>>81953434this is basically it
they dont care for your struggles, they think of themselves first and foremost and how losing you will affect them
it's neither a bad position nor a good one, it just means you have "value" to them - whether you view this as good or bad is up to you
think of a mother who's spent the last 21 years caring for her only child, no other variables, just her and her child alone in the world
one day, he kills himself - boom, end of story for him, he's gone, out of the picture
what happens to the mother? its easy enough to say "fuck her, he's already dead so who gives a fuck" but here is a child she gave life to, whom she cared and nurtured for for 21 years - and he's gone, just like that
you guys ever worked so hard for something and suddenly everything collapses?