We could give you the real answer, but you don't deserve it. If you're smart you can fill in the gaps. Look at disconnected people long enough and you'll know why they all gravitate toward introspective activity and why they give up after being ignored some years. Women always expect men to pursue and figure out their little mindgames, if you understand how they work then you will have developed the intuition to interpret the will disengaged people, not just men either.