>>33303148
Wtf this is me exactly. I find it so rare to meet anyone else like this. I used to think there was something wrong with me too, like I was just too sensitive but now I think it's a sign I'm more stable than most people. Because I really want to process my grief and understand and learn from it so I can be a better person with stronger boundaries, clearer wants/needs/values etc and also fully be over someone before I date because I want to commit myself fully to them. The more I meet people and realize what kind of relationships other people are having the more I realize wtf. I am actually the only sane person on Earth. I am the only person who dates for true love and can focus 100% on the other person for who they are. I actually work on myself to be better for them. I put so much effort in. And I'M the abnormal one? No wonder the dating pool is so shit because people like me are apparently rare lol. I used to think this was the norm.
>>33303151
IME BPD people move on immediately by just dating new people and drag all their ex baggage into the new relationship and constantly project their past trauma onto who they're dating. They're needy and constantly change who they are because they don't know what they want and who they are without a partner. It's kinda the exact opposite of what I'm experiencing