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from what i've heard, that can have the reverse effect as they're in a rush to get married and once they do they realise they're not made for one another, it's not like op was explicitly against intimacy, it sounds like delaying the issue.
presenting alternative also increases risk of being approached by degens, unfortunately. best thing to do is become emotionally girlboss to protect yourself, don't let bad people change your self-expression