I was feeling extra shitty today, so I made a Discord account and joined some local servers. I don't know what I expected, but I'm still disappointed.
>gossiping over celebrities
>blasting shitty reggaeton on VC
>politics
>exclusive channels for "content creators"
I give up. I need to get out there but I have zero friends to help. What the fuck do I do?

>>82199765 (OP)
Are you in college or anything

>>82199770
Yes I go to university but I don't talk to anyone there. The times I have spoken with other people, I've cringed after the fact for how bad it must have went. I'm easily embarrassed and afraid to take the slightest risk.

>>82199765 (OP)
>joined some local servers
What are those? How do you find them?

>>82199785
University sounds like a lot of people, I never had that chance lmao
If you don't want online friends here's what you can do. Look around to see how people talk because I don't know what kind of people go to your uni
Talk to classmates (start with autist guys if you want to or guys in general) about things you have in common (enviroment, homework, prof etc.). Be relaxed. Do this slow and steady so that others will know you exist before you try to be friends with them.
Join a club or a sport since you can become friends with your teammates easily
If you have any old friends or acquaintances try to reconnect with them
Tell me how your social interactions went so I know what you need to fix

>>82199822
Just look up your city or country on Disboard.
>>82199832
>Tell me how your social interactions went so I know what you need to fix
There was a kid in class from another country but I had forgotten who it was so I awkwardly asked two people who looked "different" where they were from to spark up conversation and they both just said they were from here lmao.
I also asked for advice on a project from a girl in class who had a bf that would later show up to class without being part of it and just watch her work. I was very nervous the first time I spoke to her and after seeing her tall bf everywhere I realized how pathetic I must have come off...

>>82199877
>they both just said they were from here lmao.
and then?
>I realized how pathetic I must have come off...
How did she reply

>>82199895
>and then?
They let out a weird smile, like it was supposed to be obvious.
>How did she reply
She just gave me advice on the project and cut the conversation short.

>>82199906
>They let out a weird smile, like it was supposed to be obvious.
I don't think it's that bad. But it's likely they were laughing at you for asking a dumb question.
I'm 2nd gen immigrant and when people ask me that I tell them my original country (that I wasn't born in) because it's obvious that's what they asked about.
>She just gave me advice on the project and cut the conversation short.
Sounds uninterested but polite regardless. You just like to hate yourself because of minor shit.

Learn to care less. It will make you more chill and confident. Don't embarrass yourself too hard though, have some limits

>>82199953
If I don't at least make a friend this semester it's over. But yeah, I do not to care less about this stuff, it's just hard to do even after recognizing it.

>>82199969
You don't get what I mean.
You need to care less about things that don't matter (was I awkward? do they hate me?). You'll never break out of autism like this.
Your thoughts become your reality. Fake it till you make it you get that

I know a better goal. Until the end of the semester try to learn as much as possible about how people your age socialize. Observe. Be a part of the wave. Or pick a popular guy and copy him.
And always try because it can take a few months from being an outcast to getting invited to hangouts here and there (as a side character at least). That's how I did it. Now I'm almost fully neurotypical. 2 years ago I was just like you believe it or not

>>82200004
I'll try that then. Observing can't be too hard. And that it worked for you gives me some hopium.

>>82200047
One strategy if you can is to befriend someone that is sociable and also is friendly enough to welcome you. If he invites you to stuff you can befriend his friends and it's easier because you have a mutual. Also copy what you need

>>82200062
I had a friend who was more sociable than me, became mutual friends with one of his friends, and then got ghosted by both. So I'm not too optimistic...