Having a serious intimate relationship with a woman is very difficult, and sometimes so difficult you wonder if the negatives outweigh the positives. It sucks.

>>81879381 (OP)
I find it isn't difficult but it tends to randomly end after a year or two because you're satisfied but she has some hidden shit she wants that you aren't doing like taking her on outings or sharing feelings or something.
Women prefer to just privately get mad about imagined slights and then dump you instead of actually telling you what they want you to do differently.

>>81879381 (OP)
I've discovered that I had trauma and walls up before I met my bf. I wanted a guy that was kind of an asshole but nice to me before I met him because i found it 'hot'. My bf is a hue nerd, really smart, doesn't have a weird incel opinion about women or judge them for body count or career choices etc. At first I didn't have a romantic interest in him until I noticed he was always there for me despite us just being friends and me being a pissy bitch who was high strung and anxiety riddled at times, he treated me exceptionally well...like sending me money so I could buy furniture for my new apartment kind of well. He even cried when I sung for him. I told him 'nobody has ever cared about me like you have aside from my own mother' and even then...he has been more consistent than her.

We have been together for 5 years, he doesn't judge me for anything I do, he is my best friend and I have done my best to care for him in my own ways. He cries when I cry, he is everything to me. I will NEVER and I mean NEVER judge a man for how he looks or ever be interested in a man that is an 'ASSHOLE' ever again. This man has HEALED me and I eel a sense of piece since we have been together (it took 2 years for me to stop being high strung/anxiety riddled about him). I will never meet anyone like him again, nobody compares to him. I love who he is and his little quirks and goofyness so fucking much.

>>81879782
uh why are you on the failed life and relationship board then

>>81879796
It's just out of habbit I have been coming here since I was 15 and im 30 now lol. Once you start coming here it's hard to come off when you have as much free time as I do.

Anyway my point is OP women can be really difficult at the start but sometimes it just takes time for them to chill and feel safe.

>>81879381 (OP)
There's so much drama and you can never expect the most simple necessary things from them because there's always some excuse

>>81879782
And this is what's important in a relationship. It shouldn't be difficult to get alone with your partner. Yes relationships can take work and compassion and understanding. And that can be difficult but if it's constantly difficult there is a compatibility issue. Some people tough it out for whatever reason and that's fine but there is also a point where you have to ask does this person fulfil my needs. Do I fullfil theirs Are we happy. Do I want to selfishly spend every moment I can with this person without making excuses. Do I love them or am I just lonely and afraid to be alone. Those can be the most difficult questions.