Yep. When i started high school in 2016 i decided i've had enough of being a bullied scrawny lanky kid and started spending all my time bettering myself. Started lifting, kickboxing, taking violin and music theory practice seriously, studying and going to comptitions in STEM subjects. Now i graduated a master's in mathematics and will start my doctorate in 2 months, working at the institute, in a professional choir that tpurs all over the world, have a 4-0 amateur record, bench 130 kilo and have a sixpack...
And still a friendless khhv incel like i was 9 years ago. I just don't understand human relationships, i'm not ugly, i'm very tall, even extroverted, always the first to approach, first to organise a get-together, give speeches at events etc. Yet people completely avoid me. And on top of that i have possivle the worst luck in the world. When i entered uni was during the height of covid so there were no student clubs or activities. Since i finished music school, i revived the university choir. Handed out pamphlets, found a conductor, everything... And like 10 people came, 3 of which were women, 2 of which were 50+ professors. Eventually a few more joined, and i tried to make friends. But nobody wanted to hang out with me oitside of choir. 2 years ago i left to try out for the big symphonic professional choir i'm in now, and INSTANTLY like 10 single women my age joined the student choir. Same thing happened in all of my other hobbies. Never met any women, just guys.