Thread 81960641

>scared of men
>never had an irl bf
>grew up on 4chan
>infiltrated an incel server and had long distance e-bfs from there
>some of these guys turned out to be crazy
>left the server mindfucked
>now even more scared of men

>>81960641 (OP)
how come you people can't notice a person being crazy before dating them? do you just date anyone who gives you attention?

>>81960641 (OP)
I had a similar experience. one incel from England made a cyberbullying/hate gc about me, but he wasn't from 4chan, he was from a discord server that had nothing to do with 4chan. I knew he was a incel since he told me a year ago that he couldn't feel love and wanted to.

Just try to make new friends and get away from him. don't let him back into your life even if you love him (like I did)

>>81960641 (OP)
Unironically by finding someone who cares. Feck off

>>81960641 (OP)
>long distance e-bfs
>from an incel server
>turned out to be crazy
Yeah, shocking really. Who could have seen that coming. Pro tip: you don't date people online and especially not if you've met them on 4chan. Hope this helps

another day, another shit bait thread that will get 50+ earnest replies

>>81960641 (OP)
ok but when did i ask

>>81960653
>>81960674
i obviously don't mind if a guy has mental health problems. i have issues myself. i just expect them to not hurt me which you can't predict until it happens. i've met incels who are great people.
>>81960662
i'm sorry this happened to you. i will never go back. i hate them now.
>>81960684
if you think i am baiting then don't respond retard. thanks for the bump though lmao.

>>81960765
I don't like the idea of e-bfs but it is a lot harder to meet irl these days.

>>81960641 (OP)
Why don't you people ever go with volcels then?

>>81960765
i think you should throw yourself off a bridge

>>81960765
>i've met incels who are great people.
excuse me, but if you met great people, then why didn't you try dating them instead?

>>81960796
don't volcels want to stay single and where am i supposed to find them? the monastery?
>>81960849
i literally have..?

>>81960849
>i literally have..?
why are you no longer dating them?

>>81960859
>don't volcels want to stay single
Or they could be looking for someone very specific
>where am i supposed to find them?
Uhh here?

>>81960641 (OP)
Things that never happened award

>>81960641 (OP)
>Scared of men
>Decide to date actually lunatics
>Goes badly
I don't even know what to say

>>81960765
>i just expect them to not hurt me which you can't predict until it happens
Yeah but you can massively reduce the risk by not e-dating mentally ill losers. It's like only dating people who've been previously convicted of domestic violence and then saying you can't predict if they'll beat you up or not. Just go out into the real world or stay single, why do this shit to your self?

>>81960641 (OP)
Yeah, I've been purrsonally victimized by some purrely evil r9kers too....they can be scary

>>81960989
Where do you guys meet these lunatics?

>>81961009
Women love abuse Chads, there's not much more to it

>>81960869
we lived too far away for it to work out.
>>81960875
their standards must be very high then.
>>81960945
believe whatever you want, i don't care.
>>81960959
>>81960973
okay but throughout the relationship, we got along normally. the crazy ones start acting crazy when shit goes south or if you don't do what they want. it was a mistake for me to date them but it's not like i knew it would turn out like this.

>>81961054
>their standards must be very high then.
Maybe, or might just be looking for someone niche

>>81961009
I met them on the board, I forgor there were servers...they pretend to be nice guys until you're hooked...and then you hope for them to be what they were in the beginnings again but they just become more scary...it's scary to be tricked like that by narcs, bpd guys or socios....

>>81961054
>we lived too far away for it to work out.
what's "too far away"? if you two really loved each other you would have worked through it, many such cases

>>81961054
>but it's not like i knew it would turn out like this
I mean, you did kind of choose to date the guys with massive red flags waving above their heads. For the future, just don't date people you meet online and don't date incels and you'll be fine

>>81961054
>i don't care
>keeps replying
Have another (You), I'm in a good mood tonight

>>81961211
we were in different continents, hard to work through if you're not rich.
>>81961241
why do you view being an incel as a red flag? i didn't.

>>81961054
Where do you live pookie?

>>81961489
Incels are incels for a reason, and it's usually not because of their height or negative canthal tilt. Incels tend to be inexperienced, bitter, resentful and suffer from various mental illnesses (attachment issues, anxieties etc.) that make them overall shitty partners. It's a bad choice if you don't want to get hurt.

I say this as an incel myself

>>81961537
Coastal Texas. Why?

>>81961572
Damn that's too far. I would have married you.

>>81961592
Ew i wouldn't marry a beggar

>>81961537
i can't share that.
>>81961572
why are you responding on my behalf larping faggot?
>>81961559
but there are incels whose looks and personality i find attractive. normies don't get me like they do.

>>81961648
>i can't share that.
You can be vague. Give a continent.

>>81961648
>but there are incels whose looks and personality i find attractive. normies don't get me like they do.
You can date whoever you want, just know that other incels will be the exact same to what you have experienced before or worse. You don't have to pick literal bottom of the barrel losers from the insane asylum just because you don't like normies

>>81961648
Gtfo my thread imposter

>>81960641 (OP)
>date incel
>he hurts you
Are you like, surprised by this? They're incels for a reason.

>>81961691
Alright. Midwest

>>81961733
i mean, i am scared of men so i am not planning to date anyone anytime soon. but if i did, i definitely won't be looking in incel servers. i don't know what other options i have though.

>>81961751
what do you mean for a reason? i am the one who had a bad experience with incels yet you are demonizing them more than i do.

>>81961785
There's a difference between someone who can't get a date and an incel. Incel is an adopted identity. People who adopt that identity are virtually all trash who blame their problems on the world around them instead of introspecting and working to solve their problems productively. An incel server is going to be even worse, an echochamber full of trash just amplifies the trash signal to hell and back.

>>81961766
The best option would probably be through hobbies or shared interests like gaming, movies, sports. Should be easy to find people in your area for that. Most men are at least decent people who don't want to harm others and are just looking for a genuine connection, I'm sure you'll find what you're looking for once you get over your fears. Just take it easy and don't rush into anything

Are you a virgin OP?

Originally of course

>>81961935
I had a black boyfriend in middle school but i don't think it counts.

>dated a nigger
YIKES

>>81961822
i see. i like certain aspects of incel culture but some other aspects of it are unhinged. i think it depends on the person.
>>81961935
yes. i did say i've never had a bf irl in op.
>>81961969
stop responding on my behalf retard, you're unfunny.

>>81962080
>i like certain aspects of incel culture
Honest question, which aspects? I really can't think of anything unique to the incels that I would want salvaged.

>>81962119
i think blackpill theories about dating are all correct and their sense of humor is hilarious.

>>81962160
Aren't blackpill theories about dating trivially disprovable by just going outside and looking at the couples? Or talking to an actual woman? I always considered those people delusional given that they fully reject observed reality in favor of some schizo babble nonsense they made up to reinforce their own world view (which itself is constructed solely to absolve them of any guilt for their poor life outcomes).

>>81962186
they are not delusional, humanity really is that obsessed with looks. i have never seen anything in the outside world that cannot explained by the blackpill.

>>81962241
>i have never seen anything in the outside world that cannot explained by the blackpill.
ugly people having families with ugly people?

>>81962241
I see ugly guys with attractive women all the time. I see ugly women with attractive guys all the time. Looks are a component to attraction but they're not 100% of it and some people are more or less motivated by it than others. It is absolutely a delusional thinking pattern invented to defend their malignant world view so they don't have to admit that their own personal failings are the cause of their misfortune.

>>81962261
>>81962948
these bluepills? on my /r9k/? unbelievable.

>>81962977
I was here before this blackpill nonsense and I'll be here long after it's gone

just date me, I'm cool & laid back. its that easy

>>81960641 (OP)
Personally am an incel and never was in any of these groups, most people outside cant even believe even if i told them im related to incels. But why the fuck would any guy date you unless theyre desperate? and people talking here like 4chan guys are the buttom of the barrel as if the girls here arent even more so. You have to be SUCH a major failure as a woman to be here. Good luck regardless with this.

>>81960641 (OP)
literally just meet people you enjoy hanging out with outside of relationships until you get over it.

>>81960641 (OP)
>asks incels
Are you retarded, or just that much of a loser that you have no other place to go? If it's the latter then I'm sorry