Thread 82483960

what's the real reason you're a virgin?

high inhibition shy guy

>>82483960 (OP)
ugly
short (5'11")
non-nt
white

>>82483960 (OP)
>what's the real reason you're a virgin?
i hate myself
>>82483963
also this

>>82483960 (OP)
i never really gave myself a chance to date, never looked for it and was never sought after
and i'm not about to have casual sex since that's gross, so there you have it

>>82483960 (OP)
Throughout high school a group of girls falsely accused me of sexually harassing them, which turned me into a recluse and made me afraid of any interaction with women. I was fat at the time but I became giga obese during my recluse years. Gradually I recovered and now I'm able to talk to women and I've lost 200 pounds but I'm still obese and need to lose 100 more to get to a healthy weight, and then I'll have a shitload of disgusting loose skin... Also I'm bald.

I've started asking girls out anyways but I haven't been successful. Maybe once I lose another 50 pounds.

>>82483960 (OP)
mentally ill/don't care

>>82483960 (OP)
even in high school I've considered myself as a genetic abomination. garbage ppl shouldn't breed. 32, never approached a woman, never will.

>>82483960 (OP)
i struggled socially at school and that mentally stunted me

>>82483960 (OP)
I'm only attracted to anime girls.

I am not a virgin. Still hate myself though

>>82483963
this
autism, high inhib, shy, mother was extremely neglectful

now im old and twinkdeathed and its all over but the crying and the fallout song goes

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N7Fpp2VT5lk

>>82483960 (OP)
>fatphobic doorway
this should be the norm

>>82483960 (OP)
Homeschooling.
Parents didn't want me to ever get laid.

>>82484844
homeschooling should be a crime. Sorry anon, you missed out on key parts of your development due to no fault of your own. I very rarely say this but your parents really gave you a raw deal

could blame it on being 5'9 but in reality its because ive floated through life
like girls have been interested in me before but i just didnt care
now im 21 and feel like i only want to fuck someone if i love them and the only girl ive ever loved hates me now

>>82483960 (OP)
I'm too far behind everything even talking. Im borderline retarded and I have trouble communicating.

>>82483960 (OP)
apparently every single guy here had girls interested in them, except for me
yes I'm white and not short, fat or bald

>>82483960 (OP)
I don't like promiscuous women

>>82483960 (OP)
I am 20, 6 foot, blonde, blue eyes, white, and fit but I am also autistic and I do not know how to speak to women and also I don't want casual sex, only dedicated relationship. Reason is mental issues + most people my age/circumstances (large college campus) want to hook up and idgaf about parties/socialization that goes on at college. I kind of don't care as much as I used to.

I had this funky thing with a woman that is pretty much perfect and I'm not a virgin, but she hazed me and I am a ""hoax artist that needs to screw the bottom of the barrel"" I had to beg and get tased and shat upon and cry to do it about 6 times. I feel nothing but a need for more bad meds that make me fly anyway man.

>>82484863
yeah idk
some kids its better their homeschooled if they get bullied a lot and have no friends and stuff

obviously its good to have friends, but its better to be homeschooled if you are having a horrible time in school. i dropped out at 16 after failing everything because i absolutely hated it

>>82484863
I'm too old not to acknowledge I've made mistakes at times too. But also realize growing up in a bubble and getting tossed out into a world after being cut off from people my age my whole life didn't make it easy.
Girls especially weren't particularly understanding of that kind of thing.

>>82485158
nah hard disagree. I had such a shit time in HS I was hospitalized 3 times but I am still so damn glad I was not home schooled. Not gonna go into it but would not have been prepped from college otherwise and freshman year was some of the most fun I ever had in ym life. Went from having 0 friends and never kissing a girl and failing classes to loving what I was studying, going crazy at parties and making friends I keep in touch with still today

>>82483960 (OP)
I'm short, ugly, long hair, not muscular, unmasculine, unconfident, undominant, autistic, socially awkward, shy, timid, boring, unintelligent, radical leftist and opposed to all gender roles (even in romance), poor. Probably other stuff too. So no woman will ever want me even though I'm a nice, caring, easygoing guy. They'd rather suffer to please Chad

>>82483960 (OP)
They all want dedicated relationships before sex and think any sex that isn't formally announced is by default casual because they're all severely autistic.

>>82483960 (OP)
I isolate myself.

i don't leave the house much for anything but work

i have had social anxiety issues for 22 years

i can't think well when i speak compared to how i type i think it's cause i have made the internet suck a large part of my communication rather than speaking

i am just not normal at this point

talking to people for longer than a few minutes builds up the anxiety

i am way more in my own head

i am not great looking, pale and somewhat overweight

i have been told i am annoying and treated like shit when i have expressed myself in the past

i don't want to pay for it

i don't use the apps

i'm not wealthy

i live with my mum

i'm 35 years old

self loathing since childhood, possible birth defects
fetishistic oddball, isolation retardation

>>82483960 (OP)
Retarded whore sluts don't want guys like me they only want abusers who treat them like shit and give them no attention. No foid has ever approached me to say hi or introduce herself. Any foid who would want me would be a used up whore in her 30s who just wants a roof over her head and would undoubtedly cheat on me and cuck me with her personal trainer for some nebulous reason. Maybe I didn't put the dishes in the dishwasher the correct way or left the toilet seat up. It could really be anything. The man wouldn't even need to be more attractive than me. In fact, any woman who would settle down with a gentleman instead of an abusechad would already be scraping the bottom of the barrel, so likely the type of guy she would cuck me with would be in his 50s, ugly, below-average penis length, not particularly good in bed, not very romantic, and smelly. Nonetheless she would because foids cheat to hurt their man primarily, pleasure is only secondary. If we had any kids she would go out of her way to get caught so that I would try and divorce her and ultimately have my children taken away from me. She would gradually turn them against me and the kids I love would be like strangers to me. Maybe in their adulthood they would come to understand how treacherous their mother was but it would be too late. I would have missed their little league games and elementary parties. I would have missed their first boy/girlfriends, their prom, sending them off to college. To them I would be nothing more than a distant relative. There would be some sort of responsibility to me thanks to blood, but no real attachment or love. That is the fate I am destined for, all because I happened to be born as a gentleman. Nevertheless, I will do EVERYTHING in my power to defy fate and acquire for myself a slim, bookish, flirty, bubbly, reserved, green/blue-eyed, brunette, freckled, nubile virgin foid who loves me dearly. Maybe I will kidnap her. Maybe I will purchase her. Whatever it takes.

>>82483960 (OP)
I'm sex repulsed after having a disgusting, abusive childhood. I have absolutely no desire for sex and physically couldn't get into it when I ended up with a friend in my bed.

Emotional child abuse, being the hated enemy in a country I don't belong in, and being brutally assaulted by a girl who was probably crushing on me. Don't touch me!
It's very frustrating to women who date me and expect a move to be made.

>>82483960 (OP)
My parents sabotaged my health and neglected me, so I was always unattractive and I always felt worthless. Even if a woman told me she wanted to have sex with me or do anything remotely affectionate, she would have to do something extraordinary for me to not only believe her, but also be convinced that it isn't some sort of trick to ruin my life.

>>82485432
Ellie anon please either look up the definition of catastrophizing or find a nice journal for your self-insert cuckoldry short stories. Maybe a cute one with one of those decorative locks and you can wear the key as a necklace you can hold for support and comfort if a woman ever decides to talk to you.

>>82485491
Infidelity is actually VERY common. Also it isn't a story it's reality for a man out there.

>>82485712
anon you are very sick. Please get off the internet and get professional help

>>82483960 (OP)
I hate myself so much that I am fully convinced that nobody could ever love if they knew me. Exposing myself would only be an exercise in humiliation and rejection. I am coward.

>>82485723
No, I'm really not. I'm completely rational and reasonable, and professional help would go something like this:
>Hello, welcome to therapy anon, what seems to bother you
I would like to date a loyal virgin but unfortunately that seems very unrealistic these days, putting me at a crossroads
>*presses incel panic button under desk, barely containing her hatred and disgust* WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU DISGUSTING INCEL CHUD??? YOU HAD BETTER TAKE THAT BACK AND DATE THE ROASTIE
Huh?
>Swat team bursts in and executes me for DARING to have any expectation WHATSOEVER for female behavior.

>>82485791
More likely they would just address your feelings and interrogate your desires directly and ask about why you believe the things you do but you're so dead set on playing the victim that naturally you would take umbrage with having to actually defend your delusions about all women being inherently evil for living life without capitulating to the personal desires of an adult virgin who has to fetishize his pseudo daughter in a videogame because of his own hangups about not controlling others and being afraid of sex.

>>82483960 (OP)
for the same reason I remained a NEET until 27, I'm fine this way and no external factor is forcing me to change

>>82486085
Were you too weak to resist feminism? Is that why you hate me so much?

>>82486229
I don't hate you. If I hated you I would just validate your silly shitposts like everyone else

>>82486277
Well then maybe I will take your advice and go see a therapist. Alternatively I could simply find a pure daughterwife in real life and then my very valid concerns would be addressed and there would be no need for me to complain.

>>82483960 (OP)
More than one reason.
>Old
>Fat
>Ugly
>Lazy
>Dumb
>Boring
>Socially stunted
>Self-conscious
>Degenerate with too many fetishes with my main one basically being pussy repellent
>Haven't stepped outside the house since COVID
>Stopped trying to talk to women years ago
>Nothing to offer (no car, no money, no house, barely average dick)
I've reached a point where I don't think I can love someone even if I wanted to. I have zero interest in over 99% of women, I don't find them attractive. I'm a stone cold incel, unironically.

>>82483960 (OP)
because i hate women even though im popular with them. i think i want sex, but i dont. i think i want a girlfriend, but i dont. i just use women platonically as a sounding board and for favors but always keep them at arm's length and if they have any romantic power over me (even if its unintentional) then i run away.

>>82484642
>autism, high inhib, shy
Yet another here. Except with a twist.

My BPD evil single mother molested me for like 12 years so now I'm a straight bottom male. There's maybe 1 woman in 10 million into being a straight dom top, probably less, unless you pay them by the hour. All my sexual experiences have been initiated by women (well, one evil one) and that's what I desire psychologically.

>>82483960 (OP)
I was homeschooled. Not that I think it mattered much. The few girls I have met have shown zero interest in getting to know me at all. I'm almost 22 now.

>>82483960 (OP)
>average/below average in literally every way
>antisocial af with no irl friends
>0 interest in pretending to act like a normienigger
i feel like trying to socialize, let alone date, nowadays is borderline impossible.

>>82483960 (OP)
>never tried until 27-28
>have only tried with girls online
>still live at home
>don't drive
>fat
>bald
>i have no interests that women like
>am currently entirely broke NEET for years
>nobody in my vicinity made it clear enough they want to do that with me

>>82483960 (OP)
I think I'm borderline asexual from years of isolation.

I never actively tried and I'm not attractive nor interesting enough to entice a woman to initiate
And now it's been far too long that I'm both terrified by the idea of having sex and disgusted by the state of the women that would theoretically be available to me (and I know that disgust is a two-way street)

>>82483960 (OP)
I'm a pedo and everyone in my hometown found out about it.
Even though i like adult women, i'm exiled from the dating pool

>>82483960 (OP)
im too stuck in my head and dont know how normies work

>>82483960 (OP)
saving it for my potential autust 4chan bf because guys on here are always talking about how virginity is mandatory so I'm saving it for him

>>82483969
5'11 and white
nigga you are a fakecel

>>82484062
wow congrats on the weight loss anon!

>>82487951
Only nonwhites are fakes. Whites get banned from jew hookup apps simply for being proud to be White- whereas blacks can be supremacist all they want.

Because I have standards when it comes to women. I don't demand 10/10 from looks but the mental state and just how they see the world and operate in it is crucial. Most of the women are just literal womanchilds who think they can do anything without any sort of consequences

>>82483960 (OP)
Many reasons.
The biggest reason is that i unknowingly reject or show disinterest immediately towards girls who approach me for conversations and hung out a little bit with me in my school years.
They ask should we hang out, I say "Yes", I then walk away thinking we gonna hang out another day sometime.
They ask about me, I just answer or keep focusing on whatever I was doing, they stop eventually.
They say they like me and I say I like "insert X" totally other thing.

The second biggest reason is that outside of school and those few interactions when women try to hang with me I have only talked to women for school projects and now when Im 34 years old I have only talked to women at work, about work and some small talk of course, but thats it.
I have spent 80 percent or more of my total free time just playing PC games from ages 13 to 30 years old or so.

There are other reasons as well on top of that, so you can imagine.

I personally would say that once I'm more "grown up" now the biggest reason is that there clearly are certain "lines" or "ways" to "talk to women" as an adult. If you do not follow those "lines" starting from the first impression and "Hellos!" you will never have them as your girlfriend.
Its like a very complex "Dating sims" or "Choose your path" games when you try to get relationships going in a school setting or something like those weird anime games.
But instead its real life with endless options and no restarts.
Impossible in my opinion.

The only girl who's ever expressed a desire to have sex with me lives a 16-20 hour flight away

I've never met a woman that I wanted to have sex with. I'm straight, I find women attractive, I just don't find them attractive enough to get physically close to and fuck. Unless one decides to rape me I think I'll never have sex and that is a-ok.

>>82483960 (OP)
I'm lazy and don't like talking to people. Don't have what women want nor can I be bothered to get it

I'm waiting for my waiting night so I can give my virginity to my fiancee.

>>82488541
*wedding night, not waiting night. Fuck I hate myself sometimes.

I'm scrooge and porn is enough for me.

>>82483960 (OP)
mix of reasons but mainly choice. i could never shake the feeling that women are pretty rotten creatures. i thought for a while that being gay would be better because you could be with a man but honestly gays have their own fucked up relationship problems. i don't know which one is worse, honestly. there are straight men who handle it well and those that don't, and it's the same for gays. it's not a matter of your sexuality but what kind of charisma and cool-of-mind you have. the conclusion being that it'd just be better to die, if i had to choose. of course if naturally rerolling into a brain that enjoyed life and was charismatic and had naturally-loved type personality then i'd go for that, too. but if hetero male then you still have to deal with competition, which i hate. honestly i'm gonna change my answer to competition. i hate the idea of having to "hold frame" or "defend" my woman. like if a guy comes up and asks for her and she suggests anything other than saying no on her own, then i'd just break up with her and the world can just have her. my partner needs to choose me.

>>82487956
>>82484062
I'm here for you. Are you doing cardio only or are you putting muscle on?

>>82484062
are you leaning into the bald look? shaving it all off completely and trying to look clean regardless? (i know pic related isn't fat but he's the first bald guy that comes to mind)

>>82483960 (OP)
A combination of not willing to put in the work and not knowing any women due to jobs I worked just not having them for example. I am just never around them if I go about my business.

>>82483963
Same, but also just a general apathy towards meeting new people, so I can't fathom actually putting in effort to get to know a woman. I also never want to marry and have kids, so relationships kinda scare me, as I fear I'll get emotionally attached and agree to things that will destroy my comfy life. But ultimately, being very introverted means I've never been desperate. I just never treated having a gf as an important goal and masturbation has always been good enough for me.

>>82483960 (OP)
Despite being 6' 1 and having a good looking face (according to others), I am autistic in a way that's unlikeable for 99% of women. My interests do not follow the flavor of the month internet trend, and my attitude supposedly scares away the few women that share one of my interests with me.
I fail to empathize or care for the majority of other people, and usually, after i start feeling something for a woman i met somewhere, i usually realize that i never even loved her in the first place.
No matter how handsome or fit i might look, i stutter a lot when i cant talk in a preset way, and i am very bad at starting conversations on my own.

>>82488580
I've lost the weight through diet alone. I have some dumbbells and do curls every night because I know women like forearms but any exercise more intense makes me too hungry and I overeat after.

>>82488599
Yeah, I was coping with a combover for a while but I recently shaved my head completely bald and grew a little stubble. I'm still experimenting and might let it grow out a little bit but I think I've lost too much hair to grow it out again.

>>82488580
Oh, and thank you for the kind words.

>>82486576
You'd think so, but there's more of those out there. The immense mental trauma might moreso be a problem. You'd end up with a bpd/npd chick because that's the only love you've ever known