Thread 81887417

Why do parents do this?

childhood is over now anon, whining about your parents isn't going to turn back time and fix all the things they did wrong
you are getting older and lonelier by the minute
if you're 30+ nobody gives a shit about you unless you possess some wealth/power
get your act together
this post is projection on my part

>>81887417 (OP)
Lmao. This meme is shit, just cause your parents didn't let you go out or let your friends come over. Shouldn't be on them if you are antisocial or shy, dumb faggot.

>>81887602
based
nta but thx

>>81887602
You can't undo the damage growing up isolated does to a person's brain.

>>81887639
Parents have a responsibility to properly socialize their kids. Not letting your kids interact with other kids their age is abuse and will do severe damage to them in adulthood.

>>81887734
either figure something out or learn to cope with being alone
whining about it will become less and less beneficial
people literally won't give a shit about you in your 30s
try to at least have some hope

>>81887799
It literally isn't possible to live alone because who die develop health problems and die much earlier than normal.

You can't have an optimal life alone.

>>81887826
sorry anon, you're just going to have to make the best of your situation
I don't mind solitude so much
a lot of people have lived good lives in solitude

>>81887799
You're an absolute fucking retard, isolation damages a person's brain and impairs their ability to enjoy socializing.

Despite my best efforts to socialize, I've been chronically depressed and ill since my mid-teens. I haven't been able to sleep, and suffer from constant inflammatory pain despite having a healthy diet and not being underweight, so that puts a limit on what I can do improve my situation

>>81887870
A person cannot live if they die in their fucking 60s.

>>81887895
lmao never heard this cope before

>>81887883
doomers are doomers because they expect somebody to take pity on them and help them, this works maybe during their early 20s and less and less after that, eventually in your 30s no one give a shit about you and you're in full adult mode and that is rude awakening for many people including myself
that is the only point I'm trying to make here, not that you don't have a difficult life or that it's your fault etc.
I'm just trying to say literally no one will give a shit about this whining and you'll have to do something to fix it yourself
that is all

>>81887799
Oh no, people give you a lot of shit when you're 30. At that age, you're not just a shy guy, you're a creepy guy, and people, especially women, deny you opportunities like a good job based not only on your physical appearance but also on your behavior.

>>81887417 (OP)
Parents did this since they read too many scare articles about the sex, drugs, and rock and roll teenagers got themselves into. The only thing it taught me was how to be a sneakier bastard, to go right up to the line and never cross it (technically) while they were watching since that was the only way to survive. I managed to disappoint them by not turning into a useless junkie the moment they dropped me off at the dorms. Now they wonder why I'm """too independent""" and such a "self reliant LONER".

>>81887953
hahaha nice wordplay
yep, they do give you a lot of shit
and they also don't give a shit about you
so get your shit together, nigger

>>81887602
>>81887639
>>81887799
American hours truly are retard hours huh
>>81888009
This

>>81887417 (OP)
I'll never forgive my mom for not letting me join any after school activities because she said I'd get molested, and then I ended up getting molested by a family member in our own home anyway.

>>81888063
>yep, they do give you a lot of shit
>and they also don't give a shit about you

These are mutually exclusive.

>>81888063
>so get your shit together, nigger

That's the fucking point. A lot of people DO try to get their shit together, but that requires other people to give them that chance and the support they need to do it. People don't exist in a vacuum.

>>81888131
they aren't going to help you, and they're also going to be mean to you
there, does that get through to your autistic retard brain?

>>81888146
ok but that doesnt relate to my original comment about OPie lamenting his parents
we arent even having the same conversation anymore
theres no point in this
have a nice day

>>81887602
>if you're 30+ nobody gives a shit about you unless you possess some wealth/power

And you can't get that wealth/power unless people a shit about you. It's a catch 22.

And it's a load of shit too. Most people have no wealth/power, but they still have people that care about them.

>>81888152
That's not how society works. Society was built by people caring about and supporting each other.

We all depend on each other, nobody is self-sufficient.

What's a good medication that will fix all the mental illnesses/weird behaviors that growing up alone instilled in me? I've tried a lot of them and therapy, but they didn't do anything.

I'm not anxious, autistic, or antisocial, but I get literally no enjoyment out of socializing and am hypersensitive to bright lights and loud noise.

>>81887417 (OP)
my childhood was weird in that i consistently got the shortest end of the stick of all my siblings.
>spend teenage years in suburban hellscape surrounded by highways
>boomer parents never supported any hobbies i was interested in, pushed for their country club ideas for success
>we consistently lived at the edges of my school's boundaries (1 hour bus ride either way for six years) so getting together with my friends was a logistical nightmare
>closest sibling in age is 8 years older than me
>dad sold the car my mom wanted to give to me for literally no reason. didn't get my license until last year at 21 (paid a jeet out of my own pocket to teach/license me)
>older brother also got music lessons, sports, vacations, etc., not even because he's a favorite but because my parents just checked the fuck out at 50.
>parents got midlife crisis a la baby fever and spat out another four by the same time, so i really couldn't rely on them for shit while pretty much all of my friends had parents who could focus on them
every time i families getting lunch at college it hurts a little. i only have like two friends now and both of them get money from their parents, get help moving in and out, have parents who are active counsel, whatever. even the poor kids have someone who'll answer their calls.
but i give a chunk of my pay to my unemployed mom who's nearing sixty now redoing the same stage as someone in their early thirties. she's totally unprepared to raise them -- they're turning out fucking retarded -- and i'm struggling to launch because of it. god forbid i express any complaint about this, though, before she calls up her classroom friends who're maybe 10 years older than me to tell me that i don't know what i'm talking about, or that i'm ungrateful, or that i'm a misogynist for wanting an available parent.
fuck that.

>>81888152
Boohoo life is unfair therefore I'm going to contribute to the unfairness by calling you a whiny little bitch. No you're not entitled to anything and therefore I'm going to tell you all the things you're lacking.

>>81888152
OK, then tell me how to fix that problem.

>>81888096
It's fucking hilarious. I'm the only "kid" of my generation in the extended family to have an actual career job and regularly leaves the house (they hate the latter, even if it's for work since I'm not at my parents' constant beck and call) and they still consider me the "failure" compared to my brother and cousins who get to laze around and play useless video games all day.

>>81888184
PFFFFFFTTTTTT
Ingroup/outgroup politics, nigger. It's literally older than humanity itself . Monkeys practice this ffs. All you need is enough people giving a shit about each other so they can all shit on you and it's gucci. You're the outgroup? Sucks, brah. Try not being an autistic retard next life.

mfw I now have the power to do something about it but instead I choose to cry on an anonymous incel dick rating forum

nobody actually tells you how to fix this problem, that's because you can't. they don't want to admit this because it shatters their just world view.

>>81887417 (OP)
I also had shitty parents. now i'm wizardcel

>>81888778
I'm not autistic, you dipshit.

>>81889022
You can't undo the damage not being properly socialized does. I didn't grow up socializing, so my brain literally doesn't know how to enjoy it.

>>81888739
Yeah it's because you aren't a lowbrow chad that goes with the flow. You're the punching bag. At some point you need to start reveling in the fact that it turns them into assmad faggots

>>81889459
>You can't undo the damage not being properly socialized
yes you can, it's a skill like any other all you have to do is practice it to make it better
worked for me
>I didn't grow up socializing, so my brain literally doesn't know how to enjoy it.
that's just fucking retarded, you either enjoy socialising or you don't it has nothing to do with your upbringing unless it's something to do with trust issues and that's a completely different thing

>>81889603
>yes you can, it's a skill like any other all you have to do is practice it to make it better
>worked for me

Everyone else has decades more experience socializing, you don't have decades to catch up to them.

>>81889708
we're not talking about master woodworking techniques that need to be honed for decades to get decent at
it's like riding a bicycle, once you get the hang of it you catch up to everyone else in no time
and please keep any more retarded excuses to yourself, faggots LOVE to complain about the simplest shit to try and justify your own inaction

>>81889748
I already know HOW to socialize, the issue is that it's not fun

>>81889835
your previous posts implied that you don't know how to socialise tho
your brain might not be wired for socialising
but I also don't enjoy it because it's not fun, most people are boring as shit and have nothing interesting to say

>>81888778
You come off as a manchild who made his entire personality being as sociopathic as possible

>>81888063
>get your shit together
>you are more likely to fail at 30+ and you couldn't get it together prior to that point
>The people who didn't give a shit about you hate you more now.
Do "people" like you think before you do anything?

>>81887417 (OP)
you have been gaslit that your parents forced you to stay home

>>81889970
nah zoomies are socially retarded from being coddled because muh columbine muh kid will get kidnapped or become a school shooter if he goes outside.

Even funnier is that it's liberal atheists spouting this crap lmao. They can shit on evangelicalism and protestants all they want, they still did that faggy anglo thing where they inherit the worst traits of the people they conquered/killed off.

>>81889970
I wasn't forced to stay home, but there were also no other kids my age in the neighborhood, so it's not like there was anything I could do outside. If I went outside, I'd have to play alone

>>81890232
Zoomers are the most aborted generation. Also everyone's gay and retarded for thinking human nature can be obfuscated changed for gay ideallist utopian garbage.
The entire reason for Americans being socially retarded, lazy niggers with brain damage is from placing religious grade faith on gay space communist utopian fantasies being real someday. The burnout happened after 2011 when it became clear that le infinite progress wasn't real and just steers technological advancement in the direction of nigga technology.