Thread 83061420

What's actually stopping you from getting a girlfriend? Isn't it just a mental block?
Shouldn't you be anxious? I mean, most people already have a gf or at least have had sex by the time they're in high school or college.

Oh right just let me whip out the girlfriend catalogue and order myself a nice girlfriend from the girlfriend store, and if that doesn't help I'll just go out into the girlfriend vineyard and pick myself a nice girlfriend from a girlfriend tree. Fucking nigger.

That's uh.... not a girl.

>>83061420 (OP)
Being a "boyfriend" to any of these whores is a humiliation. I refuse.

>>83061430
It's really not that fucking difficult. Any man can have a girlfriend.

>>83061420 (OP)
Women not wanting me back? They are repulsed by autistic, shy, nice men like me.

>>83061463
Sure, you can be my girlfriend in that case.

>>83061420 (OP)
>What's actually stopping you from getting a girlfriend?
My wife and I are exclusive right now since we're going to try for a kid.

Well, getting a gf for me wouldn't fix anything. So, I don't see the point of getting one

>>83061420 (OP)
I'm a foid, but bisexual so I'll humor you.
For starters I'm super autist and afraid of human interaction, women instantly know there's something very off about me.
Men try to hit, but I look for only true love. I'm also really only attracted to more feminine men for some reason.

And when I do find love, I lose it and get even more afraid.
Probably not the answer you were looking for.

>>83061420 (OP)
how does HE do it?
squat or bbl?

>>83061647
if he squatted he'd have a wide ass unnattractive man torso

likely bbl

>>83061420 (OP)
Most relationships fail and people don't have much good to show for fucking glorified strangers years ago. Bragging about shit that left them with nothing.

>>83061420 (OP)
I'm scared now what?

>>83061420 (OP)
I don't know when it's socially acceptable to flirt or even to approach someone and I'm self conscious and afraid of emberassment.
Also I would only date another virgin.

>>83061420 (OP)
I don't have any kind of mental block. I am and have been actively seeking love.

>>83061420 (OP)
I'm ugly as fuck and have bad social anxiety. I also just hate people in general and want to be left alone. Any woman I'd be interested in doesn't exist.

My life is bad and I'm extremely far behind (34), in addition to all the bad mental that got me here in the first place

It's not allowed to be profoundly mentally challenged then have a gf. We get pizza Jill the predator who buys pizza for retard and needs rape from retard. Retard action for 30months of hugging themselves. We are too stunted most of the time for Stacie's and need death but are not klonning and weird. Fucking addicts need help for sheer denial of others. The term is not what you think and I am profoundly mentally challenged myself. They simply ignore the call of their mate, drug and victimize me in favor of doctor jeets and good sex because I'm not right and they want doctor jeets money, orgasms from fleeting love and kids from non challenged people and I know that. I literally cannot be broke ever or truly inferior or underpowered challenged which I am and this is hell. I want justice badly. Because of that I am destined to become the owner of a leper suitor that gets me shot and gives me bad kids because of sherm and needing help. And succumb to her as my wife is what they want and the wife gets mean over rape that is not really rape. Then I get skull raped in a concentration camp and given dead children as a punishment for thirst for belles except for from leper. I truly admonish you all NOT. People are definitely having an intervention for retardation of mind and motus to the point of rancid retards from "good sex".

>>83061420 (OP)
my tiny penis isn't made for fucking

>>83061639
Where are you based? Because you're kinda my dream girl..

>>83061420 (OP)
My looks in the original sense

I'm not sure why intimacy repulses me. Maybe Ive just been touch starved for too long but yeah that's why.

>>83062452
I fell asleep.
I'm from Canada the western part.

>>83061420 (OP)
This guy used to be a Russian soldier and he transitioned soon after leaving service, I wonder what happened while he was in the military..

>>83063004
Every time a woman says "autism" on 4chan or r9k I have to ask do you have an actual diagnosis? You don't need a diagnosis if you're bleeding profusely from your nose for something to be wrong, but self diagnosing might not be accurate. Women aren't expected to be as social as men are and women are naturally more quiet and more to themselves, so I have to ask if it is really autism or if you're just a woman being a woman.

>>83063004
Oh damn, I'm in Florida. Hope we cross paths someday.

>>83063059
Yes. I was diagnosed at age 7. I truly struggle with social interaction, bullied through school, people become offended or upset at my lack of eye contact, seemingly offensive things I say, and talking to people often makes me want to scurry away like a mouse.

i'm above average looking (still worse than my chad parents) but that's it.
I'm a 35yo khv broke neet with pretty crippling mental illnesses. Basically wasted my whole life in my room afraid of everything.
I don't even blame women, i'm aware i have nothing to offer. Also i always had extremely low libido and zero desire for companionship so i never really tried but i know i missed out on an important aspect of life. I think it's just too late now

>>83063093
Well, I understand it isn't easy but if you're a woman you have it a bit gentler in some ways. I'm not trying to make it a competition, just that women have less of an expectation to be the one to make a move. Are you white? Side note question

Because the person I want to be my gf is my mom so...

>>83063134
it's still been pretty hard especially with how sensitive I am.
I'm part white part whitexican, I'm pale with brown hair and green eyes.

>>83063244
Any chance you listen to the cure? You're a quarter mexican white canadian? Lol, nice mix. Are you relatively functioning autistic? It is a weird thing where it is in your head but isn't. I think you know what I mean.

>>83061845
>>83061420 (OP)
>>83061431
>>83061845
white women are the reason i believe there is a God

I hate being circumcised too much to be comfortable with a relationship, or even casual sex.

>>83063304
Same
Why would they all choose to subvert God if he doesn't exist?

>>83061420 (OP)
real answer is i've gone without one for so long i don't care anymore. besides even if i did no one would want me.
there's a new girl at work who i think might like me (i am 30 years old and this is the first time in my life i have ever gotten any positive attention from the female sex whatsoever) and i've just been thinking of ways of turning her down.

>>83063280
HAVE I INTERACTED WITH YOU BEFORE?

no way. I'm a bit functioning. I'm currently living with a roommate but I have to really try hard to keep things clean. I get sensory overwhelmed and emotionally overwhelmed easily.

>>83061420 (OP)
Every girl in my university either has a boyfriend or has a Chad they're pining for.

>>83061420 (OP)
What's stopping me is women hate men.

>>83063363
No, we haven't. I would have no way to prove this but other than the few replies we've had, I legitimately do not know you. Lol. I just figured and took a shot in the dark, you're autistic, you're a woman and sensitive, you listen to the cure. Cure lover confirmed. Does it feel like light messes with your orientation a bit when it gets to be too bright? Idk if i'm autistic, never been to a doctor, but I might have some of it. Like wanting to be alone a little more than usual.

>>83061420 (OP)
a girl in my school said she likes me but she's ugly, and idk what to do. I'm also ugly as well so i know the smart thing to do would be to get with her but im genuinely not interested

>>83063466
it's more noise and visual overstimulation that affect mey such as busy streets. I've added people off r9k and soc before and sent a picture of me in a Cure shirt, long ago. I tend to get more easily attached to people who have similar issues to me.

finding a "gf" is easy as fuck if you are able to lower your standards, but it's painful to go shopping with a 3/10 while you see other men with 7/10s. i dont even mind if she's a bit fat, but I just cant attract any woman that makes me feel in love, with butterflies, like how I felt in high school and college with 7s and 8s.

I lost in life. Im not going to subject a woman to me not being in love with her. Only good looking people are capable of truly loving each other. We're just the parasites feeding from the leftovers

>>83063551
hm. Maybe it's not love but lust, I would say I'm a relatively attractive not socially but in appearance and while I do have some physical standards, I've certainly loved people conventionally "below" me and couldn't look at anyone in the room but them.

>>83063551
exatly how im feeling rn anon

>What's actually stopping you from getting a girlfriend?
I am ugly and assume women would not want to talk to me.
>Shouldn't you be anxious?
Theres no should or shouldn't. you can decide how to feel. I feel pretty relaxed about it.

No girl is interested in talking to me.
I try interacting with a girl and it all feels so dry and she get uninterested withing seconds.
IM SO TIRED OF MY STUPID CHUD LIFE!!!!

>>83063532
They're a good band. I wouldn't say they're my favorite or one of my favorites but they are good at what they do.
Some times lights get really bright and it makes things sharper, idk if that is autism though. Could be caffeine. Idk if caffeine gives you everything else that might be autism. Never been diagnosed.

>>83061420 (OP)
im absolutely sick of being forced to interact with others
why the fuck would i jump through hoops and struggle to make it even worse?

sometimes it makes more sense to give up than walk 90 miles uphill

>>83061420 (OP)
>ad sex by the time they're in high school or college.
Actually not true. 50% of guys under 20 are virgins now according to studies. I also don't like whores and most girls seem to be whores now.

>>83061420 (OP)
>Picrel
Thread can end now.

>>83061420 (OP)
I require no validation nor status. I can cook my own food, clean my own living space, seek adventure and friendships on my own. I do not feel any particular way about anyone. No anger, no envy, nothing.
I can go to events on my own and enjoy myself without company.

I do not care for your deepest motivation. I understand that fact causes you excruciating, unbearable pain. You will deny this fact and even lash out in retaliation as if I have struck you, but you will not change those who have no desire to change.

>>83061420 (OP)
>What's actually stopping you from getting a girlfriend?
Social anxiety, depression, shyness, social retardness, ugly, no confidence etc
>Isn't it just a mental block?
You could look at it like that, yes
>Shouldn't you be anxious? I mean, most people already have a gf or at least have had sex by the time they're in high school or college.
Sure, but there is not much I can do. I'm fully prepared to die a sexless virgin
>t.35 year old virgin loser

>>83063728
How does any of that stop your from having a gf? Seems like excuses

>>83064110
>>83061430
To quote the other anon
>Oh right just let me whip out the girlfriend catalogue and order myself a nice girlfriend from the girlfriend store, and if that doesn't help I'll just go out into the girlfriend vineyard and pick myself a nice girlfriend from a girlfriend tree. Fucking nigger.
I can't even look a girl in the eyes anon. I don't know how to talk to them. What to talk about. How do you even go up to a girl and make her want to talk to you(?). Why would any girl want me out of literally any other guy out there? A fucking hobo living on the streets is a better man than I am.

>>83061420 (OP)
it's too much effort for who i've become. i don't want to meet friends or parents. i don't want to have to do the social dance perfectly just to be half-valued, if that. i don't want to hear about your normal day or whatever surface-level drama there is in your circles. but i don't want to be the center of your world either. i want someone to experience and watch the world with as an equal. not a power couple or a shut-in couple. i don't think that exists for people like me anymore, so i would rather be alone and do what i want in solitude

>>83061420 (OP)
I have never seen a vagina in real life or even talked to a girl outside of school/work situations after I turned 13.
I had 2 girls who were childhood friends that I grew up with, other than that I have had basically no contact with women.

I work as a massage therapist now for 7 years and obviously its a very service oriented work (like a type of a resturant vibe, atleast where I work)
And through that I have chit-chat with alot of diffrent women, but its mostly just focus on the quietness and purpose of the massage thankfully. Something physical which Im more comfortable with and good at, compared to emotions, "vibes", small talk.

I dont feel any stress, I hate society. It is an abomination of what humans were evolved to live in and be with.

>>83061420 (OP)
I think if nature was just going to make me incel, it should've at the very least give me the material to make a successful transition like that chick. I could be getting worshiped by simps and getting destroyed by giant dicks right now instead of posting here.

>>83061420 (OP)
why should I even bother trying when I see my normie friends who mog me in every aspect struggle with this already

>>83061420 (OP)
>Mental Block
Sure, I know for a fact that it's something like this that's holding 99% of anons back. But mental blocks are hard to remove. Mental Illness is harder to deal with than physical illness too. You can remove a Mental Block with enough motivation, support, effort, etc. - but it's hard to be in a position to even tackle that issue, and you're practically helpless to get yourself into position because you're sick in the head to begin with.

Even if you got a woman, got a girlfriend, and assuming this is a good woman and you didn't naively get into a bad relationship... you still gotta put in work. You basically just signed up for a new job, and yeah it will get you out of that mental debt, but only if you continue to work at it. What happens if some bad luck hits and you lose that woman? Now you're in a situation that's hardly different from where you started if you didn't gain enoigh experience to get over your mental block. It doesn't just remove instantly.

Partially not caring and partially being 30lbs overweight. I do attract women but they're always far fatter than me, like very obviously twice my size. Currently on a diet and slowly losing the weight so I can get myself a skinny woman, doesn't matter how skinny she is just has to be smaller than me.

>>83061487
>nice
elaborate on that, can you?

>>83064868
You need me to explain what being nice means?

>>83064906
I know what I mean when I say that, but as for other people, yes, I need an explanation
it's not that simple

>>83061420 (OP)
I literally paid a prostitute and it wasn't that good tbf. Stopped trying to get women after that experience. Either sex sucks or the hoe wasn't really a profesional idk

>>83064868
In womanspeak nice means boring and stable
No drama or uncertainties

>>83064952
there are no women here to speak up, doe

>>83061420 (OP)
I had my first gf since the pandemic earlier this year and she cut me out because she was too neurotic to accept good experiences in life and hope for the future. Everything was great until one day she just snapped and it hasn't returned to how it was. Now she pretends nothing ever even happened. What causes people to act like this?