Self-reflection can be important, just don't "over-think" or overdo it.
>You sound pretty negative almost only negative like neurotic or something. That probably isn't helping you, but, you can get better if you work on it.
So what I said here is a critique of you right? That's potentially offensive and while I'm basically "complaining" about you being "too negative" my post is half negative and only half positive.

It can be super hard to understand or intuit on-the-spot how someone might feel, but, we all have the ability in us. You just have to focus on it. It's like a "feeling" sort of like an emotion, just let yourself feel it. That's the key to forming emotional connections with people.

Once you figure out what "feeling" in you you're looking for you don't need to focus hard or like "lock on". Just relax and sort of "go with the flow". It isn't going to sneak away and abandon you, it is YOU. All you have to do is be aware of how you feel and learn to accommodate the feelings that tell you "they like this" or "they might not like that".

Try to just follow "your heart" so to speak. Do what seems right. If it doesn't work, say "that didn't feel like it worked."

Do not conclude something. Don't try put it to words, just FEEL IT. Then try again but try something a bit different. Keep trying.