friendhavers are the most privileged of all

>>81891034 (OP)
kill yourself nigger urg

>>81891034 (OP)
Friends are just a chore. The only good kind of friend is the kind you're willing to fuck and have permission to fuck.

>>81891034 (OP)
Male "friends" are worth less than dirt. Only girls can have real friends

writing is gay as fuck I will be honest with you brother, anyone can make friends if they want to, you just aren't willing to put in the effort thus do not deserve friends

>>81891034 (OP)
do you want to be friends op?? hello

>>81891034 (OP)
Friends to talk to about what? Male friendships aren't for sharing your feelings and complaining about whatever the fuck. Especially not for sharing your writing with. They're for having somebody to get blind drunk with and tell embarrassing stories about each other.

That being said, your best bet would be trying to get on with a coworker or something. If you get on quite well, see if he likes sportsball or ufc or something and larp that you do too, and invite him over to watch the game/fight.

If you have trouble getting along with your peers at all to even make that happen, try experimenting with mood-lifting herbal medicines so you aren't a shut-in freak and can talk to people.

>>81891209
oh my god im not a male

>>81891231
> im not a male
me me me i'll be your friend

>>81891209
speak for yourself.
i am a male and have had male friendships (online) and we shared our feelings and complained about whatever the fuck.
not all of us are like that.

>>81891055
Not at all. Girl "friends" try to break up all their friends relationships and gossip about their friends.

so OP just wants to complain about having no friends but doesn't really want to make friends?

>>81891034 (OP)
I ghosted my friends yesterday after accepting to hang out because I was sad. I really don't deserve them

What kind of Neanderthal bears down this hard when writing with a pen

>>81891271
Guys kill each other over pussy

>>81891034 (OP)
why dont you have friends anon? do you feel undeserving and so avoid making them and isolate?

>>81891034 (OP)
even having roomates kinda helped with depression.

>>81891321
not OP but I do avoid making friends and isolate. not cuz I think Im undeserving of friends, just cuz I know that its incredibly for me to make them and cuz Im incapable of having them and keeping them.
>>81891300
ive done that before.

>>81891327
why cant you keep them? maybe you just havent found the right people

>>81891317
Women screw over other women over being single when their friends aren't, or any retarded envy.

>>81891338
i cant keep them because Im autistic and retarded and am unable to tell when Ive upset them unless they explicitly tell me and thus am unable to appropriately respond whenever I do upset them. this can lead to the perception that I just dont care that i hurt them.
i apparently am hurtful to people without realizing it.
its a regular occurrence that i cant get other people to accurately understand what i try to communicate.

>>81891379
do you tell people that you have problems communicating?

>>81891428
yeah but idk ig they just forget or something. or maybe it just isnt worth putting up with.
either way i am fundamentally unloveable and have resigned myself to a life of isolation.

>>81891441
>>81891428

i cant change.

>>81891441
im sorry:( i understand giving up, i still hope you end up stumbling into some understanding people.

>>81891457
its ok anon. ty, im hoping so too even though I know i wont.

>>81891034 (OP)
Not OP, but the friends closest to me always end up abandoning me because of the same issue as this >>81891379. I cannot make new friends anymore it hurts way too much to lose people you care about because they can't understand you or give you some understanding.

you remind me of somebody I know, OP

man i jerk off to toaster porn and play racing games exclusively for the shittiest cars they have in them. during the day i browse 4chan. during the night i browse 4chan. and weird gay porn. i have 8000 hours into a racing simulation game and ive raced maybe...twice in it.

i dont want to be friends with myself. why would anyone else?

>>81891034 (OP)
Do you know how fucking easy making friends is? You are the only reason that you don't have them

Online friends:
Literally hop on random discord servers, play multiplayer games, send friend requests to people and you have online friends.

irl friends:
talk to strangers in a shared environment like work or school or even just a stranger that you think has a vibe that works with yours.

>>81891034 (OP)
If you live in New Zealand, I'll be your friend.

>>81891825
Not OP. Actual ride or die friends and not fair weather friends, or acquaintances are incredibly difficult to acquire. There's also a time limit to get these because they become nearly unobtainable after 30 due to so many people having life commitments that don't foster building up a new friendship.

>>81891929
Nope, the key is consistency. Don't overextend yourself, but keep talking to the people you meet and if they want to hang out more, they will. If not, just move on lol. Ride or die friends are forged with the right materials, not just found. It can be a while until you have best friends, but to have people that hang out with you and care at least a little is easy.

>>81891950
I agree that they are built and not just found, but the reality is it's not super simple for everyone. Age and mental or neurological issues can cause significant problems with friend formation. That's not saying that people should give up, and all people need to contribute to a friendship. It's just a reality that certain issues overwhelmingly have outcomes with people that have zero friends, because people cannot tolerate, understand, or be willing to empathize with them due to such circumstances. So people shouldn't be assumed to not want friends if they don't have them.

>>81892001
I completely agree, but anyone can make friends if they do their best to make an effort, which may be more significant for certain people that may struggle with the concept.

>>81892051
what about it just being tiring? i did like having friends, back when i had them, but holy shit was i ever so glad to finally be "done" with my commitments and just go home and fucking relax. i dont know why, but just, even a casual conversation about the weather with someone drains me. i can only do it so long before i need everyone to fuck right off and leave me alone for a while

>>81892117
That's just being an introvert. It's not about spending countless hours with friends, even though people like myself like to, but about being consistent. If you come to hang out or eat with them somewhat often, then you can get closer even if you leave events early.
If it is truly tiring tho, then it may not be the right person that you are talking to.

>>81892117
Other poster, in that case you just need to plan out your time to maintain friendships without over exhausting yourself. It's alright to say you are busy to people. People only stop considering you a friend if you no call no show on them, avoid them for crazy long amounts of time, or go ghost.

>>81892132
>If you come to hang out or eat with them somewhat often, then you can get closer even if you leave events early.
>People only stop considering you a friend if you no call no show on them, avoid them for crazy long amounts of time, or go ghost.
well, i went full ghost, hard. i had one old preschool friend who got in contact with my sister and finally found a way to get a direct line to me, and he told me everyone thought i was dead. and it felt really nice. it means no ones expecting anything from me. theyd be amazed just to find out im still around, lol.

to be fair i did go completely dark after about as far as my online presence goes after like, 2012