>>82091966
I completely agree with you.
I'm purely commenting on your usage of the phrase "overall consensus" as it's a linguistic pet peeve of mine.

>>82091964
Men won't typically lie to you about such things, especially early on in the relationship.
>Hey I have [feature you don't like]
>oh huh. thanks for telling me I guess? (most neutral outcome, he doesn't care)
>YES (obviously he likes it)
>Ah... (doesn't like it)
There's zero real reason to lie as a man here.
>but what if he just wants to fuck me and leave?!
You have SO many other things to consider when worrying about that, first of which the vast majority of men wouldn't be sticking around for a LONG period of time just for casual sex. Ergo don't be promiscuous and your fear is largely averted.
Not to mention that a guy can have a preference and still date a girl who doesn't match his preference if he likes her enough.