>>82765634
You call it love, but it's control. You want to "intertwine your soul" but can't accept her body or her past as part of the deal.
You're not on the opposite spectrum; you're on the same one. You've just replaced their rage with a sacred, untouchable ideal. The result is the same: you would rather let your own mind torture you than see the woman you "love" as a full, real human being with sexual agency.
Your "pure" love sounds like a prison for both of you.