and jaded about women? Can I even? He's a pretty average guy, so obviously he has trouble with women. Now he used to not care so much but he's getting deeper into his 20s and I think never having a gf is starting to get to him. Especially after this last girl he was talking to.

>>81873947 (OP)
teach how to do it

>>81873947 (OP)
Crossdress and suck his dick o algo

>>81873947 (OP)
Lol he is probably here already.

>>81873982
How to get a gf? I don't really know how to do that. Did it once but never managed it again. I would just like him to not be miserable like me
>>81873997
Nah, dude hates reading thankfully. Can't even watch anime with subtitles. 4chan wouldn't interest him. I'm sure he gets some shit from Instagram and tik tok though.

>>81874021
>How to get a gf? I don't really know how to do that. Did it once but never managed it again. I would just like him to not be miserable like me

the best you can do at that point is to teach self love to the both of yourseves

it basically means learning to love yourself unconditionally

without having to meet some type of self imposed standard

just automatically giving yourselves self love

>>81874021
>I would just like him to not be miserable like me
Do things together with him, play video games, talk, sports in the backyard, give him advice about how to navigate the workplace, be there for each other as family.

>>81874056
Too late for me anon, I'm just killing time until I can die at this point. But I'm pretty sure most men aren't going to be content with being relegated to a position if being some weird, sexless eunuch. What young man is going to be happy living like that?

>>81874074
anyone can

you dont need validiation from anyone

the person whose validiation is the most important is your own

until you learn this

you will suffer at the whims of others

>>81874064
Yeah, I guess this is probably about all I can do realistically. And I do try to do that stuff with him. At least what I can. He just doesn't really like talking about stuff. Which I hate but I can't really push the subject much or he gets annoyed.

>>81874089
>anyone can
Are you a woman, anon? Because I don't think you understand where I'm coming from

>>81874144
yeah I am a woman

and yes I do understand

you seek validation from everyone else

you have not received it

so now you feel like that means theres something wrong with you

>>81873947 (OP)
>How do I stop... becoming too blackpilled
That's just growing up anon. Nobody can stay innocent forever. The trick is not being bitter about it.

>>81874104
That is great anon. Even if you don't talk about BP stuff, spending time together is very valuable. What interests does he have?

>>81873947 (OP)
Unless you give him Chad potion theres no way out, if you push bluepill cope onto him he will just recent you when he keep failing following the advice

>>81873947 (OP)

You should be grateful the truth has found him.

>>81874154
Yeah see, you're just not going to get it I don't think. Like I imagine you probably arrived at this conclusion of yours after seeking validation from men, being used or having bad experiences. You got to have experiences that let you learn and grow. Even if they were bad ones. I don't get those experiences as an ugly man. I'm still stuck at step one. I can think about this shit as much as I want, I can try and try to love myself. But if there's nothing to back up my attempts at changing how I think and feel, then the effort just falls flat. How can a person grow without experience? I think that's ultimately the difference between us here. Experience and lack there of.

>>81874163
>What interests does he have?
He likes dirt bikes and hunting and cars. But he doesn't really do much these days besides work and doomscroll though. Not that I'm much better but I don't think he sees it as a problem

>>81874243
it has nothing to do with that

your just settings standards you are not meeting then judging yourself

learn to let go of this projection so you can set yourself free

you dont need to be casanova

you only need yourself

I have not dated someone in years

but I don't measure myself based off of that

you are a good big brother. You have a family you love and loves you. happiness does not require more than that.

But I understand if you are in too much pain to see it

maybe once you grow older you'll see what you really had

>>81874262
If you share similar interests you could sperg out together and plan hunting trips innawoods, how about that?

>>81874276
Why are you here instead of instagram

>>81874304
im just a fallen angel baby

>>81874317
you type like a boomer on facebook, why post here instead of somewhere more pleasant

>>81874341
cause I get to myself here

c:

if I was on facebook someone as degen like me would either have to self censor to just banned

>>81874276
>it has nothing to do with that
I think there's probably a lot more to it than you think but I don't think you're going to be able to get it. Our lives are just too different. And like I've tried and tried. Nothing ever really changes when it comes to how I feel about myself.
>you only need yourself
Myself just isn't good enough. I'm not going to be able to get the things I want out of life
>I have not dated someone in years
I don't think it really has to do with how long you've been single. If you got enough experience in the first place then that lets you grow and change. How tolerable was being alone for you before you started dating?
>you are a good big brother. You have a family you love and loves you
Idk I try to be a good brother and I do love my siblings but I just feel like there's a wall between all of us. Like we all joke around and spend time together but I can't tell them I love them without it being awkward, I can't hug them without being pushed away, I try to talk to my brother about how he feels and I just get stonewalled. It just feels like there's no depth to our relationships and I don't know how to change that

>>81874345
wdym by degen

>>81874396
I am a typical btard

think of every stereotype

thats me

>>81874385
>I think there's probably a lot more to it than you think but I don't think you're going to be able to get it. Our lives are just too different. And like I've tried and tried. Nothing ever really changes when it comes to how I feel about myself.

its cause you keep judging yourself
like said unconditional love is the only answer

>Myself just isn't good enough. I'm not going to be able to get the things I want out of life

see you just did again

>I don't think it really has to do with how long you've been single. If you got enough experience in the first place then that lets you grow and change. How tolerable was being alone for you before you started dating?

yeah before I learned self love I was mega lonely but also withdrawn which means it was a vicious cycle of feeling lonely and allowing myself to connect with others

just making it worse

>Idk I try to be a good brother and I do love my siblings but I just feel like there's a wall between all of us. Like we all joke around and spend time together but I can't tell them I love them without it being awkward, I can't hug them without being pushed away, I try to talk to my brother about how he feels and I just get stonewalled. It just feels like there's no depth to our relationships and I don't know how to change that

sounds like you need to break that wall. Take a risk and start telling them regularly.
c:

>>81874295
>plan hunting trips innawoods
Could be cool but I've never actually been hunting before. We don't really have too many similar interests. He's my step brother so we kind of had different upbringings. But I think I might try to set something up like that. Good idea, anon.

>>81873947 (OP)
>How do I stop my brother from becoming too blackpilled and jaded about women? Can I even?

One of the first lessons of the blackpill is that it's women themselves who preach it and teach it. If the blackpill can be considered an ideology, then women are their priestesses.

Say goodbye to little bro and say hello to chuddy buddy.

>>81873947 (OP)
It is impossible to avoid this hell, getting Black Pilled on life, if no cunny ever wants you.
You said it yourself, even average men have a lot of difficulty getting any woman now. That's how fucked it is.
Says a lot about women have changed, thanks to the disaster of fuck apps and social media.
Getting no cunny destroys a man's mind and soul, the older he gets and the longer he goes without it.
And there's at least two generations of us incels now.

>>81874414
>see you just did again
Well yeah, I have no real reason to care about myself. I'm trying to manage as best I can and still basically just headed towards homelessness. I'm a fuck up, just how I've always been.
>vicious cycle of feeling lonely and allowing myself to connect with others
This is exactly what I'm trying to point out. You got to have these shitty experiences and you learned from them. You actually had a catalyst for change. I don't get that. I can't get sex or relationships or any of that stuff. I'm just stuck being alone. I don't get to experience new relationships and learn and grow. I'm just stuck. I don't think people can just change magically. They need new experiences to learn from.
>Take a risk and start telling them regularly.
I guess I could try doing it more often. Maybe that'd help although I think they'd probably just think I'm being weird.

>>81874432
Great, whatever you guys do, if you are able to work together, two minds are always better than 1 so you'll be sure to at least have fun.
>we kind of had different upbringings
How so?

>>81874414
>think of every stereotype
So you are a basement-dwelling NEET who watches porn and plays vidya all day?

>>81873947 (OP)
Help him find a gf that loves him for him.

Are you his brother or not?

t. 34 khv who have never seen a vagina in real life but who has a little sister who is married and has a kid

>>81874543
literally

cept the porn part

I tried it out but idk

I have to watch like a million diff ones before I can find one I like

its too much of a hastle

>>81874535
>How so?
I was just meaning we have different parents and upbringings so our interests are a little different. But our sense of humor is pretty aligned and we get along good enough.

>>81874620
>our interests are a little different
What are your interests?

>>81874666
>What are your interests
Video games, guitar, reading, I like going for nature walks. I don't do that much. I got him into playing guitar when he was younger but he kind of gave it up and he stopped playing games recently

>>81874735
Potential overlap for walking innawoods.

>>81873947 (OP)
I can be his gf