Thread 82200252

I've been called "pretty" and "beautiful" which are rare compliments to get as a dude, but I still know that outside highschool/college I will have to do the approaching myself and while I know women find me bearable and even cute, a lot of the will reject me simply because I'm asian and I don't know if my ego will handle the stress.

>>82200252 (OP)
yeah i have the same problem. people said sometimes i'm cute or good looking etc but i always got rejected except for one time, we went out but then she ghosted me on discord after and privated her instagram lmao

it feels like shit in the days following rejection but u bounce back from it and it hurts less every time, i think you should try at least once just to see what it's like

>>82200252 (OP)
I've never been complimented once in my life. I'm ugly. But I'm also scared of rejection. It would just be another thing to reinforce how much I hate myself.

>>82200252 (OP)
>webm
She kissed a black guy tho. White boys really are that repulsive.

>>82200323
He is just kind of disgusting. What is his obese, neckbearded, inexperienced, unkept hair ass doing on a kissing challenge video?

>>82200252 (OP)
I don't know I guess. There are plenty of personality reasons women wouldn't like me too s>>82200297
o who can say.

>>82200252 (OP)
I don't think I'm chad attractive but I'm not entirely ugly based on other peoples opinion. I also look a lot younger than my real age. I do acknowledge that I have a fear of women (which is most likely and specifically a fear of rejection) so i don't put myself out there as much. I can be pretty awkward for conversing but that'll depend on the person and topic I guess but I imagine it hinders some of my chances.

>>82200252 (OP)

Dunno.

I think I'm attractive to like 2% of females, ok to 18%, and ugly to the remaining 80%.

I'm 40, 5'7, greying and balding but still somewhat fit cause I do cardio regularly.

When I was younger my success rate was something like 2/15 from ages 15-37.

I am definitely afraid of rejection. I might have missed an opportunity or two if I had been more bold. I still feel the anxiety at 40, sadly.

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Its not fear of rejection, its knowing you will be rejected 99% of the time. Fear of rejection is greatly exaggerated to shame men, but if you gave most men 50$ per approach they would do it because its not about fear, its the justified perceived futility of trying.

>>82200419

hmmm, if all I had to do was approach for a little bit I'd take the 50. But saying you'll give the 50 creates another scenario. I'm going to be more relaxed if I go into flirting knowing if I strike out I get $50

>>82200475
>But saying you'll give the 50 creates another scenario. I'm going to be more relaxed if I go into flirting knowing if I strike out I get $50
That's the point. Fear of rejection isn't even the real problem, its knowing you are wasting your time. You give men the slightest guaranteed incentive to approach and they will do it.

>>82200507

Shit that's right. I gotcha now.

Now that my finances are intact I want to get out of these mindsets, but alas lol

>>82200419
It's all about incentives and how the mind is framed. I was raise to believe that rejection is a feature not a bug and guys give each other shit for it as a means to get rid of competition and that the more rejected you are, the closer you be to that "yes". With that story given, rejection still hurt, but I saw it as a step closer to something so with it I got better at socializing and asking out girls until I got that "Yes" in High School and soon after the now 11 year relationship I've had with the same girl, there was no way that was happening if it wasn't for how my parents raised me because I was fueled by incentives of what was on the other side. If I was given "you can do anything" type of parents I wager I would have been a judgmental incel because the incentives given did not exist in the world.

>>82200388
youre a ped doom piss off

>>82200576

wtf is a ped doom?

>>82200580

Oh, I meant 15-37 from when I was 15. 15-17 was one success in high school. 18-37 was another at 28. Sorry for the unclearness.

>>82200252 (OP)
Im ugly due to dysgenic features. Having one of them wouldnt be the end of world but I have several of them. Unfortunate case.

>>82200377

do you fear women, or rejection? I am completely at ease when interacting with women, I don't stutter, tremble or behave anxious around them, but if they reject me I'll dwell on that for months.... even if I played it off as nothing in front of them,

>>82200323
>his mouth is open to give her tongue before theyve even touched lips
>hes not touching/holding her at all
>hes very hesitant and not the teasing heasitant, but the im really just a shy little boy and im sweating bullets rn hesitant

I was attractive enough to get two different girls to ask me out. I'm still somewhat attractive but I'm a hikikomori now.
They both left me though so yeah rejection kind of sucks.

>>82200592
Don't worry about them. There's an entire movement of rotten brain people obsessing over pedos and pdf files.

Real uggo, otherwise I wouldn't bump this thread

>>82200592
>Sorry for the unclearness.

Why are you apologizing to a faggot whose IQ isn't high enough to understand nuance? Are your balls cut off?