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I was really excited about a woman I was dating, she's intelligent, has a great career, pretty, and could make me laugh. Plus she was very excited about me too, every date she'd talk about the next date and we were both having fun.

Then one evening at her place we started getting into a deeper conversation about how we'd raise our potential kids. She said "I want to raise my kids without pronouns for the first few years of their life, but I'm worried about bullying"

I am adamantly opposed to that and I had to let her know that. We had a long but polite discussion about our views on gender and sex and basically I believe in traditional masculinity while she is more about gender exploration and stuff like that.

The strangest part is during our debate where I was disagreeing with her, I noticed she kept glancing at my lips, and during a pause in the debate she asked me to make out lmao? Anyway the night ended fine, I could tell she was conflicted but she still liked me.

Few days later and I got a break up text, she basically said our views are too different. I agree with her I guess, but part of me keeps wondering what if I'd just shut up and given some diplomatic or non-committal answer, and then tried to change her view over time? Maybe with more context and more emotional investment she'd change her perspective?

Any anons ever deal with this level of values/perspective dissonance with their partner? Any thoughts or advice?