Anonymous
8/26/2025, 2:06:42 AM
No.33565582
>>33565401
>no you will not suddenly stop liking him no matter what you do, people don't work that way.
thanks for being honest. i still want to see if i can stop having the crush simply put, but i do see your point and it's not like i've had much success so far with just trying to will the crush into nonexistence basically.
i wouldn't ever cheat though. i'm a very high inhib sort of person. back when i met my bf (and had a big crush on him, he was my first adult crush) and hadn't ever been with anyone, i did continually keep up the boundary that i didn't want to do anything sexual before we were in a committed relationship together, gf/bf. and i did keep up that boundary despite being a single khhv and having my now bf wanting to move things forward, i still knew who i was and said no/didn't do anything with my bf until i felt it was right. even if i have a crush on someone the barrier to doing anything about it for me is very big. basically, i would never cheat.
sometimes i do kind of wonder if my bf suspects something and maybe even he is aware i might have a crush but is also aware i would never act on something like that.
for example he is a very confident guy, but a few times already he has expressed insecurity about this specific friend, which to me felt like he was trying to say something more too, like "i know my friend does better than me in this aspect of life (the thing he was insecure about), but i hope you don't care about that". and to be clear i don't. he had never before been vocally insecure about anyone he knows, and i know my bf quite well from all these years, so it did feel like there was more that he didn't say. basically what i mean is that i have a small suspicion from different things that he might already suspect something but hasn't said it for whatever reason. i could be wrong of course but i do have that suspicion recently, and it has made me think even more on ways to stop having the crush.
>no you will not suddenly stop liking him no matter what you do, people don't work that way.
thanks for being honest. i still want to see if i can stop having the crush simply put, but i do see your point and it's not like i've had much success so far with just trying to will the crush into nonexistence basically.
i wouldn't ever cheat though. i'm a very high inhib sort of person. back when i met my bf (and had a big crush on him, he was my first adult crush) and hadn't ever been with anyone, i did continually keep up the boundary that i didn't want to do anything sexual before we were in a committed relationship together, gf/bf. and i did keep up that boundary despite being a single khhv and having my now bf wanting to move things forward, i still knew who i was and said no/didn't do anything with my bf until i felt it was right. even if i have a crush on someone the barrier to doing anything about it for me is very big. basically, i would never cheat.
sometimes i do kind of wonder if my bf suspects something and maybe even he is aware i might have a crush but is also aware i would never act on something like that.
for example he is a very confident guy, but a few times already he has expressed insecurity about this specific friend, which to me felt like he was trying to say something more too, like "i know my friend does better than me in this aspect of life (the thing he was insecure about), but i hope you don't care about that". and to be clear i don't. he had never before been vocally insecure about anyone he knows, and i know my bf quite well from all these years, so it did feel like there was more that he didn't say. basically what i mean is that i have a small suspicion from different things that he might already suspect something but hasn't said it for whatever reason. i could be wrong of course but i do have that suspicion recently, and it has made me think even more on ways to stop having the crush.