Anonymous
6/28/2025, 2:23:17 PM
No.33286502
>>33286468
>why is it bad to have a peer group with high standards though?
Because:
1) you're supposed to be an individual. You're supposed to develop and know your own standards. Adopting other people's, especially our of fear of judgement or people-pleasing is a form of critical weakness. Critically weak people cannot be relied upon to be good husbands/wives/fathers/mothers.
2) That peer group doesn't actually care about you. Friends go bye-bye after 30. Because they eventually all find a home to cultivate a family of their own to raise and tend to. The peer group won't be there for you as you grow old and become vulnerable. A husband & kids can.
Even if you have a family group (mom and dad) who intend to be there for you, they won't be there forever. They will die. And it will happen sooner than you want. Around your 40's or 50's you become an orphan once they drop off. If you don't have a husband and kids by then, you're fucked.
>I just came across this on Twitter.
Try not to outsource your thinking to twitter. The image is baloney. People don't prioritize beauty in mate selection. They prioritize security. Security = divorce doesn't happen, or the partner isn't an abuser, or the partner can provide for their kids. That's what ensures healthy offspring. Beauty doesn't do that. Beauty only helps to attract potential candidates. Keeping a candidate long term requires more than looks, it requires character. If a hot woman or a hot guy has a personality disorder, the game is up. It cannot progress to a healthy stable family. You can spray a turd gold but a gold turd is still a turd.
>I have a loving family ready to help me
Again, they won't be around forever. They die long before you do.
>I can't see myself being a wife of an average man
So far you've only dated less than average as far as relationship quality. That's why they're your exes and why you're single. Regardless of looks.
>why is it bad to have a peer group with high standards though?
Because:
1) you're supposed to be an individual. You're supposed to develop and know your own standards. Adopting other people's, especially our of fear of judgement or people-pleasing is a form of critical weakness. Critically weak people cannot be relied upon to be good husbands/wives/fathers/mothers.
2) That peer group doesn't actually care about you. Friends go bye-bye after 30. Because they eventually all find a home to cultivate a family of their own to raise and tend to. The peer group won't be there for you as you grow old and become vulnerable. A husband & kids can.
Even if you have a family group (mom and dad) who intend to be there for you, they won't be there forever. They will die. And it will happen sooner than you want. Around your 40's or 50's you become an orphan once they drop off. If you don't have a husband and kids by then, you're fucked.
>I just came across this on Twitter.
Try not to outsource your thinking to twitter. The image is baloney. People don't prioritize beauty in mate selection. They prioritize security. Security = divorce doesn't happen, or the partner isn't an abuser, or the partner can provide for their kids. That's what ensures healthy offspring. Beauty doesn't do that. Beauty only helps to attract potential candidates. Keeping a candidate long term requires more than looks, it requires character. If a hot woman or a hot guy has a personality disorder, the game is up. It cannot progress to a healthy stable family. You can spray a turd gold but a gold turd is still a turd.
>I have a loving family ready to help me
Again, they won't be around forever. They die long before you do.
>I can't see myself being a wife of an average man
So far you've only dated less than average as far as relationship quality. That's why they're your exes and why you're single. Regardless of looks.