>>81957446 (OP)It's the internet and unnatural levels of judgement coming from all directions:
1. Opinions of boorish/ugly male personalities stating that "because I never got some you can't either"
2. Opinions of extremely competitive and manipulative males who just put others down, "If you're not perfect, they'll never want you. Don't even try" This includes youtubers who go into absurd levels of detail about 'the right way' that make it seem like the viewer is incompetent.
3. A few loud females who hold up the multi-thousand dollar handbags and say "he bought me this. if yours isn't buying you this
Of all of these, the "don't even try" is the worst. It gives the ones who spout it power, and keeps males *at home* where they get increasingly frustrated and start spewing disconnected nonsense of their own - which of course females end up reading and getting increasingly unwilling to go out as well.
Fucking stop it. Go out. Be with strangers. Make friends because you're *just there* (like school used to be.) You have far more in common with the people in your neighborhood and city than you think. Have a barbeque on your front lawn or shitty apartment patio and let others smell that you love to live. That's how we start connections.