>>81968932>I've also listened to men complain endlessly about how easy women have it and women who are okay with being female so I don't know who to believeLife is easier for a single man, and harder for single women from what I've seen and experienced. If the struggles of being single come from a lack of socialization/loneliness, I completely understand where you are coming from but I don't think this is the answer. Even the socialites exhibit loneliness.
Furthermore, by being trans, you are now seen as competition to a certain subset of women that will make you feel included while never actually including you. It doesnt matter if the men/women you find only want to be with trans women specifically. To them, your existence is at odds with their goal: of not being single. If you didn't exist, there would be more (wo)men in the pool. Its an irrational way of thinking, but the people that think like this are irrational. I don't even need to explain the type im talking about in any specific manner because it is just that common that I know that you know.
You say you want to take control of your life and I feel you. My advice? Pick up a hobby or interest you left behind in your youth. Approach it with the mindset of adult you, in all your wisdom and knowledge you might not even realize you have. Focus on the difference between then and now. Alternatively, try a "feminine" hobby you've never experienced like gardening or something. To me, it just seems like you're nihilistically depressed from existential boredom, and realizing how far you've come already is all you really need bro.