>>82195813 (OP)>Why is it so hard for me to just attract a guy and get a bfYou can befriend men and if they are to your likeing, give them hints and nurture the relationship (like being flirty or give him a gift to show you think about him, laughing from his jokes or being cocerned about him like how his day went and so on) and wait for them to make the move (initiating touch or even going for a kiss. Depending on the situation and the guy's cofidance in himself and/or if it'll not end in a rejection) or even confess. Confessing esp is rare for a girl to do and is appritiated greatly, from experience (just don't do it in a text). Be your genuine self and lower the guy's defences and show him you're not playing games which will spare you shit-tests and show if you're really compatible. If he's attracted to you he'll show it somehow (maybe a gift to show he's thinking about you or feeling the water with a flirty text or comment, a compliment and so on. Depends on the guy and his confidance in himself and in the relationship). You want to show interest and be open to a relationship without seeming too slutty or desperate or a creep (though those can be a guy's type). It's a fine line to walk but is needed.
>the few friends I have all have or have had bfsLife is not a race and you have time to feel your way around relationships and what you are looking for and want from being with a guy. I'm currently dating a girl with very little experience (I was her first) and we work out since we're communicating (a fancy word to talking about stuff) and guiding eachother to the goals each of us have in this relationship (like being treated a certain way and going places and such. For example, she doesn't like to be called a good girl, unlike an ex of mine, I like spooning after sex and so on) which can prevent awkward or unwanted situations and lead to chemistry.
Sorry for the blog post, hope this helps.