Anonymous
10/14/2025, 7:09:44 AM
No.33804540
>>33804406
>>33804467
Yeah, see, breaking down only two weeks in is considered dropping your spaghetti. Your inner turmoil shouldn't be anyone's business until you've known them for awhile, a month minimum, and you're vibing really well and you know them. But don't beat yourself up over it. I've done the same shit and that's why I can give you advice. You sound like where I was a few years ago.
And yeah, that IS kind of fucked up. Don't tell her what she can and can't do. Relationshits are about trust. The way I've learned to see it and the way you need to see it is, if she cheats on you, she's weeded herself out for you. You don't have to give rules to good women because if they like you, they're going to treat you right. If a woman is hanging out with other men frequently and not trying to involve you or reassure you that they're friendzoned, they're not really girlfriend material to begin with.
Of course, setting ground rules at the beginning is different, like "I prefer X over Y" and etc, but don't be ordering women around or they'll run off. Giving rules shows that you have self confidence issues. The only thing you should really be discussing is things that you appreciate and things that bother you, and it should be a discussion, not a demand. You'll have to take the L on this one.
TL;DR; a woman that really likes you will treat you with respect right out of the gate. The only thing you fine-tune in a relationship is by sharing specific things you like and dislike. Never assume they can read your mind. But within the first month or two, you're supposed to be just hanging out, having fun, and getting to know each other. Your issues shouldn't even be coming up until it's time to get serious.
Part of the problem is probably because you're putting all of your eggs in one basket. Don't just focus on one girl if she's not going to do the same for you. Have plenty of women you're friends with and can flirt with. Don't let her be your end-all til it's serious.
>>33804467
Yeah, see, breaking down only two weeks in is considered dropping your spaghetti. Your inner turmoil shouldn't be anyone's business until you've known them for awhile, a month minimum, and you're vibing really well and you know them. But don't beat yourself up over it. I've done the same shit and that's why I can give you advice. You sound like where I was a few years ago.
And yeah, that IS kind of fucked up. Don't tell her what she can and can't do. Relationshits are about trust. The way I've learned to see it and the way you need to see it is, if she cheats on you, she's weeded herself out for you. You don't have to give rules to good women because if they like you, they're going to treat you right. If a woman is hanging out with other men frequently and not trying to involve you or reassure you that they're friendzoned, they're not really girlfriend material to begin with.
Of course, setting ground rules at the beginning is different, like "I prefer X over Y" and etc, but don't be ordering women around or they'll run off. Giving rules shows that you have self confidence issues. The only thing you should really be discussing is things that you appreciate and things that bother you, and it should be a discussion, not a demand. You'll have to take the L on this one.
TL;DR; a woman that really likes you will treat you with respect right out of the gate. The only thing you fine-tune in a relationship is by sharing specific things you like and dislike. Never assume they can read your mind. But within the first month or two, you're supposed to be just hanging out, having fun, and getting to know each other. Your issues shouldn't even be coming up until it's time to get serious.
Part of the problem is probably because you're putting all of your eggs in one basket. Don't just focus on one girl if she's not going to do the same for you. Have plenty of women you're friends with and can flirt with. Don't let her be your end-all til it's serious.