>every girl I know has had sex
>I mention how I think sex is scary
>they say im being prudish and that sex is normal
>they mentioned Ive dated twice
>i tell them they ended up breaking up with me bc i didnt want to have sex
>ask if it was because i thought their penises were small
>tell them ive never saw neither of their private parts
>they laugh at me

Should I start lying that I fuck like crazy. I feel like Im behind my peers when it comes to these sort of things. The most ive done was a very sloppy french kiss (apparently I used too much teeth and didnt know what I was doing)

>>81895620 (OP)
>french kiss
>too much teeth
What?

They are trying to corrupt you into being a whore like them. Its better to treat sex as sacred, even if you arent religious or spiritual, and only do it with a man you are in love with.

>>81895640
I kept biting his tongue. Ive never had a heated kiss before so I was unsure of what to do. . .

>>81895620 (OP)
just find someone pansexual who wants to wait for years into the relationship / till marriage if religious.
That way when you truly trust and love them, there is no pressure to perform, you can't do anything wrong because neither knows what the fuck they're doing anyways, just curiosity, and trust, and love, and exploration, and trying out what feels good.

>>81895620 (OP)
It's okay to be a virgin as a woman. Don't let people around you pressure you into doing something you're not comfortable with. Besides, a future bf will find having sex with you more special, because you haven't fucked the whole city.

>>81895648
I feel like this might also be a bit of an extreme position to have. There's a middle path between the two extremes. There's something to be said about sex being normal, and also there's the danger of becoming too preoccupied with it and becoming a whore. But imo its not really a big deal.

I'm a man btw so take that how you will but I like to think I'm at least rational and I'm trying to be genuine right now so. Yeah.

As a man sex feels as natural to me as peeing and pooping. There's a whole bit a guy does about this exact thought in one of the Harold and Kumar movies. Its by a klu klux klansmen and its a bit crass but he's also not wrong about it. An orgasm is like your body's third function (besides number one and two, some ppl even call it a number 3 lol)

Whats bad tho is how often egotism and toxic masculinity get entwined with sexual activity for men. Fuck the wrong man and suddenly the whole town will think you're a whore.

So, yes, sex should be a little bit sacred and special at least. You lose nothing by not having it. You could lose a lot by having it. I still think you should. Just don't go for a chad like an idiot or your neighborhood lothario. Try to do it with someone you love and trust.

Maybe experiment with some sex toys first? You also stand to lose nothing with this method.

Once you're a little more experienced you'll realize it's nbd and your body, nature and instinct will all help you know what to do when the time is right. I didn't need sex lessons. Penises naturally go into vaginas. Your body will know what to do. Its human nature.

>>81895833
Sex is normal 100%. I am just frightened of it and feel like a big baby about it. Im a bit of a pervert however the idea of sex itself makes me feel like crying.

I bought a dildo recently only to realize its too big. Im trying to get over my fear of penetration.
>tried putting it in after humping my pillow
>head too big it hurts

>>81895757
i think what hurts more is when my own mum accuses me of sleeping around even though she barley lets me leave the house.
>I am 22

>>81895951
You should probably move out.

>>81895976
>unemployed. Been job searching for the last 4 years now no fucking luck
>the money I make from commissions still isnt enough
>tried to run away once at 19. My mom freaked out, lied to the police saying I was a danger to myself and need to be brought back home
Little voice in my head is telling me to do it again. I will miss my bedroom and pet dog tho

>>81895903
get smaller dildo. perfectly normal reaction to big object in vagoo. Use lubrication. I even use lube with normal sex because not every woman dumps a truck of fuck juice in their panties everytime things get sexual and i want things to go smoothly and I always care about her comfort.

First time anxiety is perfectly normal. When I first started having sex around 16, it took me a long time before I could handle doggystyle and any other position other then thrusting while laying on our sides in bed. In other words I just kind of sucked at it for at least a year.

There's also this very old joke but still very true: "Worst sex I ever had wasn't bad!"
Even if your performance or experience is mediocre at first, eventually you'll gain the confidence from doing it routinely to experiment and branch out a bit and you'll begin to discover what your likes and dislikes are. And if you can learn how to be honest and open about likes and dislikes with a partner, that can become an amazing thing!

For me anything but very tame, sloppy and somewhat confusing sex on my side was too intense for me. My partner had ovarian cysts and I was allowed to raw dog it and cum inside her all I wanted and she was a little older than me by a year or two so honestly I owe her so much for being so patient with me during all that time but desu she probably got off in me being younger and inexperienced at least a little bit because even tho I lied about it, in hindsight it was kind of obvious. Later I learned I could last longer by choosing to wear a condom.

But a sad reality is just that men cum faster than women. Some women never orgasm from sex alone in their whole lives. They need a vibrator on their clitoris or a little something extra.

Oh and don't be afraid to make noises. Men go crazy for that shit lol. I swear like 90% of my pleasure is just hearing all those microscopic tiny sounds she makes while her mouth is right beside my ear and were getting hot and sweaty in private.

You should be proud of yourself, anon. Don't be a whore.

>>81896142
I would be proud if I wasnt such a big baby about these things. The only adult thing about me is I drink like a sailor.

>>81895903
>Im a bit of a pervert
>posts comics of crumb
zasted

>>81896052
Thank you for the advice anon. Peace and love

>>81895620 (OP)
im a guy and i have this same issue. i ended up going volcel

>>81896172
I find his art cool and hes funny

>>81896184
Ditto I didn't expect to sound so based lol I just typed my feelings out. You'll be fine. Don't listen to them. You'll have sex when you're ready for it and not a moment sooner (I hope lol don't get dategraped now) and thats Ok. Its your body not theirs. Take it easy on yourself and hagd :D

>>81895620 (OP)

Anon needs to go be friends with muslim girls. None of the unmarried ones are fucking (allegedly)

>>81896229
Im a girl anon. And even the Muslim chicks I went to high school with were having sex.

>>81896243
Hnnnnnnnnggg I really wanna have sex with a Muslim girl I bet they have amazing sex after being in a fucking berka all day

And Allah did smile upon them, and the lord saw that it was good lmao. And Allah did see that he was a virtuous man, and did good by his wife, and together they did rejoice

Or something lololol

I also had sex with an Asian prostitute once because I've had yellow fever my entire life and never attracted one naturally. It was alright but mostly just glad I got that out of my system

Next on my bucket list is a black girl. I go craaaazzy for black girls. But haven't slept with one yet. Debating just paying for it now that I'm in my middle age. At least its an honest mutual trade in tht scenario. I don't like feeling like I'm decieving a woman just to have sex with her. At least fucking callgirls is honest...

>>81896349
Well good luck anon. More power to you

>>81895620 (OP)
>I feel like a child as an adult
>Because i've never had sex
How old are you? I didn't read the entire thread.
Sex doesn't make you an adult. Some people start sucking and fucking at 13 or 14, does that make them mature? Fuck, does being "old" make you an "adult" if you never matured mentally? You're no defective or wrong for never having had sex. Maybe those fears can be childish, but that alone doesn't make you a child or make you wrong. You may have grown up religiously and conservatively, or you just don't know what sex is, might be a bit weird about it, and haven't allowed yourself to try it so you don't know what you like and don't like. Sucking a cock or getting your dick sucked doesn't make you an adult

>>81896440
I am 22 years old. I think its because the woman who raised me wasnt a good person and fucked me up mentally

>>81896440
This. I was in a big hurry to lose my vCard by 16. I'm tall (sorry if you're not tall my frens i can't even imagine how hard it must be to get sum pussy) and am moderately OK looking.

And honest to God my most sur[rising discovery about sex was that it didn't feel superior to masterbating. Our culture has this weird obsession about it but honestly I'm not kidding when I say its nbd. Its usually not better than masterbation. We just have this weird taboo about pleasuring yourself. But honestly my right hand is a fucking handjob master at this point whereas the best handjob a female ever gave me was honestly pretty mediocre.

The best sex happens when you got deep feelings going on. Thats why sex with a prostitute doesn't satisfy. Not the way it satisfys to finally undress the person you've been crushing on for months. You know what I mean? Well if you don't you will soon. Don't rush things. Sex is not that big of a deal because honestly it usually doesn't feel super amazing awesome lime we all pretend it does. It feels marginally better than having sex "solo".

Once you've done it a few times you'll probably agree with me. "Wow! I came! Whoopdiedoo! I wonder whats on the telly later... I can't believe people give such a big shit about this business"

The whole ordeal will last maybe w0 minutes then its back to regular life. Maybe a bit longer if you're lucky.

The good news is, you can always do it again. And again and again lol. Its free usually. Just don't get knocked up. That shit will ruin your entire life if you're not ready for it

>>81895903
>only to realize its too big
How big is it?

>>81896591
Well I heard shalazar the wizards dick is so big, that when he takes it out, the WHOLE ROOM smells like a dick

>>81896591
I should have like actually went over the sizes and not click order but apparently it was about 7 inches of girth. . .

>>81896546
Know that you're not the only one who is "weird" about sex. Not to put you on the spot, but for as much as sex is apart of life, there is still this weirdness about it. Culturally speaking, you have Cardi B and Meghan Thee Stallion talking about "wet ass pussy", "he eat my ass so he a bottom feeder", "my head game is fire", yet people think there is something wrong with you if you don't think it is the greatest thing since sliced bread or something. You're fine for not having 80 bodies by the time you turn 16, you're fine for not knowing and maybe wanting some commitment and monogamy if you want to get intimate. Sex doesn't make you an adult the same way having a job doesn't, you can hold down a job and still be a manchild. Work through your own fear of sex. You don't have to get sexual or be sexual. You have that right to not place any importance on it. Different strokes for different folks

>>81896769
I guess youre right anon. Ill figure it out I guess

>>81896827
Honestly wish I could come over to your house right now, put your ankles on my shoulders and help alleviate your anxiety lmao

But you probably live ten thousand miles away and even if you didn't I normally advise against fucking strange men you met on 4chan

But I'd tap that ass if I could anon lmao. Cheers

>>81896872
>Honestly wish I could come over to your house right now, put your ankles on my shoulders and help alleviate your anxiety lmao

I like to play and draw and make cookies. This is very frightening

>>81896902
What would a guy need to do for you to be comfortable with them?

>>81895620 (OP)
based foid only have sex with your husband, don't listen to your friends

>>81895620 (OP)
say you fuck like crazy? to be what, a disgusting whore? kek

>>81897091
So I stop being seen as a baby or whatever.

>>81896170
you are a female, you are not supposed to have the initiative, you will find a boyfriend that will truly love you and connect with the way you feel and he won't have sex with you until marriage then you will realize you are right about everything

>>81896902
Well the good news is 90% of sex requires more effort from the man than the woman.

Also I was once slamming my ex girlfriend doggystyle and she threw up on my floor. She wasn't on drugs or unconscious or anything, she was just that nervous about having sex in my house instead of hers.

I stopped, had a hearty laugh about it and went to grab a mop and bucket. Even that was no. if deal. Honestly, if I had known she was feeling like that, I never would have started. We men aren't mind readers you know. Communication is super important!

Pretty much all you're expected to do is lie there and not cry lmao. Sounds disturbing but I'm being serious here. The last time I had sex with a woman who did any work at all during the sex was with the Asian prostitute. And I literally paid her up front for that. She definitely "worked" for it lol.

Nobody is expecting you to have pornstar moves right off the cuff. In fact that can make a man suspicious. "Wtf, where did she learn this shit? Has she been cheating on me?"

Trust me just you will be enough for most men. Just you being natural. Thats a way bigger turn on than my last hookers fake moaning. Trust me on that one, most men will agree with me here.

A few drinks can help too but try and keep it classy lol. Maybe a glass of wine with some candles can help you relax a little. Sex doesnt always have to be this fleshy profane thing. It can be sweet and romantic too

>>81897128
Maybe in another life I could treat sex like a normal thing

>>81895620 (OP)
Jokes on you, I don't feel human at all, it's a sad world when you are floating overead the cultural mush