Anonymous
7/9/2025, 4:14:03 PM
No.81766639
>>81766547
>I'm also not op.
My mistake then, but the answer is like I said though. People who had bad things happen to them carry a lot of negative feelings. They feel wronged and betrayed by those who didn't stop the abuse, and they feel anger towards their abusers.
This often manifests in lashing out at people who aren't the source of that abuse, or avoiding them. It also makes someone guarded against good new experiences because of the fear of being hurt. We can see it manifest here already by someone else in the thread mentioning forgiveness, and OP immediately assuming them to be an abuser or hostile force. Despite this actually being reasonable (but difficult) advice, because doing that involves letting go of the negative feelings harming them.
Holding onto anger and bad feelings is a major source of the pain and hurt of being abused and it poisons all future interactions and dealings with life.
>I'm also not op.
My mistake then, but the answer is like I said though. People who had bad things happen to them carry a lot of negative feelings. They feel wronged and betrayed by those who didn't stop the abuse, and they feel anger towards their abusers.
This often manifests in lashing out at people who aren't the source of that abuse, or avoiding them. It also makes someone guarded against good new experiences because of the fear of being hurt. We can see it manifest here already by someone else in the thread mentioning forgiveness, and OP immediately assuming them to be an abuser or hostile force. Despite this actually being reasonable (but difficult) advice, because doing that involves letting go of the negative feelings harming them.
Holding onto anger and bad feelings is a major source of the pain and hurt of being abused and it poisons all future interactions and dealings with life.