Anonymous
7/17/2025, 8:50:18 PM
No.33377983
>>33377861
>I bet you didn't say "You're right, that is a bit weird, I'll delete them."
I deleted it right away in front of her, apologized to her.
As for the last paragraph, I partially agree with you, this was my first gf ever and I didn't know how to react in many situations, the reason I asked her to be my gf in the first place was because I enjoyed her company and spending time together, I guess I just wanted to make it formal. Free sex my ass, we had sex regularly.
>You think it's a red flag because your girlfriend wants to be with you on Valentine's Day?!
I'll straighten this up, the red flag is that I'm always paying for things almost 90% of the times, before and after the trip (disregard the plane tickets and hotel room as this was a gift of course).
She also offered to pay me back half the ticket, I said ok but didn't pressure her into giving me money because I knew her financial situation was fragile, so I told her to focus on getting a job and pay for her credit card instead, and we to deal with the rest later (I never brought this up again though, fuck it)
But even after we got back home, she's not actively looking for a job, or whenever she gets a part-time job offer, she refuses because she thinks it's beneath her. It's one of her attitudes I really dislike, in my mentality when you're in the gutter you take whatever you can. I also forgot to mention I'm not from the States so it's a different reality where I live, I'm not piss poor but I know she comes from a very humble family so I try to help her whenever I can.
Another thing I forgot to say is that she brought up the amount of times we do something for each other and she thinks she's done for me than I did for her, trying to compare each other? I definitely know I did more for her than she did for me
I know I fucked up on many things, I tried to focus on that in the OP because I'm not gonna be looking for praise but it feels unfair and I don't wanna go full chud modo and blame women
>I bet you didn't say "You're right, that is a bit weird, I'll delete them."
I deleted it right away in front of her, apologized to her.
As for the last paragraph, I partially agree with you, this was my first gf ever and I didn't know how to react in many situations, the reason I asked her to be my gf in the first place was because I enjoyed her company and spending time together, I guess I just wanted to make it formal. Free sex my ass, we had sex regularly.
>You think it's a red flag because your girlfriend wants to be with you on Valentine's Day?!
I'll straighten this up, the red flag is that I'm always paying for things almost 90% of the times, before and after the trip (disregard the plane tickets and hotel room as this was a gift of course).
She also offered to pay me back half the ticket, I said ok but didn't pressure her into giving me money because I knew her financial situation was fragile, so I told her to focus on getting a job and pay for her credit card instead, and we to deal with the rest later (I never brought this up again though, fuck it)
But even after we got back home, she's not actively looking for a job, or whenever she gets a part-time job offer, she refuses because she thinks it's beneath her. It's one of her attitudes I really dislike, in my mentality when you're in the gutter you take whatever you can. I also forgot to mention I'm not from the States so it's a different reality where I live, I'm not piss poor but I know she comes from a very humble family so I try to help her whenever I can.
Another thing I forgot to say is that she brought up the amount of times we do something for each other and she thinks she's done for me than I did for her, trying to compare each other? I definitely know I did more for her than she did for me
I know I fucked up on many things, I tried to focus on that in the OP because I'm not gonna be looking for praise but it feels unfair and I don't wanna go full chud modo and blame women