Anonymous
8/25/2025, 4:44:25 AM
No.82292865
>>82291967
>Do you have a good idea of how to do that better?
Sure, one way to do so is that you inquire into what their interests are and what they made an effort at, and compliment whatever that is. If they fixed their car, you tell them how cool that is or ask them about what kind of car it is and compliment it. If they read a book, you ask them about the subject and imply they are intelligent or responsible or you express interest in the subject matter and ask for a summary. Classic encouraging phrases such as "attaboy" or "way to go" tell them they're killing it, etc. People being aware that you are just trying to encourage them does not diminish the effect. What matters is that you encourage them along the grain of whatever they are applying effort to do. This is my personal general rule for compliments. For instance, it's uncouth to compliment a girl on her looks, that's shallow, one exception is when he knows she put effort into how she looks. People appreciate compliments along the grain of their own intentions and their appreciation of the compliment is directly proportional to the amount of work the complimented person put into it.
>Do you have a good idea of how to do that better?
Sure, one way to do so is that you inquire into what their interests are and what they made an effort at, and compliment whatever that is. If they fixed their car, you tell them how cool that is or ask them about what kind of car it is and compliment it. If they read a book, you ask them about the subject and imply they are intelligent or responsible or you express interest in the subject matter and ask for a summary. Classic encouraging phrases such as "attaboy" or "way to go" tell them they're killing it, etc. People being aware that you are just trying to encourage them does not diminish the effect. What matters is that you encourage them along the grain of whatever they are applying effort to do. This is my personal general rule for compliments. For instance, it's uncouth to compliment a girl on her looks, that's shallow, one exception is when he knows she put effort into how she looks. People appreciate compliments along the grain of their own intentions and their appreciation of the compliment is directly proportional to the amount of work the complimented person put into it.