>>82084892 (OP)>withhold affectionI know this is a dumb, attention-seeking foid, but agreeing to sex with the unspoken expectation that you'll get something in return, in this case, pampering after sex, is called a covert contract. This is on the same tier as your bf doing the dishes for a week, and you think he's just being nice, but then he starts badgering you for sex. It's weaponizing what you did or didn't do for another person in order to get what you want from them, and it's teetering on abuse.