Anonymous
10/18/2025, 5:55:09 AM
No.82835826
>>82835379
Honestly? This is not something you can share with anyone but law enforcement, a lawyer specializing in these types of cases, or a licensed therapist who has been trained in trauma informed care for CSA.
A partner will 99.99% of the time not grasp how profoundly damaging that type of abuse is nor have anywhere near the capability to cope with it let alone help. They won't understand you better from knowing and they won't have more patience, if anything they'll just be confused.
Dealing with rape is hard enough for any partner to understand, dealing with rape as a child is basically like a color out of space to them. It's as close to an encounter with incomprehensible suffering as a human can come.
As much as we would like to believe that other humans have a limitless amount of help they can offer their loved ones the truth is they really don't. I am not saying this to be mean, I just want to say that most likely what would happen if you told your partner is they would have a negative reaction towards you. Not your experience, but you. It sucks, it is horrible, but that is how it will most likely go.
The good news is you have no responsibility or obligation to share it with anyone if you do not want to. Your partner has no right to know about your past in that way.
Honestly? This is not something you can share with anyone but law enforcement, a lawyer specializing in these types of cases, or a licensed therapist who has been trained in trauma informed care for CSA.
A partner will 99.99% of the time not grasp how profoundly damaging that type of abuse is nor have anywhere near the capability to cope with it let alone help. They won't understand you better from knowing and they won't have more patience, if anything they'll just be confused.
Dealing with rape is hard enough for any partner to understand, dealing with rape as a child is basically like a color out of space to them. It's as close to an encounter with incomprehensible suffering as a human can come.
As much as we would like to believe that other humans have a limitless amount of help they can offer their loved ones the truth is they really don't. I am not saying this to be mean, I just want to say that most likely what would happen if you told your partner is they would have a negative reaction towards you. Not your experience, but you. It sucks, it is horrible, but that is how it will most likely go.
The good news is you have no responsibility or obligation to share it with anyone if you do not want to. Your partner has no right to know about your past in that way.