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Anonymous No.82816555 [Report] >>82816575 >>82816602 >>82816726 >>82816741 >>82816939 >>82816957 >>82817361 >>82817490 >>82817540
25-34 is the best time to start having children.
Anonymous No.82816575 [Report] >>82816602
>>82816555 (OP)
nah. having kids over 30 is a risk. id wanna start at 25 and stop at 30 personally. not like my opinion matters, im dying alone
Anonymous !HKiI8Junas No.82816602 [Report] >>82816691
>>82816555 (OP)
based digits
well as a guy i think i could push it a bit older, but i'm almost 29 so i guess i'm still at that age

>>82816575
don't sell yourself so short, anon
who knows, you may end up with a cute little mini you tugging on your clothes to call your attention in a few years, for all we know
Anonymous No.82816691 [Report] >>82816703
>>82816602
thatd be awesome, but it takes 2 to tango, anon. and id wanna find someone good to have those kids with, but i hate dating and talking to people, i already gave up on that

still nice to dream about tho
Anonymous !HKiI8Junas No.82816703 [Report] >>82816789
>>82816691
>i hate dating and talking to people
why's that?
i mean i don't hate dating (more like curious about it) and i love talking to people often times, so... pretty puzzling to me
Anonymous No.82816726 [Report]
>>82816555 (OP)
For men with younger women maybe. Old enough to not be retarded, but young enough to play with the kids.
Anonymous No.82816741 [Report] >>82816965 >>82817329 >>82817545 >>82817597
>>82816555 (OP)
>33 year old childless femcel
If I can't find a moid to have kids with by 35 then I will give up and probably kms by 40. Chances of that happening are basically zero anyway, I don't have high hopes.
Anonymous No.82816789 [Report] >>82816826
>>82816703
>why i hate dating
its a lot of effort for little pay off and it comes with so much risk.
lots of manipulative people wait til youre a bit into dating to show their true colours. lots of manipulative men who treat you so wonderfully to then treat you like shit. or theyll lose attraction over time, they might cheat. maybe ill age badly, become haggard after pregnancy, and theyll resent me. you may get lead on by kind words, words of love, but in reality the guy just wanted something casual and didnt actually communicate that at all. theres just so many things going into a relationship that make it scary to me. theres way more than that i could say but i wont
>why i hate talking to people
i feel like i can rarely have a meaningful conversation with anyone, people love to argue over stupid opinions, and i rarely ever feel im free to express myself
Anonymous !HKiI8Junas No.82816826 [Report] >>82816998
>>82816789
>lots of manipulative people wait til youre a bit into dating to show their true colours.
hmm... i can partly agree with this
but to me, manipulative people show their true colors from the very start, the overwhelming majority absolutely suck at hiding their intentions since their actions make it so fucking obvious, despite their words
>or theyll lose attraction over time
yeah no real way around that, we don't know the future

>maybe ill age badly, become haggard after pregnancy, and theyll resent me.
that'd suck so much... i hope it doesn't happen to you, anon
the content matters a lot more than the package, as i've told another anon recently, ironically enough

>theres just so many things going into a relationship that make it scary to me.
i'd give you a hug if i could, i can relate to most of what you're saying
but me i'd still go through with it, i think that if it's meant to be, then i can make it work somehow
i'm confident you can too, if a fuckup like me can then so can you

>i can rarely have a meaningful conversation with anyone
i feel that, meaningful talks are rare to come by
but the meaningless chatter is also amusing, if you pay attention it can tell you a lot about someone, lol
i like exploring all aspects of the people around me, the serious and the goofy, the good and the bad, the sweet and the bitter
>i rarely ever feel im free to express myself
hmm... why not do it anyway? consequences be damned, if others can then why not you?
Anonymous No.82816939 [Report] >>82816998
>>82816555 (OP)
>turning 36 in a few hours
it's over
Anonymous No.82816957 [Report]
>>82816555 (OP)
No, the best time for women to start having children is 16. To ensure the healthiest babies and be able to have lots of them if wanted.
Anonymous No.82816965 [Report]
>>82816741
>Moid
Well, you aren't going to find any man when calling them 'moids'...
Anonymous No.82816998 [Report] >>82817086
>>82816826
maybe its the autism but i nevet see the signs. they seem amazing at it.
it would suck, it wont happen to me tho cause i simply refuse to let it.
some people know the risks and are still open to it, but personally? my heart couldn't take the hit if something bad happened, so id rather preserve myself

meaningless chatter can be amusing, but i mean conversations that feel repetitive, soulless, or whatever. its hard to fully explain.
the social consequences hurt. i watched an online friend group push out people who merely disagreed with them, i had a 30yo woman get so needlessly upset at me over me saying eggs were disgusting. i cant deal with that shit, not expressing my opinions is easier

>>82816939
happy birthday anon
Anonymous !HKiI8Junas No.82817086 [Report]
>>82816998
>i nevet see the signs. they seem amazing at it.
you worry me then, anon
despite me being dense as fuck, i can tell manipulation very easily after being exposed to it so much during my teens and childhood, so for better or worse... yeah
unfortunately no easy way to tell, you gotta see it happen, either with you or with someone else, over and over until you learn the patterns
but usually ask yourself why someone is doing what they're doing, why they're saying what they're saying, what they gain out of it, etc.
should keep you on your toes

>it wont happen to me tho cause i simply refuse to let it.
indeed, you refuse to age badly, true
yeah i agree, you're gonna age amazingly well and become even more beautiful as time goes by, glad we both think the same :^)

>my heart couldn't take the hit if something bad happened, so id rather preserve myself
yeah... i thought that may be the case
you'd be surprised what we can live with, anon
as much as i don't want harm coming your way, if we refuse to get hurt out there experiencing things, we hurt ourselves by shutting the world out
i've been trying to change in that regard as of late, it's a work in progress but it's... going
you can still experiment, just test the waters before you dive deeper, ok? but if not, i won't try to persuade you, i mean i'd do the same (and have been for all this time)

>conversations that feel repetitive, soulless, or whatever.
ah those kinds, yeah i mean if they don't lead to anything meaningful then it's a bust
but usually they exist just to break the ice
>the social consequences hurt.
lol, i'm sorry, i forget not everyone is a loner like me
>i cant deal with that shit, not expressing my opinions is easier
maybe it's not so bad if the people you talk to are open-minded, you know? again, test the waters
if anything just agree to disagree and drop it there, leave if they keep going

anyway, i have to sleep now
thank you for talking to me today, i appreciate you
have a hug
Anonymous No.82817329 [Report]
>>82816741
Country or LARP
Anonymous No.82817361 [Report]
>>82816555 (OP)
There are both pros and cons for having kids earlier and there are pros and cons for having kids later. Not that it matters in my case.
Anonymous No.82817476 [Report]
>Trying to have kids at 34
Anonymous No.82817490 [Report]
>>82816555 (OP)
At least 5
Oregano.
Anonymous No.82817540 [Report]
>>82816555 (OP)
Too old.
18 years is the best time to start having children. Youth has energy to deal with all troubles and work children bring in.
Anonymous No.82817545 [Report]
>>82816741
>33 year old childless femcel
Relax it's over already lol.
Anonymous No.82817597 [Report]
>>82816741
become a single mother and then find a good husband afterwards or be willing to adopt later on