>>82135824 (OP)people are so fearful of being trick, used or harmed they rather do nothing. To cope with it they weave stories of how the other gender is the problem, or the culture, or any other number of things to make sure that they never try to do anything that might risk hurting them, be it their pride or actual bodies they sooner rot and die alone than risk being effected by "normis" or women/men. Thus, they become doom.If you want to discover being loved of having good friends, you'll always have to risk being hated or worse being outed as the idiot you are.