Thread 83080387

Do BPD girls calm down over time? I've been dating a borderline girl for about a month. I had to go when we were supposed to spend time together because something came up and she was so mad she punched the walls until her hands bled. I'm just like chill out lil homie lol.

>>83080387 (OP)
you are gonna wake up with knife in your chest one day OP

>>83080387 (OP)
Nope, I've met 40+ year old women who are still BPD as fuck
The only thing that can help them is Dialectical Behavior Therapy from a professional, but the majority of them just continue to make everyone around them miserable while being totally convinced that everyone else is the problem

>>83080387 (OP)
No, they escalate, becoming ever more violent and crazy until their lunacy causes a change in circumstances.

>>83080387 (OP)
The ones that do are generally the ones who are self destructive instead of outwardly destructive. (Quiet BPD or whatever its colloquial term is.)

>>83080387 (OP)
Overwhelming dominant energy is what they want out of you. They don't want you to win an argument, you will never win an argument. Set yourself over her with absolute authority or you will be miserable.

She does not know what she wants.

>>83080387 (OP)
How do I meet a girl like that? She sounds cute.

>>83080491
I'm pretty sure I was quiet BPD when I was younger (I'm a dude)
I'm mid thirties now and I have indeed calmed down, but I have also put a considerable amount of effort in introspection and changing certain factors that would exacerbate my symptoms
I legit hated myself for the longest time, but now I have love for myself. The hurt child within is healing.
I don't think your typical BPD female is capable of that sort of introspection though, which is why they need professional help. And no, you cannot save them yourself.

>>83080387 (OP)
>I've been dating
Get out, normie scum

>>83080516
Male BPD and Female BPD are completely different just because typically men have the ability to have deep introspection without killing themselves.

Women have such fragile egos, the moment you remind them that they're not shit, they go downing pills and alcohol.

>>83080387 (OP)
Yes but only if you impregnte them every 2-4 years.

>>83080387 (OP)
no, bpd's are always whiny when even the tiniest thing goes wrong
>t. has bpd bf

>>83080387 (OP)
make her leave you asap dude
start loving her unconditionally
be a golden retriever, a doormat
she will hate you for it
she will start making you hate her so that you can be the bad guy in her narrative
dont do anything stupid obviously just call her someone who cannot be loved typical shit that her girlfriends will support her for leaving you for
you must get out
you must get out
you must get out

>>83080387 (OP)
I've been trying to bait BPDemons into making me their main person and failed miserably. I don't know how you guys do it

>>83081578
Basically just be nice and stable and they'll latch on to you. Assuming they actually like you, of course.

>>83080387 (OP)
Dude no they literally never become "normal" they become those insane unstable middle-aged women you encounter all the time. Never once seen a BPD hoe become normal, they just get worse over time.

>>83081592
I think I'm doormat levels of "nice", but not enough of a people pleaser to actually get my foot in the door.

>>83080387 (OP)
>>83081578
Look man, as someone who was told this by someone else, disagreed with it, and then learnt the hard way that no amoung of compassion, paitence, and support is gonna change things - just withdraw and watch the magic happen.
If I spend too much time with my girl she starts creating problems, she upsets herself over nothing, but guess what, the moment I'm 'too busy' to call for a day or two, suddenly she's back in worship mode. At first I thought it was unethical, but then I realized anon was right. She's happier this way, genuinely. It means less suffering and emotional bullshit for her, it means less of her bullshit for me. If I'm nice and available and supportive she just spirals, if I pull away whenever she starts she pulls herself out and turns up the next day acting sweet and happy.
Like it's the key to all women but with BPD ones even doubly so. Just fucking ignore them and watch the magic happen.