I'm a 5'10" overall median guy who somehow managed to "turn his life" around and it didn't require incredible resolve or some life changing experience, I just had to dumb myself down and try things out over and over for a bit.

Overthinking about action what is screwing us up; overthinking about past failures, past pain, past this and that, what could happen, and repeated (but gradual) exposure and trial over it until you get jaded towards it (even just partially) is what changes the game and I think what could save you and what to do is what's really screwing us and what screwed me over. I only got my first job at 22 because I was a huge overthinking NEET mess who thought that unless I could do things perfectly, it was better to just wait for a better opportunity. On top of existential nihilism.

I am now 28 and progressively went from part time worker, virgin, retard, zero friends at 23 to somewhat of a normie right now, with a good job, a few skills, a decent body and even a gf.

We overthink how hard things are AND overreact to slight (or even significant errors) we may commit when doing said things. We overthink the pain, overthink life, overthink things that aren't meant to be thought about too deeply since you cannot just just solve them intellectually, as it has been tried already by men vastly smarter than us with no real conclusion. Literally everything is easy and baby tier. I've worked in 6 different fields (9 different jobs) since I started waging and none of it was hard. Only a few men are truly skilled. I've had 23 dates and in none of them did I feel like I was facing a wall I couldn't climb.

>>82172607 (OP)

In the beggining, you're helpless and unsure, and that's fine, be it for work or women. The beginning is about surviving long enough until you somehow get a lucky break and famliarize yourself enough with things. That's usually the part where most people just straight up abandon. They start, face a wall of novelty and uncertainty and get btfod by it because they overthink the failures and mistakes they make. It's fucking nothing, do it anyways, suffer bullshit that will make you feel bad for like a few minutes to a few hours at worst to then never ever come back you will both get better at dealing with that shit and eventually just get one or two lucky breaks that will go your way. Failures aren't some kind of humiliation rituals normies love, even when things don't work out professionally or socially, people end it quick and try not to be vehemently evil dragging it out to embarass you, you're supposed to both move on and try again.

None of the things that scare you are that hard in practice, and I can confirm as a man who went from kissless hugless virgin at 23 with a artial job to normalfag at 28.

Women aren't evil or scary, just don't get attached. Sex isn't some abstraction, it can happen quite easily. You're not hated and you're not a freak, you mostly don't even register. You're not incapable or retarded, you're just unexperienced and stressed, and you'll get better with time.

Do not give up. I've seen men in their 30s and 40s come back from worst case scenarios than me. You can do it. You're not doomed to fail and it is not too late. This is emotional residue and it's hard to just ignore it but trust me, it's just that, and if you endure it you'll get a lucky break.

>>82172607 (OP)
>Overthinking about action what is screwing us up
I agree, but i'm 28 yo this year and still a fucking loser
Just wanna die

>>82172607 (OP)
How did you get those jobs? Do you have a college degree?

>>82172607 (OP)
Why did you begin this post with your height?