>>82200724i protect myself by staying out of dangerous areas, fucking off when i'm at a disadvantage, deescalating with words and generally not being a dick for no reason.
those protection techniques worked almost perfectly but unfortunately that's not what makes a man attractive. what makes a man attractive is simply being able to overpower anyone and anything with no regard for thought other than "i want now". and to be fair it makes kind of sense. why wouldn't you want to be with someone who can get everything simply by existing? and instincts generally don't care for law or even the future in general