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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 10:17:17 PM No.81960377
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If you get r@ped, are you still a virgin or nah? Like, does that count, or how does it work?
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 10:19:52 PM No.81960422
>>81960377 (OP)
Some anons will be assholes about it but I don't think it counts. It should be your first time with a person you chose to lose it to.
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 10:20:31 PM No.81960433
>>81960377 (OP)
If you get penetrated in the vagina and/or anus, you're not a virgin.
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 10:21:19 PM No.81960444
>>81960433
oh well, my bad, i didn't bleed tho, does that coount for anything?
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 10:22:11 PM No.81960455
>the granny from shreck
hnnng
Anonymous
7/25/2025, 10:22:21 PM No.81960456
>>81960422
thanks, i mean, Virgin
has a very loose definition sooo...its not sure
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 10:22:36 PM No.81960464
you don't have to be a virgin to be raped, i think you're overstating your own case
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 10:23:06 PM No.81960470
>>81960444
Why does it matter? Why do you need the label so badly?
Replies: >>81960488
Anonymous
7/25/2025, 10:23:14 PM No.81960472
>>81960377 (OP)
Of course you are no longer a virgin. It might be cruel, horrible, etc but objectively having sex, consensual or not, makes you no longer a virgin.
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 10:24:32 PM No.81960488
>>81960470
im just curious, i don't care that much
Anonymous
7/25/2025, 10:25:56 PM No.81960503
>>81960472
its not cruel, why would it be?
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 10:26:57 PM No.81960523
>>81960464
i never specified that
Anonymous
7/25/2025, 10:27:23 PM No.81960525
>>81960377 (OP)
>If you get r@ped, are you still a virgin
By technicality, no. But it's a real fuckin dick move to hold that against someone

That said, I can also understand not wanting to be with a rape victim because of the baggage. It will inevitably create some maladaptive patterns
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 10:27:51 PM No.81960532
>>81960377 (OP)
why are you censoring the word raped
Anonymous
7/25/2025, 10:29:04 PM No.81960548
>>81960503
Because one got violated and on top of that also robbed of their purity. So pointing out that they became damaged goods in two ways might be a bit cruel.
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 10:29:17 PM No.81960550
>>81960525
maladaptive? i don't think it affects me anymore, i do get anxious sometimes but its not like i get panick attacks or anything serious, and what do you mean with baggage
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 10:29:34 PM No.81960553
>>81960456
>very loose definition
Yeah people define it in different ways and there's not a 100% physical way to define it. So you can feel about it however you want.
Anonymous
7/25/2025, 10:30:57 PM No.81960571
>>81960548
i think purity is much more than if you had a dick inside you or not, might be just me tho.
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 10:33:39 PM No.81960604
>>81960571
You simply cannot call yourself pure when you had a random, vile rapists shoot his stinky load deep inside your body, sorry.
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 10:34:30 PM No.81960615
>>81960604
is alright, and they didn't finish inside me btw
Anonymous
7/25/2025, 10:39:40 PM No.81960680
>>81960550
Generally (and I do mean GENERALLY, there are plenty of exceptions) rape victims develop emotional problems, attachment issues, and either become avoidant of sex or develop strange fetishes/fixations as a cope.

I don't know you, I don't know your situation, and I don't know a damn thing about your sexuality, you might be completely normal or fucked up beyond belief.

I personally wouldn't be against dating someone who was a victim but I would be concerned about how they were affected by it.
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 10:42:48 PM No.81960713
>>81960604
No one can take your virginity from you, you have to choose to give it. It should be with someone special that really cares about you. Rapists don't get to take anything from anyone.
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 10:43:49 PM No.81960732
>>81960680
yeah your right i have weird fetishes, maybe its from that
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 10:45:26 PM No.81960756
>>81960713
if you say so, thanks bro
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 10:47:17 PM No.81960774
>>81960732
>have weird fetishes,
Anything related to non-con or power dynamics?
I don't necessarily need specifics, but those are indicators that it may have affected you a bit.
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 10:49:25 PM No.81960811
>>81960774
yeah, spot on, is it a bad thing? i don't see how it could affect a future partner
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 10:49:28 PM No.81960813
>>81960756
Np m8, you take care.
Anonymous
7/25/2025, 10:55:13 PM No.81960891
>>81960811
>is it a bad thing? i don't see how it could affect a future partner
That's up to you and your future fella, I guess. We all have traumas. I, for example, am extremely racist and I know at least part of that comes from having been gang stomped as a kid for being the white kid on my bus.

Said experience(s) have also made me hyper vigilant in public and I feel legitimately anxious leaving the house without a gun. But it's never caused me any issues and has actually helped me prevent some bad situations.

So realistically, as long as you can find a guy who is willing to work with what you have (or maybe enjoys what makes you tick) you can turn it into something good. Read up on post traumatic growth, if you get the time. Bad experiences leave scars, sure, but you can turn said scars into strength if they are channeled properly.
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 10:55:58 PM No.81960899
>>81960713
No, the definitions are very clear. Virgin = someone who's never had sex. Rape = unconsensual sex. Thus a rape victim can never be a virgin.
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 10:56:49 PM No.81960911
>>81960377 (OP)
it doesn't count unless you were dressed like a whore
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 10:56:57 PM No.81960914
>>81960891
you racist? hahaha you would hate me then
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 10:57:58 PM No.81960925
>>81960911
i was a kid
Anonymous
7/25/2025, 10:58:40 PM No.81960931
>>81960899
Well, virginity isn't a real thing so you can define it how you like.
Replies: >>81961059
Anonymous
7/25/2025, 10:59:23 PM No.81960942
>>81960899
depends on where you look at them. Some people describe it as the rupture of the hymen, which didn't happen for me, but then again, is all subjective
Anonymous
7/25/2025, 10:59:40 PM No.81960946
>>81960377 (OP)
thats what so horrible about being raped, they steal your virginity and ruin you forever and thats soemthing someone will carry with them
Anonymous
7/25/2025, 10:59:44 PM No.81960947
>>81960914
>you would hate me then
Not automatically, but I'd probably be a bit standoffish. Especially if you act ghetto
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:00:57 PM No.81960964
>>81960947
whats ghetto? cheetah print? im not very good with slang
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:04:28 PM No.81961017
>>81960964
Certain vocabulary is a big part. Being loud. Cheetah print, sure, but also like Gucci bullshit and fake nails

For guys it's a lot of the same vocabulary and then wearing wife beaters and basketball shorts, gold chains, etc...

Go for a walk in a shitty neighborhood of whatever city is nearest you and look at the black people that are hanging around outside.
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:05:32 PM No.81961028
>>81961017
oh, then you wouldnt hate me
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:05:37 PM No.81961031
>>81960377 (OP)
Objectively you're not a virgin but i wouldn't hold it against you morally
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:06:57 PM No.81961048
>>81961031
aight bro, cool
Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:07:34 PM No.81961059
>>81960931
Of course it's a real thing. You might deny its significance but not the existence of the concept.
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:09:51 PM No.81961089
>>81960377 (OP)
not a virgin but i wouldnt fault a girl who got raped for not being virgin
all other whores and sluts get the burned at the stake though
Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:10:53 PM No.81961105
>>81961059
>existence of the concept
Sure sure but the concept is defined by people. It's not a real, objective thing.
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:13:13 PM No.81961134
>>81961028
Probably not. If you're on r9k and can read then chances are you don't act like a complete nog.
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:13:27 PM No.81961138
>>81961105
No, it exists in the real, tangible world. Either you had sex or you didn't.
Replies: >>81961195
Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:13:28 PM No.81961139
>>81960377 (OP)
You are not, most men wouldnt care since it wasnt a choice made by you, most women lie so most men will assume you lied, being a virgin does not matter to most guys since they are losers and will still date/marry you with this in mind, i personally like my property to be exclusively mine, otherwise id never risk my neck for them and replace them the second i can get better or they get too troublesome. grok caveman brain me.
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:14:24 PM No.81961150
>>81961139
property?...im not even going to comment on that
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:15:33 PM No.81961166
>>81961105
>murderers aren't a real thing, they exist as just a concept
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:15:33 PM No.81961167
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>>81960377 (OP)
Imagine good it would feel to rape a virgin.
An intense nut
Foids deserve jeet penetration
Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:16:14 PM No.81961183
>>81960422
>>81960377 (OP)
Technically you are not a virgin
Spiritually I'd say yes you still are

hope this helps :)
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:16:19 PM No.81961187
>>81961134
are caribbeans nogs too? its a question i always have had
Replies: >>81961289
Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:17:03 PM No.81961195
>>81961138
>Either you had sex or you didn't.
If that's how you want to define it. I don't choose to. Not sure i'd even count rape as sex either, really.
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:17:20 PM No.81961200
>>81961183
yeah thanks im just seeing peoples opinions, its quite interesting
Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:18:33 PM No.81961209
>>81960377 (OP)
No you had sex with another person so you are not a virgin. While we can empathize with the fact that it was assault and not your own choice you still got penatrated so no longer a virgin. Same if a guy raped by his priest or something he's not virgin regardless of how awful what he went through was. It's your body being shared with another person and innocence it's not about technicalities. That's why old world religions were so hardline on adultery and marriage rights to deter that kind of behavior.
Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:20:01 PM No.81961233
>>81961166
Murderers are people that kill people. Those exist in real life. Virginity is a social construct made up by people that had no grounding in reality. It doesn't physically exist. So you could define it however you want. Like those born again virgins, you probably wouldn't count that as being real but they believe it is.
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:22:32 PM No.81961267
>>81961150
Why not? Explain. If you want ill explain why i used such word, it is not used in a demeaning or bad way, but the fact you see it as such is interesting to me.
Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:23:08 PM No.81961278
>>81961233
no
>murders are people who have killed another person
>a virgin is someone who has not slept with another person
both are the same concept where you are applying a label to someone based on their actions
Replies: >>81961359
Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:23:46 PM No.81961289
>>81961187
Like Jamaicans? Yeah. Subsaharrans, North Africans, Aboriginals, Caribbeans, etc... all fit into the category of hominids with underdeveloped frontal lobes and a decreased capacity for advanced cognition. Hence why despite trillions in aid Africa is still a shit hole.

Not to say it's impossible for them to act human. Thomas Sowell, for example, is a brilliant economist. But Im not going to ignore the aggregate for a few exceptions.
Replies: >>81961412
Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:24:37 PM No.81961305
>>81960377 (OP)
Depends on the circumstances, if she got "raped" by being retarded and putting herself on situations like going to a party alone and getting wasted, hanging out with drug dealers or other scumbags, then I wouldn't consider her a virgin
If she was targeted by a grooming gang, abused by a family member or something similar then I would consider her a virgin (in an abstract way I guess)
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:25:36 PM No.81961323
>>81960377 (OP)
>chat
>r@ped
Why are you doing this here?
Replies: >>81961346
Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:26:21 PM No.81961333
>>81961305
you obviously didn't read my other reply about me being a minor at the time of the events, so no sir, no parties for me
Replies: >>81961469
Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:27:22 PM No.81961346
>>81961323
i have instagram vocabulary, wasn't intentional
Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:28:32 PM No.81961359
>>81961278
Nah because you can say someone is physically dead after someone murdered them. You can't say someone is physically not a virgin.
Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:31:59 PM No.81961412
>>81961289
I'm not that dumb :p But I can't really argue after checking the intelligence stats of my country...so fair point
Replies: >>81961468
Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:35:55 PM No.81961468
>>81961412
>fair point
I try not to be irrational about it. I don't go around screaming "nigger" at the top of my lungs or anything and I'm more than willing to be civil if someone is willing to extend me the same courtesy.

But I also do remember getting the shit beaten out of me by kids twice my age for being a cracker.
Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:35:57 PM No.81961469
>>81961333
How old?
And in which country?
Because I've knew of girls (13) who were already partying with adults or hanging out with drug dealers at that time (they do not count as virgins btw)
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:37:29 PM No.81961491
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>>81960377 (OP)
>chat
please stop
>If you get r@ped, are you still a virgin or nah?
no, but it doesn't hold the same meaning of "giving" away your virginity, it's not like you willingly gave your first time away. what made you want to ask that specifically? kinda weird innit
Replies: >>81961575
Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:38:51 PM No.81961507
>>81961469
well, when i was 6, when i was 9, and lastly when i was 13, country doesn't matter its not like i was in india, and before you accuse me of anything, i wasn't aware it was wrong after some time so there was already nothing i could do about it
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:43:56 PM No.81961575
>>81961491
curiosity, im a very curious being
Replies: >>81961703
Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:45:14 PM No.81961589
>>81960377 (OP)
Are there better pictures of this woman in this cosplay
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:48:43 PM No.81961641
>>81961195
Feel free to offer a better, more accurate definition of virginity.
Replies: >>81961657
Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:49:23 PM No.81961654
>>81961589
https://www.instagram.com/p/DCUZr1KtT8X/?img_index=1
Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:49:43 PM No.81961657
>>81961641
I think its perfect definition, the only ones that are mad are the ones who want to keep the label to seem more attractive.
Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:49:43 PM No.81961658
>>81961507
>6
It obviously wasn't your fault then if it started that early And the country DOES matter, if you live in some middle eastern of latin america shithole (like I do) where shit like that is common
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:53:14 PM No.81961703
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>>81961575
>curiosity
ah

>>81961507
christ you were raped 3 times? was it family, by different people or...?
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:54:20 PM No.81961718
>>81961703
the first one wasn't family, the second one yes, the third one no
Replies: >>81962071
Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:54:56 PM No.81961725
>>81960377 (OP)
No. But at least you arent a whore who gives it up for free.
Overlooking rape is easier than overlooking whoring.
Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:55:26 PM No.81961734
>>81961658
ok bro, my country isn't that bad tho, im just unlucky
Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:57:25 PM No.81961760
>>81960713
>>81960756
Sorry but this is nonsense. It is like saying a thief can never take anything from you because you have to give something to them.
You do not give virginity away in any meaningful sense. You are either a virgin because you never had sex or you had sex and are no longer a virgin.
It sounds like you are not a virgin. Your virgin status is gone and you wanted to keep it longer. That sucks. But dont lie to yourself.
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:59:10 PM No.81961786
>>81961760
status? buddy is not that serious
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Anonymous
7/26/2025, 12:01:37 AM No.81961815
>>81961233
It is not a social construct.
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Anonymous
7/26/2025, 12:02:38 AM No.81961826
>>81961786
It is serious. I suspect you have motivation to wish it to be unserious. However it is serious and everyone takes it seriously
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Anonymous
7/26/2025, 12:02:48 AM No.81961829
>>81961815
objectively it is what are u talking about
Anonymous
7/26/2025, 12:03:56 AM No.81961841
>>81961826
ah, guess ill be lonely then
Anonymous
7/26/2025, 12:09:56 AM No.81961920
>>81961815
It is because it's not something that physically exists
Anonymous
7/26/2025, 12:12:12 AM No.81961950
>>81961760
>like saying a thief can never take anything from you because you have to give something to them.
No because a thief can physically take something from you. Your virginity can't physically be taken from you. The concept is arbitrary, you can define it how you want. Like how born again virgins are a thing.
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Anonymous
7/26/2025, 12:14:11 AM No.81961972
>>81961950
but your ownership of that thing is defined by people, "ownership" doesn't physically exist according to your virginity logic
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Anonymous
7/26/2025, 12:14:22 AM No.81961975
>>81961950
>concept is arbitrary
Then anyone can define it however they like and choose wether you are one or not and make choices based on that.
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Anonymous
7/26/2025, 12:21:57 AM No.81962071
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>>81961718
well that's fucked. i'm surprised you didn't just repress and mostly forget it happened i feel like that's usually the case when it happens that young. i'm also curious about where you're from like that other anon
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Anonymous
7/26/2025, 12:25:05 AM No.81962095
>>81962071
i didn't knew it was wrong, and i wasn't brutalized i didn't even bleed, i was just confused and tingly during what happened, so i didn't had much reasons to repress, no im not telling you where im from
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Anonymous
7/26/2025, 12:25:33 AM No.81962098
>>81961975
>Then anyone can define it however they like and choose wether you are one or not and make choices based on that.
Yeah, that's literally happening in this thread right now. I think you're starting to get it, anon.
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Anonymous
7/26/2025, 12:28:31 AM No.81962134
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>>81962098
Yeah im getting it alright, its retarded and dont waste time on real woman unless she fwb.
Anonymous
7/26/2025, 12:32:51 AM No.81962170
>>81961972
>your ownership of that thing is defined by people, "ownership" doesn't physically exist
True, you could definitely find people that don't believe in ownership. It's not really "real" either. But I figured we both agreed that people can own things and then those things can be physically taken away. Unless you don't believe that?
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Anonymous
7/26/2025, 12:36:43 AM No.81962211
>>81962170
I do believe that, the point I'm making is that we need definitions for things that are widely agreed upon or else communicating with people is confusing.

You can have a different definition of virginity but when talking to people about virginity you should clarify that your definition is different to the norm
Anonymous
7/26/2025, 12:38:35 AM No.81962232
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>>81962095
>didn't knew it was wrong, and i wasn't brutalized
that's what i was saying is that when it just sort of happens, like with molestation, people usually forget about it but it sticks around in their subconscious.
>no im not telling you where im from
well alright then
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Anonymous
7/26/2025, 12:40:32 AM No.81962252
>>81962232
i guess i just remember more than others...