Thread 82813736

So I'm a volcel girl, who lowkey wants a relationship but I don't want to sleep around before settling. But these days I have become so lonely, and damn, being in a relationship is tempting. Thing is, I think men just want to sleep around, so I avoid them like the plauge.

>>82813736 (OP)
My lady pls post bobs and vagene, bitch lasagna

>>82813736 (OP)
what about being in a relationship is tempting for you?

>>82813736 (OP)
>I think men just want to sleep around, so I avoid them like the plauge.
If you take holding off seriously, you'll keep guys that will take you seriously. "Letting hit after a few months" would not be taking it seriously, keep in mind

>>82813736 (OP)
>I think men just want to sleep around
what a coincidence, my dear horseball poster
turns out a lot of men here think exactly the same of women, so you tell me, are both sides right or are both sides wrong and retarded?

>>82813736 (OP)
You are posting on a board for low impulse control retarded misogynists. If this isn't bait then you lowkey are a moron. Good luck.

>>82813766
Both sides are right and wrong, it's less about gender, more about people. I said what I said because men have a higher libido, so I would assume they would want it more. This does not exclude shitty women ofc.
>>82813765
Wise man you are. I have been courted once, a man 2 years older than me went through my aunt to get to know me. She never gave him my number bc she thought he was a bum.
>>82813764
To be loved, and to show love. I want to do things with someone, not just intimacy. I want to hike, and to travel, and walk and cuddle ect. I want a close companion. I hope me and my husband become best friends

>>82813812
I don't identify with all the incel/volcel crap; I'm just a KHHV currently. However I think I have the same idea of relationships that you do. I don't really get the point of sex beyond occasional fun times and procreation. I agree that one's partner should be their best friend, not just someone they fuck.

>>82813736 (OP)
Bait used to actually make me feel anything. This is just sad poor attempt. also misspelled plague. Lurk more if you asking these kinds of questions.

>>82813812
>Wise man you are.
It's common sense... Something lost in modern age
>She never gave him my number bc she thought he was a bum.
Cockblocked by aunt. Fear I'd usually be the same if I had more balls than brains

>>82813736 (OP)
I just want to sleep around with girls who have slept around. I would date a girl who hasn't slept around. I don't know how prevalent this sentiment is among men, but that's how I personally feel about it.

>>82813776
This guy is right. How can you be this stupid?

>>82813776
>>82813913
God damn you two have humped each other in several threads now. Did some misogynistic chad steal your girl lmao

>>82813863
Right? Its very stupid to be honest. I don't feel jealous of people my age that sleep around, but I get increasingly lonely. I want a companion for life. But at the same time, i don't want to approach someone yet, because I want to make sure I become the right person before entering someone's life. I want to make their life better, but to do that, I have to become better.
>>82813870
Well I don't consider what my aunt did as something bad. Apparently she and him where buddies, because his mom and my aunt were friends. I had never even talked to him. I didn't even know his names, we just went to the same high-school and he saw me in the hallway.
>Fear I'd usually be the same if I had more balls than brains
Wdym?
>>82813913
>>82813776
Wdym?

>>82813897
But sleeping around is just so... pointless. It's just satisfying physical desire. It's useless really.

>>82813812
>it's less about gender, more about people.
oh wow, i wasn't expecting something sensible here, damn lol
but eh, like you said, it's more about people, so this deal about men wanting it more goes out the window with that
there are men with low or no libido at all, so...

but then again there are also high libido men who don't sleep around, lol
a lot of guys just jack off a lot but have no interest in being with whores or otherwise being promiscuous, this board has plenty of examples in fact

but i guess just try and make friends, you said you wanted to be best friends with your future husband yeah?
well, make friends with him and then escalate

>>82813776
>low impulse control
Nigga r9k has the exact opposite problem. Do you really think that robots are doing things like catcalling women?

>>82813954
>I don't feel jealous of people my age that sleep around, but I get increasingly lonely
I do both lol
>Wdym?
If I didn't have brains I wouldn't know I'd be rejected immediately because I'm a bum, I'd also probably be asking older people I know to introduce me to their daughters/granddaughters/friends of my age. But, as I said, if I had more balls than brains

>>82813930
Trust me bud, I had more sex in the past 5 years than you will ever have.
Also, you never called me a liar, you got mad and started insulting me. Do better loser

>>82813812
>I want a close companion. I hope me and my husband become best friends

Where do you live femanon? I know I feel the same and I've seen plenty of men on this board say similar things. Maybe one of those robots isn't too far from you.

>>82813973
>satisfying physical desire
yeah that is its purpose

>>82814020
Your act is so lame and boring. Mad you have spent your whole day doing this for attention.

>>82813812
>I want to hike, and to travel, and walk and cuddle ect. I want a close companion.
that sounds good, but highly unlikely given how the dating scene is right now. you got dating apps, where people just go to get hook ups. you got men that don't approach women anymore, because women have been acting weird for a while. women don't approach men because that's now how they were raised. right now, everyone is scared of making a move, but making the wrong move as a woman isn't nearly as punished as if you were a man. so please shoot your shot yourself, OP. hiking, traveling, cuddling and walking are things that about any man would enjoy doing with a person they love.

>>82813736 (OP)
You can literally date and just not sleep with them for 3 months as a ground rule.

>>82814081
Get your head out of your ass. She won't let you hit lil bro

>>82813985
I actually have another plan mind. You see, when you become friends with someone, you can overlook all their shitty traits, if i then escalate things, I may find out he is abuse Chad. Then what should I do? I need to assess him objectively first. I am preparing questions for finding a potential spouse. Then, I become buddies with him, then ATTACK! and bag him for myself.
>>82813994
Honestly, I respected the fact that he was trying to be respectful. But I found out he was talking to another girl so I got the ick. But anon, you should sometimes have more balls than brains.
>>82814023
I am not a retard, I will never do such a thing. Thanks for the advice tho anon.
>>82814092
I actually don't mind making the first move. I once told my sister this, and she thought I was insane. But I cant lie, if I se the one I want, I will grab him. Hopefully. For now I will wait, I need to improve myself before I bag him. Can't be a 4channer and married. I refuse.

>>82814109
No, I want to wait till marrige

>>82814165
I dont give a fuck about anything the whore is saying. Im talking to you. Seething attention whore bitch this is probably the most interaction you have gotten in a month

>>82813736 (OP)
okay so do whatever you want with them
obviously if a guy wants to fuck you outside of your schedule you're not compatible
are you worried about being manipulated and giving into sexual attraction and pumped and dumped?
then just remind yourself of your rule
>guys sleep around
I have never seen a vagina
maybe what you meant by "guys" is not someone like me though. probably. who knows. hope you find what you're looking for and it all works out.
I've been told before that they just wanted someone who loves them as they are and not to rush things. well, joke's on me. apparently other guys are okay to rush with. while I thought I meant something. oh well. I'm unlovable and deserved it.

>>82814197
>I actually don't mind making the first move.
that's good. though being a 4channer isn't the worst of things. just make sure you're actually a person capable of love, being able to care about those around you, able to get and keep a job, having hobbies. 4chan is something you can leave behind, but being on here doesn't automatically make you a bad person.

>>82814213
why? what's the point of that tho
where you from?

>>82813973
There are multiple male-specific (generally) benefits to it:
>You're indeed getting off.
>You're satisfying the need for sexual variety.
>You're constantly practicing effectively attracting women, therefore maintaining skill and keeping your head in the appropriate emotional state to be attractive (e.g. abundance mentality).
>You can build friendships that are more emotionally intimate because of the sexual component.
>You don't have to wonder whether a girl actually finds you very attractive, since for most girls the bar for men to have casual sex with is much higher than one for men to have relationships with, so you're clearly clearing both. This also means you won't have to jump through nearly as many hoops to have sex with them and neither will you have to bring as many external things to the table like commitment to get it, since you just inherently have such high value in their eyes.
>When you're clearly sexually attractive to many women, a lot of other women start desiring you as well. It's a rich get richer situation.
>Other men respect and envy you. Some might despise you for it, but there's still this clear recognition of excellence in their assessment.

>>82814244
Calm down blud, you're swearing too much. There are kids around here.
Anyways, OP is a stupid bitch who should spend time reflecting on his/her life choices

>>82814267
Doing it as a woman is in general a massive loss. Men look down on you, so do other women, your past will bite you in the butt and in general, people have a bad attitude towards women who sleep around vs men that do. But at the end of the day, even is society says its good for you to sleep around as a man, I believe it decays your heart and makes it difficult to commit to one person

>>82814197
>when you become friends with someone, you can overlook all their shitty traits
you wish
you become even more aware of them instead, lol
>I may find out he is abuse Chad
you'll learn naturally over the course of a friendship

>I become buddies with him, then ATTACK! and bag him for myself.
huh? so you want to bag a guy you haven't even made friends with, just buddies?
now THAT is a case when you may find out he's abusechad, kek

>I am preparing questions
like what? show me this (wip) quiz

>>82814252
Yeah, but I don't want to stay here while being married, or while being a parent. Its not a deal breaker, but definitely not good. I do need to work on hobbies and health, but you are right, it's the ability to love that is the most important.
>>82814259
It's dumb to meet up with people from the Internet like that.

>>82814292
You are actually right anon. I do need to reflect on that

>>82813736 (OP)
>men just want to sleep around
A lot of them do. A lot of women do too. It's difficult to find genuine people any more.

I figure the way to go about it is to be friends with someone for a bit and get to know them before making a move. That runs the risk of fucking up a friendship but at least you won't waste your virginity like I did. Time will tell if it works out, I guess.

>>82814250
No, I didn't mean all men, but alot of them just want to boost their self esteem by sleeping with women. Yeah, the old pump and dump. Some do want a relationship, but they don't want to become a better person, that too, is shitty

>>82814331
Well, I don't want to get too close with him either. I want to be friends, but I don't want it to get too platonic, but I don't want to lead him on too much either. So I need to keep a little distance, and maybe ask him out.

You asked for some questions, so I will give you 2 of them
>If you were to buy a pair of shoes, how much money would you spend on it (give a lower and
upper limit) ?
>What do you think has been the most destructive ideology for humanity in the last
200 years?

>>82814376
How did you waste your virginity anon?

>>82814430
Gave it to the first girl who looked at me twice. Now I'm a divorced dad with basically no dating experience and no prospects.

It is what it is I guess. My kid's fucking cool so I'll be okay even if I don't find anyone.

>>82814351
>It's dumb to meet up with people from the Internet like that.
How is it any worse than dating apps? Sure, there are more freaks here, but as long as you meet somewhere public you'd be fine.

>>82814462
Damn, that sucks. But dude, loads of women find men with custody of the child to be a green flag. If you work on your self, I am sure you can find a better woman.
>>82814474
Using dating apps is retarded too. I don't do either

>>82814417
>I don't want it to get too platonic
you think platonic and romantic feelings don't mix?
well, maybe not for you but for me, they complement each other

>how much money would you spend on it
aw man and i really need new shoes... i'll be buying one with mom later this month, i want her to choose it for me this time
but uh, money? hard to give fixed values (especially since i don't know how much they cost in average nowadays), not too high that it becomes a burden on my finances but not too low that i end up getting some low quality garbage, best cost-benefit one

>the most destructive ideology for humanity
i think the whole thing about consooming has been... the very worst thing in human history as of late
this greed has poisoned people's souls, everyone is so hung up about "having more" and forget about "being more"
greed is by far one of the most destructive things to happen, people covet others' spouses, belongings, status, lands, etc.
when paired with envy, this explains a lot of our current problems/roadblocks

not sure if that's the kind of ideology you mean but, it should count for something, i guess

>>82814490
>loads of women find men with custody of the child to be a green flag
I mean, other single parents I do. But single moms in my age bracket tend to be that way because they're whores.

It's been a few years since my divorce and the only girls that have showed any interest were whores or they were immediately turned off when they found out I was a dad.

Like I said, is what it is. I may find something or I may not. But my options are kinda limited

>>82814522
No no, these are good answers. The reason i ask these questions, is because it gives an insight as to how the person thinks. For example, if you say that ypu wanna buy cheap shoes, it usually means you don't think too far ahead, but the ones that avoid buying shoes to save money think too far ahead. Choices can also be affected by beliefs and general attitudes. Personally, I am a leather boot lover, as they are durable and sustainable, and ofc they are timeless

As for the second question, I think it gives intel as to how the person interacts with media and the Internet. If you say femenis, you usually come from a more red pill background. If you say consumerism, you have a negative attitude towards capitalism. It you say communism, you believe in wester institutions a bit too much. Consumerism is definitely a good choice. But in general, I want to create a kind of litmus test to know if the person is incompatible with me.

>>82813736 (OP)
>>82813812
You're a wise anon. Both me and my wife met each other years ago long distance as virgins (yes I fully believe her on this 100% and she believes me as well, though I personally would not have cared if she wasn't) and we both had the same ideals about sex and dating. Sure we did some fooling around and touching with each before marriage when we got to be in person, but we saved any actual penetration for the day of and it was one of the best days of our relationship since we just got our marriage papers a few hours before too.
I was always indifferent about any relationships as a loner and she was a complete shut in who always wanted companionship. We both improved each other for the better and I can't imagine anyone else I'd want to go out, play games, have sex, travel, or just spend lazy days at home together with. We're each other's best friend and I can't imagine life without her, and now we're even trying for a kid soon
I guess what I'm trying to say is that neither of us thought in a million years we would end up in a happy relationship instead of just being alone for the rest of our lives, and look at how things turned out. Best of luck anon and don't give up on finding your future soulmate

>>82813736 (OP)
I wish there were more women like you, that's honestly exactly what I want. I don't think I can really stomach the thought of marrying someone who isn't also a virgin.

>>82814540
Well, not all of em are hoes. Some have father issues yes, but some do want to settle for a good guy. And all women in your age bracket aren't villains, that attitude is gonna repel the good ones

>>82814642
Omg anon you are living the dream. I hope you and your wife are doing well, and best if luck with the baby!! This made my day. Thanks anon, I wont lose hope! <3

>>82814646
I never said all, I said they "tend to be." But trying to find that one in ten, and then actually being romantically compatible, attracted to one another, emotionally available, etc... it's a Hell of an uphill battle.

Doesn't help that I know very few women due to working in an all-male sector

>>82814613
>it gives an insight as to how the person thinks.
that's true yeah, but some might be weirded out by it, like they're doing an exam to get into some uni or something

>the ones that avoid buying shoes to save money think too far ahead.
you think?
me i just think they're stingy, their ability to think ahead or not doesn't influence it much
it does show you how greedy they are though, and how much they value their quality of life vs their money

>it gives intel as to how the person interacts with media and the Internet.
again, kind of?
it's more so how they interact with the world at large, not necessarily media or the internet, as they can be influenced by those and have their opinions warped
>If you say consumerism, you have a negative attitude towards capitalism.
in my case, actually no, lol
capitalism has brought about a bunch of improvements over whatever we had, optimized a lot of things, but one of the consequences is this consumerism culture
but behind that is the greed in people, that's the root cause of it all

>I want to create a kind of litmus test to know if the person is incompatible with me.
trust me on that one, it'll fail terribly
it'll definitely give you a bunch of insight on the other person so don't be discouraged, but don't take it as some kind of magic 8 ball that gives you a definitive answer
you only know how compatible you are with someone else through interaction, tests like these will only tell you part of the story

still, you're definitely onto something here

>>82813736 (OP)
yeah , that's kinda why i'm following the church , people have misused sex as pleasure when it was meant for union

>>82814686
Damn, your answer hit me like a truck shit. Shit. This is no science experiment damn. I cant empirically get a verdict. You are anti consumerism and probably capitalism oh God that made me trip. Thanks anon, you made me realise I was short sighted. But I feel like i can never actually find out who someone is. Like no matter what I do. They can always change, yk?
>>82814682
Damn. You are in a little bit of a pickle. But it's solvable. Get out more, to the library, the park, anywhere really. But there ain't a secret sauce to finding love. Hopefully, you will find a wonderful missus that brings even more fortune to your life.

>>82814877
>little bit of a pickle. But it's solvable
That's how I figure it. If it's gonna happen, it's gonna happen. Either God wills it or He doesn't.

Hopefully if I can get the job I'm looking for I'll get out more and meet more people. With any luck I'll get a bit more worldly, not just for the sake of meeting chicks but also for my own sake.

We'll see what's up.

>>82814877
>This is no science experiment damn.
aye, people are a lot more complicated than that, lol
i wish we were simpler that we could just understand each other fully like that, but then we'd be so simple, we wouldn't be able to
a real pickle

>You are anti consumerism and probably capitalism
well, i'm not vehemently against consumerism, i think to a good extent it can be beneficial
having more could improve your quality of life, but that by no means should be more important than being more
so i'm anti excessive consumerism (or excessive anything, really), if that makes any sense
capitalism isn't all that bad either, it could improve but it's what we currently have
tons of flaws with it but it's worked better than the alternatives so far...

>you made me realise I was short sighted.
erm... sorry about that, lol (also not sure if sarcasm or real, too dense to tell)
but nah not really, you put a lot of thought into it so no short sight on you

>I feel like i can never actually find out who someone is. Like no matter what I do.
harsh truth, huh?
for many years i pondered about that fact, but i've just come to accept we don't have to
we don't have to understand someone fully to love them or care for them, and even if they change, we'll change along with them
it's up to us to enjoy those new discoveries as much as they'll enjoy finding out about the new us as well, right?
and if they're changing for the worse, it's also up to us to bitch at them and smack them across the face until they course correct (if we care enough about them)

like, obviously your thoughts won't change overnight, in any sense here but, if i'm able to give you something to mull over then i'm glad
you sound sweet and thoughtful, so keep up on your quest to become a better person and find the right one for you, lol

>>82813736 (OP)
>I'm a girl
>56 replies
I fucking hate this board

>>82814462
You have a kid so you already won

>>82814642
How old were you when you met your wife? If you don't mind me asking ^^

>>82813736 (OP)
>teehee I'm single virgin femanon looking for relationship XD
>60 posts in, nobody even bothering to ask the basics
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