Anonymous
6/22/2025, 2:30:26 AM
No.33256473
>>33256395
>Fair point and comparison. I guess for me the main difference is that you can worry that being short or average height is (next to) universally unappealing to women, whereas it would be pretty far removed from reality to seriously wonder if being white makes you inherently unattractive to many or even most.
While this is true, and there is good evidence that on the basis of being 'white' it shouldn't be too hard to find a partner - the same is arguably true for white men as well, yet you have all these insecure white boys here who are extremely anxious about their ability to find a partner. At the end of the day - both white men and women intuitively know this - there are more traits involved than just skin colour. And people who are already insecure in their mate value, e.g. perpetually single men and women, might actually feel a little (or not so little) sting when they see others performatively dismiss them as potential mates. As usual, it depends on how neurotic people are, how much self-esteem they possess, and so on. Secure people are not going to mind, but the insecure might start catastrophising, in particular when they're extremely online and their only experience with dating, the opposite sex, etc. is from hearsay and the hyperreality of online discourse.
>But you are no doubt right that it is motivated in the same way. Actually your comment made me remember as a teenager who felt too tall and not dainty enough, it definitely made me feel some things to hear men gush over Asian women being so adorably petite.
Yes; the recipient is not always just the target of affection but at times also the group being dismissed as a kind of covert mating strategy to make them insecure and thus less choosy, since choosiness tends to be correlated with self-perceived mate value. I feel similarly about the bodycount/tattoo/piercing/blue-hair/etc. discourse. When people performatively voice such private preferences they are usually pursuing ulterior motives.
>Fair point and comparison. I guess for me the main difference is that you can worry that being short or average height is (next to) universally unappealing to women, whereas it would be pretty far removed from reality to seriously wonder if being white makes you inherently unattractive to many or even most.
While this is true, and there is good evidence that on the basis of being 'white' it shouldn't be too hard to find a partner - the same is arguably true for white men as well, yet you have all these insecure white boys here who are extremely anxious about their ability to find a partner. At the end of the day - both white men and women intuitively know this - there are more traits involved than just skin colour. And people who are already insecure in their mate value, e.g. perpetually single men and women, might actually feel a little (or not so little) sting when they see others performatively dismiss them as potential mates. As usual, it depends on how neurotic people are, how much self-esteem they possess, and so on. Secure people are not going to mind, but the insecure might start catastrophising, in particular when they're extremely online and their only experience with dating, the opposite sex, etc. is from hearsay and the hyperreality of online discourse.
>But you are no doubt right that it is motivated in the same way. Actually your comment made me remember as a teenager who felt too tall and not dainty enough, it definitely made me feel some things to hear men gush over Asian women being so adorably petite.
Yes; the recipient is not always just the target of affection but at times also the group being dismissed as a kind of covert mating strategy to make them insecure and thus less choosy, since choosiness tends to be correlated with self-perceived mate value. I feel similarly about the bodycount/tattoo/piercing/blue-hair/etc. discourse. When people performatively voice such private preferences they are usually pursuing ulterior motives.