I wish I could cuddle with a girl platonically, but I know I'll ruin it by accidentally getting a boner making her think I'm a creep

>>81968553 (OP)
Yeah, I think about those like paid cuddle services or those platonic cuddling sites and I wonder how that's dealt with. Like I really want to just cuddle with someone but if her ass was against my crotch, I'm gonna get hard. No way to avoid.

>>81968553 (OP)
>>81968667
There's reason women only cuddle after sex, you have to put out first.

>>81968708
>reason women only cuddle after sex
Pretty sure that's men

>>81968718
Did you not read the OP and the first post?

>>81968553 (OP)
Jokes on you, I always wanted to cuddle a girl, place my boner between her thighs and just sleep in peace.

>>81968667
so girls don't get turned on by cuddles and we all just have to live our lives according to a few sex repulsed individuals? people who use those places are emotionally mature enough to understand that intimacy can cause arousal. its how the body often reacts to stimulation and is completely natural. however it's not an open invitation to start dry humping or should be treated like a hookup spot but few are going to shame you over it if you're respectful. those types who do make a constant problem out of it are more likely to be asked not to return because they're the ones disrupting what is to be a safe environment

>>81968802
>so girls don't get turned on by cuddles
Definitely not with me but yeah I'm sure they do. It's just that it's not as physically noticable for them. Which makes it less awkward. You sound like you have some experience with this. Do you get paid to cuddle or do you do it for free?

>>81968802
>its how the body often reacts to stimulation and is completely natural
it sounds comforting
but I'm still too unsure and maybe insecure

>>81968835
How do you know they weren't turned on if it wasn't noticable?

>>81968891
Oh, I haven't done this before. It's just a guess because I'm ugly.

>>81968835
i've had the opportunity to cuddle with lots of people and they often get turned on regardless of overall attraction or being a normie or not. the only times I've heard or experienced different is when someone was being abusive and faking a relationship for companionship. mostly because they have a low opinion of themselves or are closeted and settled on someone by taking advantage of their love

>>81968974
>i've had the opportunity to cuddle with lots of people
That's really cool, I'm jealous. How do you find people to cuddle with? You're a woman, right? I've only gotten to cuddle a couple of times in my life and it was with one person. Been like 5 or 6 since that though I think. Really miss it. Might scrounge together some money and pay someone or try those cuddle buddie sites.

>>81969013
i'm sorry sweetie. jealousy wasn't my intent but rather sharing my own experiences as a girl. often I just kinda put myself out there to see who else is looking for the same thing be it only cuddles or a hookup thing. other times it comes from being friends first or cuddle pile at a convention

>>81969084
I haven't hugged anyone in over 15 years.

>>81969103
that sucks. I'd give you a hug if I could. hugs are nice

>>81969138
It's better you don't. I'd be afraid I wouldn't be able to ever let go of you.

>>81969084
>sorry sweetie. jealousy wasn't my intent
No, it's okay. I know you were just sharing. I was just trying to say that I think it's cool. I wish there was more affection in my life.
>kinda put myself out there to see who else is looking for the same thing
Yeah idk I'm pretty bad with people and I'm kinda ugly. Haven't had much luck with that. I've been trying to do better though. Actually have a couple friends nowadays, so that's good. But they're guys so we don't even hug or anything. I did actually get a hug from a girl a couple months ago though. Which was really nice. Was the first hug I've gotten in 5 years that didn't just feel like an obligation from someone. If that makes sense. But I probably won't be seeing her again, unfortunately. So it's back to the drawing board for me.

>>81969166
oh. ok. if you say so. I respect your personal space and won't shame you for it

>>81969212
How are you so kind?

>>81969202
you can still hug your guy friends and shouldn't count them out but I think I understand. you want girl hugs and intimate cuddles that go beyond platonic. it's not a standard for me outside of a relationship but I kinda feel the same way

>>81968553 (OP)
if I move out of my parents and get a job, that's a big aiaf
but if I do I'll try to get a kitty to have someone to touch and pet

>>81969274
years of abuse and not wanting to just become bitter while doubling down. I get upset when being mistreated and made to look like a angry bitch but who doesn't

>>81969405
I'm sorry. It's always the ones that get hurt the most that are capable of the most kindness.

>>81969353
>can still hug your guy friends
It's not like I'm necessarily against it but it's not something that's reasonably going to happen. They'd 100% call me gay if I tried to hug them. Not unless somebody died anyway.
>girl hugs and intimate cuddles that go beyond platonic
I mean, an actual relationship would be nice but I'm not really wanting more than hugs and cuddling. I would prefer it to be with a woman though I guess. Hugging other men doesn't really feel nice usually.

>>81969429
Thank you but no need to be sorry. If there is one thing i learned it's that some people are so broken they can't even fathom someone wanting to be altruistic without it being self serving or some other bullshit. the world is full of people that want to drag you down to their level and are only kind when they have something to gain but it doesn't mean everyone is. And yeah. Sometimes it's better to be better in that regard

>>81969353
You only hug your guy friends as a guy if he's dying or you might not see him ever again, or maybe if you are really close, like brothers and he's going through a really rough time like a family member died or something. You are not going to go and cuddle in bed with your bro, fucking hell that is cringe. Fuck no

>>81969503
you have to make sure to say no homo first then grab their ass

>>81969503
>>81969593
This is some of the most toxic masculinity and sexually insecure bullshit ever perpetuated

>>81969503
>>81969593
>>81969598
>>81969617
>hey bro get into your pajamas and jump in bed beside me bro, let's watch some anime and cuddle together
[little spoons you]
*mwah*
>love you bro, no homo

>>81969617
>most toxic masculinity and sexually insecure bullshit ever perpetuated
Yeah sure, I'm not denying that. But that doesn't exactly change the reality of the situation.

>>81969617
NTA, but I do give hugs to men from time to time. But it absolutely doesn't make you feel the same as hugging a woman. I still think about those few times I hugged girls years after the fact. It just felt so nice. Hugging a guy cannot replicate anything even remotely close to that.

>>81969687
>It just felt so nice. Hugging a guy cannot replicate anything even remotely close to that
Yeah, I feel the same way. I would naturally assume that it's biological but I suppose it could just be how we're socialized too.

>>81969636
just two completely straight guys showing respect

>>81969687
>>81969747
which is understandable. this comes from wanting intimacy from your mate or lover and its completely fine. if you're not sexually or romantically attracted you're not going to feel the same way regardless of gender which can lead to a lot of abuse and confusion in the relationship
Still. Hug your guy friends even if you need to hide it with a close handshake

>>81969636
I'd do that with a bro
not gay btw