I'm a 25 years old, male. Just was at a meetup with some school friends who I haven't seen in ages. They are the only people I still have contact with. They all told me about how great their lives are. New girlfriends, new careers, working out, house deposits. One of them is even getting married (I'm not invited). I said I was happy for them. They asked if I had any of that, to which I lied and said I work as an electrician and have had a girlfriend for 3 years. Truth is I have no goals in life. I'm completely defeated. No job, gf, car or even real friends. I'm a complete introverted weirdo who watches conspiracy videos on YouTube and plays vidya to pass the time. I would like the things that they have and have tried in the past. But I just gave up on all of that. I stopped going outside about 2 years ago. The isolation is killing me. I'm embarrassed. All the friends I had no longer talk to me despite me messaging them. They never bothered to ask how I was. I want to restart my life to go back and try harder. I don't want to feel like this anymore but I don't have any motivation. I've never claimed to be depressed or suicidal, nor did I think I ever would. But I feel it strongly now, like things are not going to get better. I remember I used to make fun of people who claimed to be depressed in school. Now, I realise I'm that guy. The world is so fucked. Rant over, you can make fun of me now.

>>82056426 (OP)
boohooo nigger get your shit together nobody will live your life for you your choice

I'd love to tell you it gets better, but I'm not sure it ever will, for you or anyone. Young men are kinda fucked rn, best thing would be to just find a hobby other than vidya to realise yourself in, that's what helps me

>>82056487
>>82056426 (OP)
yeah unironically this I'm getting into competitive martial arts right now, it might sound kinda gay but after every fight where i just hug my opponent after or talk about techniques it kinda helps the touch starvation a little bit.
probably gonna zog out too because who cares if i die in the middle east find something to do and get obsessed with.

idk anon same situation, i'm unhappy, but i can't set a direction if i don't have any goals. problem is i don't seem to want much of anything. these days i just want to eat and sleep whenever i'm not waging my life away. i've been stuck like this for 5 years.
i think you should keep in mind that you have the power to improve your situation, but you have to want it. if like me you want nothing, then i guess it's kind of hopeless.

>>82056426 (OP)
You easily lied to all your friends and said your life was great
But you assume that your friends are all being 100% perfectly honest when they say their lives are great.
What you have to realize is you have no idea what's really going on with their life. Lots of people hate their jobs. Lots of people get married in a last ditch effort to save a failing relationship. Lots of people buy houses with mortgages they can barely afford and spend the next few decades working themselves to the bone to pay it off. They feel trapped by the very jobs, relationships, and houses of which you're jealous. People in their 20s are especially prone to lying because you are all so desperate to appear like you're doing well. That's why you lied, after all. Why not them?
If you're lucky enough to get back together and hang out when you're 35 you will all look back at the wreckage of your lives and bond over all your regrets. Divorces, bankruptcies, layoffs, illnesses, drug addictions, failures, etc. Few escape unscathed.

>>82056426 (OP)
> They all told me about how great their lives are
Life is not a race, anon, you can find your way on your own time
> Truth is I have no goals in life. I'm completely defeated
So find goals, find what you have a passion for or really want. It's not too late.
> The isolation is killing me
It gets better. Take it from me (7 years neet)
> I've never claimed to be depressed or suicidal, nor did I think I ever would. But I feel it strongly now
I am a suicidal thoughts survivor. And had depression (so much I was malnourished). It gets better. Even if your situation won't change, you'll adapt.
> All the friends I had no longer talk to me
Then they're not really friends.
> I would like the things that they have and have tried in the past
If you still want it, try again. Not to be cheesy but it's not about how hard you hit but ho much you can get hit and keep on moving.
TL;DR: It gets better either way, take your time choosing what you want to pursue and do it.
Take care of yourself and goodluck, anon.

It is a hard time for young men anon. Stay safe

this world is boring. you will just meet the same versions of people over and over. any relationship you make might be gone tomorrow.

people with families/gfs aren't automatically more happy. usually they have even more things to worry about.

you feel stuck but you don't want to change your algorithm

>>82057489
OP here. I want to change but yes I feel stuck. Any advice on how to free me?

>>82057504
You're making the mistake that lead you to stagnation in the first place

You expect change to come from an external. A good friend. A loving girlfriend. A self-help guide. Someone who will save you.

You need to create it yourself. Alchemize your sphere of control.

>>82057504
>I want to change but yes I feel stuck
The question is what do you want?
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Theory_of_constraints