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So the therapist proceeds to explain to us that she has seen a decent number of people over the years just like us: brothers, sisters, parents, children, cousins, etc. She says the first thing the remember is to reframe these feelings away from "wrong" and "bad" to "misdirected". The shame is the problem, not the feelings. There are no shameful behaviors, only desired and undesired ways of being. More shit about chakras and energy profiles and how my mom has a strong feminine aura or whatever. I kinda can't believe what I'm hearing, but again my mom is eating it all up.

So my mom finally asks what we should do to fix this issue and the therapist literally told her it's not really a problem, it's only an issue because we don't desire it. She said that it's natural for feminine and masculine energies to "play off" each other like this, even in situations between family, and that it's impossible to change our inherent natures altogether. But rather we need to learn to redirect my "nature" in the direction we want. But our time was basically up and she gave us homework and told us to come back in a week or two. My homework was "describe traits you find attractive about the feminine". My mom's was similar, but for the opposite gender.

I don't think this was a real doctor, and I have no idea what an actual psychologist or whatever would say about my situation, but ironically I think this woo woo new age nonsense has helped patch some holes in my relationship with my mom. We got lunch afterwards and it felt pretty normal again with her. So we will probably go to this therapist a few more times, "redirect" my obsessions, and then hopefully move on with my life and never bring this up ever again.