>>82308763
When it comes to the forruns, I do want them to feel passively uncomfortable.
This is ultimately how you keep the peace with people. You draw a line in the sand, and you say "you behave, or you go somewhere else".
The stupid thing we've been doing for about the past thirty or forty years is inviting the whole world in, and making them feel so welcome they think they can push us around.
That kind of thing isn't the basis of a proper relationship. It's the beginnings of an abusive relationship.