I have been dating my girlfriend for four months now, and she complains and gets emotionally upset about her ex (often to the point of tears) almost daily. As context, her ex and her dated for around 3 years and they were engaged for the last yearish. Their engagement broke off in January and we met in March. At first I was accepting and would listen as she vented, but the near daily occurrence of this is getting to be draining and I feel its a strain on our relationship. Its selfish, but it bothers me at this point, and I wish she would focus on our relationship now rather than be consumed by the negative emotions she feels around her past relationship. In all other ways this person is pretty much perfect for me, I just wish she could get past this.