Thread 82889801

Why cant two fearful avoidants just lovebomb and heal each other. I crave to be loved but I also crave to love.
Btw whats ur attachment style

>>82889801 (OP)
fuck your fucking retarded vtubers. theyre the only people allowed to crack edgy jokes now while i have to wage slave my life away. its so fucking infuriating watching these women leech off simps in the video games and platforms i used to enjoy kill yourself

>>82889801 (OP)
Avoidant also but I no longer have the mental ability or capacity to date someone. I've been isolated and antisocial for too long

>>82889835
What made you isolate this badly besides autism sir. Inceldom?

Your first mistake was being indoctrinated by the LMHEC. In other words, come the fuck on hoss.

>>82889801 (OP)
SARU MY BELOVED

>>82889849
Good question. I have no clue, it just happened for the most part

>>82889801 (OP)
I'm severe anxious dependent. if there was a button in front of me that would make all avoidants instantly be killed and tortured for eternity in hell, i would press it without hesitation

>>82889801 (OP)
How do you except either of us to even keep eye contact? If we sat down somewhere to eat, we'd just stare to the side or at our food and anxiously wait to go back home. We'd have to handcuff ourselves together.

>>82889874
Whats the difference between the two i dont get it

>>82889893
What the fuck are you talking about what eye contact has to do with this

>>82889801 (OP)
because you're a liar and won't love me

>>82889924
Fuck you, eat a brick.

>>82889874
>severe anxious dependent.
Hot if woman gay if man
>>82889927
Probably true since you are a man and I am not gay

>>82889893
>We'd have to handcuff ourselves together.
I like the way you think brother

>>82889944
deceived and betrayed yet again

>>82889944
>gay if man
True. It's the reason for my inceldom. Women absolutely recoil at an autistic, needy, dependent man who wants to shower them with love. But it is what it is, I'd rather it be like this than spend one more hour being tortured because the oneitis I'm into is an avoidant who has her notifications turned off and will take 7 hours to respond to a simple text. Fuck all of you avoidants.

>>82889801 (OP)
Hard to say desu. I used to be quite attached as a lover but now I think I become avoidant after a bit. Not sure if that's just me actually losing interest or from years of being ripped out of relationships against my will.

>>82890055
My FA is pretty bad, to the point it never allowed me to start a relationship irl or online. R9k would rape and kill me if they knew about my fumbles

>>82890055
women say they want guys like you and me but it's all bullshit and I hate it

>>82890092
Women never said they liked clingy man. Guys want that not girls

>>82890082
>R9k would rape and kill me if they knew about my fumbles
You're anonymous anon. I'm bored. Let me read some stories

>>82889801 (OP)
>lovebomb
If you're avoidant out of anxiety for intimacy then wouldn't that be an issue? I do like the idea of getting together with someone else who's as anxious about it all as I am and making it clear that even if we're hesitant, we still want to be with each other. Any hesitancy isn't a rejection, it's just anxiety and time is needed to get over it.

Or am I confusing this fearful avoidant thing with AvPD?

>>82889835
Hey, I didn't go outside for 4 years in my 20s and I'm still capable of devotion and affection.

>>82889801 (OP)
>two avoidants

You mean two people just mutually ghosting each other?

>>82889801 (OP)
>Why cant two fearful avoidants just lovebomb and heal each other.
Both too scared to make the first approach. I will never approach a foid, unless she is giving very clear signals that she wants me. Like talking to me and being very eager to engage with me. They never do that. They just stare at me, and they always have a cockblocker there. Sometimes I do too. It's maddening.
>I crave to be loved but I also crave to love.
Semi-relate. I want the former, but have been too long an incel to not be wary of the latter. These days, foids capture a man's heart then destroy it.
>Btw whats ur attachment style
If I had access to a foid, I'd want to have sex as much as possible. I crave being touched and crave affection, but I will never have it. 20+ years incel now. Also, I have to work through a fuckload of performance anxiety, and delayed ejac problems. I can't even cum on my own, and it's tough even with escorts.

two negatives dont make a positive when it comes to dating

>>82889893
hes clearly joking about his disability.

>>82891301
That's a relief cause I was talking out of my ass.

>>82890055
>who wants to shower them with love
On the contrary that is exactly what they want. What they DONT want is a man whose entire life revolves around them. Seducing and maintaining a woman is a careful balancing act of appearing aloof and distant while also making her feel wanted and sexy. The moment she feels there is no more mystery to you she loses all interest.

>>82891578
>Seducing and maintaining a woman is a careful balancing act of appearing aloof and distant while also making her feel wanted and sexy. The moment she feels there is no more mystery to you she loses all interest.
A big reason I despise women, yes

>>82889801 (OP)
fuck off with your jewish pop-psychology buzzwords

>>82889801 (OP)
I have tried but it's only so long before it's what's the point and I'm not worth it. I can be told I'm loved and wanted over and over but I will stop believing it, takes so much trust

Because women absolutely despise any mental weakness in men

>>82889801 (OP)
>Why cant two fearful avoidants just lovebomb and heal each other.
Because that's not healthy and won't lead to a good relationship.

t. underwent something similar

>>82889801 (OP)
Avpd is almost exclusively a male trait, an adaption to compensate for innate foid parasitism

>>82889801 (OP)
i mean im a dismissive avoidant and i don't crave loving or being loved, it all feels very cringy and fake to me so if you poured your heart out to me I'd unironically just avoid you harder and probably ghost you for as long as possible, maybe tease you about it a little. i don't think this type of love would be healthy for either one of us, sorry baby

I don't know shit about attachment styles, neither do I care to investigate, I just want someone like me but obviously that won't happen ever, and for a variety of reasons

>>82889801 (OP)
>attachment style
anxious attachment type, but im male so only used whores want me

>>82889801 (OP)
It's simple. Because someone else cannot heal you.
Say it with me:
Someone else.
Cannot.
Heal.
You.

>>82889874
>>82890055
I am the same and it is just pure hell on earth. Please give me an bpd girl and make me her fp. This is why I don't want to have any feelings for any women anymore at least I can't get hurt that way.

Anxiously attached with a mix of narc abuse. I won't tolerate mistreatment but I'll do everything to keep my moid in check even if it hurts me and him. I make life happy for us because I am always happy as long as he does what he is told. He just has to do chores when told fuck me when told and watch video slop when he is told and go to parks with me when told. Obey me and life is wonderful

>>82893823
>give me an bpd girl and make me her fp
This doesn't lead to happiness.

>>82889801 (OP)
very anxious. would love to meet another person with anxious attachment and create our own codependent leechuationship

>>82893869
I know but at least better than with other women. Better happy for a short time than not being happy at all. I was very happy the only time a girl like that would spamm me, made me feel cared.

>>82893877
god i want codependency so fucking badly with a virgin girl, its unreal

>>82893877
>>82893899
Women don't want that don't forget that outside of bpd girls so pick your poison.

>>82893962
yeah, it sucks, i wish bpd girls could not be whores and also not leave abruptly/ghost

>>82893899
would fix my life and change me for the better..
>>82893962
true but it doesn't hurt to hope shrugs

>>82894029
>would fix my life
same, i call first dibs tho anon

>>82894069
i said it first what the hell !?

>>82893973
Maybe very young ones are not huge whores and just have done some thing online. But they will ghost you at some point.
>>82894029
Hope is a poison that will slowly kill you and is giving you unrealistic worldviews. Just accept how women are and try to deal with it or don't interact with women.

>>82889801 (OP)
this is a fun idea in theory but I have such severe untrust for others and filter the fuck out of my internal thoughts and feelings so much, that I find it hard simply to honestly answer questions as basic as "how are you?". I do not think I'm capable for love again.

>>82894257
Do you need constant affirmation or whaf

>>82894280
it's not that, its more that I've had alot of REALLY bad experiences with people, especially women I've been close with in the past. I can interact with people fine and be cordial, but eye contact and opening up about anything personal is hard for me to do. its like I have an instinct that just keeps me alert and never lets me truly be comfortable around women.

>>82889801 (OP)
It's not love bombing when it's authentic. It's only labeled as such by the insecure and judgemental. Actual Love bombing is a form of manipulation