I have a half feminist and half misogynist opinion on the Janel Grant situation. I believe that women are literally less capable of making important decisions than men, and so it's your responsibility to make sure that she'll be happy after she has sex with you, and not just that she's willing to consent. If she willingly has sex with you and regrets it the next day, rape is the wrong word for it, but it's still your responsibility to not let her make a decision she'll regret.